What Is Borderline Personality Disorder | BetterHelp

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Borderline Personality Disorder is a severe mental illness that needs the treatment of a licensed mental health professional. Individuals with BPD have difficulty managing their emotions and often struggle to maintain long-lasting relationships including friendships and romantic partners.
One of the reasons it’s difficult for someone with Borderline to stay in healthy relationships is because of their difficulty with emotional regulation. Friends and intimate partners may have trouble knowing what to do when their loved one with BPD is suffering from mood shifts.

Many people with BPD experience intense, painful emotional states that they have trouble tolerating. One moment they may become furious and lash out in rage, and the next minute they’ve switched from anger to sadness. It can be hard to keep track of their emotions as their loved one because they are struggling to figure out their feelings out as well. Individuals with BPD often place people on pedestals when they love them, and if that person does something where they feel betrayed in the slightest, that love turns quickly to hate.

Those with Borderline Personality Disorder often struggle with self-destructive behavior such as self-harm because their pain is so intense and overwhelming. They hurt themselves to try to feel something other than emotional distress. One of the most effective forms of therapy for people with Borderline Personality Disorder is called DBT or Dialectal Behavior Therapy.

It teaches people with BPD to regulate their emotions and think before they take out their feelings on others. If you are living with Borderline, there is help out there. You may experience emotions intensely, and that could be painful, but you can learn to tolerate your feelings with the help of a skilled therapist.

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[Guppymcjack]

‘Please reach out, you don’t have to do this alone’....
If you’ve got money

[dulynoted]

I’ve been with a girl who has BPD. It hasn’t been easy, but in no way have I ever forgotten it’s hard for her more than I know. She has all my heart and I’ll do anything I can to make it easier for her.

[astridgullden]

In the case of this disorder, the patient's self-image is distorted, making him feel worthless and fundamentally imperfect. Anger, impulsivity and frequent mood swings can keep it away from others, although the patient desperately desires affectionate relationships.

[tessakrumpeltree]

I’m not sure how unique her insights are but I must say she is the first person I’ve heard in over 50 years who has ever said a nice word about bpd clients. Usually, we are the scourge of both practitioners and family/friends (OK, she got there eventually —and I can’t argue with that—but she didn’t start there.). Thank you.

[Lokiigoggles]

You’ll go from so happy the best happy you can be everything gorgeous and perfect then 7 minutes go by and your ready to die because of the emotional pain.

[BobJONes-lotg]

As someone diagnosed with BPD, I can say she explained the disorder just about as well as you can

[fiachramacaonrae]

Everyone I've met diagnosed with borderline personality disorder is a beautiful caring human being.

[adamcurtis]

Diagnosed this year. I feel so ashamed. So lost and so alone. To know I'll be like this forever and how difficult it would ever be to be with me.

[kkmesquita]

I suffer from bpd and it was very painful and frustrating to live with it util I was properly diagnosed about 3 years ago. Getting my diagnosis was so liberating to me, because it finally showed me that I wasn’t a bad person and I wasn’t crazy and that there’s actually nothing wrong with me. Since I was diagnosed, I’ve been on the correct medication and going to therapy every week. I must say that the treatment changed my life entirely. All my relationships benefitted from it, they are healthier, more stable and a lot lighter for me and people around me. I still struggle, I have good moments and really bad ones too, but my life has definitely changed for the better.

[luciebourdouxhe]

I paused after 1 minute. She got me in tears...
I'm really down these days and hearing that from a doctor is a first for me.
It makes me think that maybe, maybe, I'm not as bad as I think I am.
Thank you Doc..

[Hayden-qxjv]

Borderline personality disorder is being a good person, and not fitting in. Realizing you have to act tough so people don't bully you, be an extrovert so people don't think you're weird, being cruel to fit in, and having to create a personality to be just like these evil people. Then realizing you don't want to be that and going back to your original personality before society shuns you again forcing you to keep going back and forth like a tennis ball. Don't let these evil people convince you that you're sick. We have a gift ✊😤

[markolive]

My partner had this, He was a beautiful loving man.
But all my love & his Daughters wasn't enough to save him.
I feel so useless.
He commited suicide 2 weeks ago.

[burtz]

I was diagnosed with BPD. Im a 39y old male that looks like he owns the world..looks. This video made me tear up. Such a well done video to explain what it is...I couldnt say in my own words what It felt like to explain to someone having BPD. Thank you for posting this, this is something I wanted to say in words like that for years.

[lolawolfe]

I hate when they say we either think someone is the greatest person in the world, but then can turn to the most hated person in the world. I have bpd and the greatest person in the world to me is my dad always! Even when I'm at my worst I never feel negatively toward him. He is my absolute rock! We can argue till the cows come home but I love him more than anything.

[Riatzi]

I have a good friend who has bpd. It can be quite hard and sometimes even painful. It takes a lot of conscious effort and communication to make sense of it all sometimes. Yet he is a wonderful person, extremely generous, helpful and caring.

[mikeshargent]

As far as i know, Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness. It can not only cause a great deal of suffering, but it also carries a high risk of suicide. Anyone diagnosed with BPD needs specifically targeted treatment... Thanks for the video !

[baileymasters]

I was diagnosed with BPD at age 12 but I have had symptoms since I was 5 and over the years especially last year and this year in the pandemic I lost a lot of friends and I sort of spiralled into a deep empty hole but I have a found my best friend for life and he has changed my life for the better ☺️

If you struggle with BPD too remember you aren’t alone reply to this comment if you need a friend who will understand you 🙂 love u all keep fighting

[Sameoldfitup]

"We are each our own devil, and we make this world our hell."
Oscar Wilde.

[sassyslsgrl]

I am a forty year old woman with BPD (among other things). I want to say I very much appreciate this video acknowledging that BPD sufferers specifically, and mentally ill people in general, are complex human beings. We have unique challenges to overcome --in the case of BPD, one of those is interpreting situations and another is controlling our emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. We are not monsters, we are not all diabolical destructive heartless supervillains. More often than not, we are human beings who try very hard to communicate with others and control ourselves. Often we do not even know when are being manipulative because we do not understand it themselves. Even after that shocking realization that you are your own problem and that you are being hard on others it is easy to accidentally continue those behaviors with the best intentions because training yourself to see things completely differently and interact with others with better understanding and constantly keeping yourself both in control and not overcontrolled so you don't wind up blowing up is not only exhausting, it is REALLY REALLY HARD. Once you finally figure out the situation, It takes forever to retrain yourself, to forgive yourself for being different, and to believe that you really can change for the better then the rest of your life you learn and perfect how to actually consistently do so. So to all those that think "I have known a BPD person and I know all about it, they are evil heartless and manipulative" (which I am saddened to see in these comments but not surprised)---you are seeing things from a very narrow and oversimplified perspective and it is actually completely inaccurate. Most BPD actually care FAR more than most how others feel, they just cannot always see that they are what is bringing about a situation. They are reacting to the situation as they see and feel it, which often has very little to do with the reality you are experiencing. It is not about caring too little but too much. Of course there are jerks in any group, and us BPD sufferers can sure find ourselves being an absolute mess and hurting others doing so, but it is NOT that we are all monsters. There is a difference in being so overwhelmed with your own suffering and feeling victimized that you can barely see past it to another, much less understand another, and so selfish you do ot those harmed by a BPD sufferer, You have a right to healthy boundaries and to not being railroaded by a BPD, but do NOT assume because you were that you understand them and their motivations, or that they are all Love to my fellow over.

[VampiraVonGhoulscout]

Thank you for being so nice about it. You will not believe the amount of videos portraying us as these unbearable monsters who should never be shown love and should be left to suffer alone.