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The Royal We has helped Millions to escape the grip of narcissistic abuse. Here’s a deeper look into what narcissistic abuse looks like and steps to heal from it... It’s Okay to Admit You Hate the Narcissist’s Behavior

Narcissistic abuse looks like:

Lack of Empathy: Narcissists often show little to no empathy for others, making it easy for them to manipulate and exploit. Narcissists use various tactics such as gaslighting, love bombing, and devaluation to control and dominate their victims.

Common Tactics Used in Narcissistic Abuse:

Gaslighting: Making the victim doubt their own reality and sanity.
Love Bombing: Showering the victim with excessive attention and affection to gain control.

Devaluation: Undermining the victim’s self-worth through criticism, belittling, and emotional neglect.

Isolation: Cutting the victim off from their support systems to increase dependency on the abuser.

Triangulation: Using others to create jealousy or competition, keeping the victim feeling insecure.
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

How to begin healing from narcissistic abuse:
Understand that you have been enduring narcissistic abuse. This awareness is the first step toward healing.

Get Help:

Establish No Contact or Low Contact:

Limit or completely cut off communication with the narcissistic abuser. This helps you gain emotional distance and begin your healing journey.
Rebuild Your Self-Esteem:

Engage in activities that boost your confidence and self-worth. Surround yourself with supportive, positive people who value and respect you.
Educate Yourself:

Learn about narcissistic abuse and its effects. Knowledge is empowering and can help you recognize patterns and avoid future toxic relationships.
Practice Self-Care:

Prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Regular exercise, a healthy diet, adequate sleep, and mindfulness practices can all contribute to your recovery.
Set Boundaries:

Develop and maintain healthy boundaries in all your relationships.

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[freedomwarrior]

Church really isn't the best example, because narcissists thrive in the Church and it's filled with them.

[lorrainehewlett]

About the damage and destruction they cause, they are self-aware but don’t care.

[smustipher]

A narc relative who is retired (and broke due to fiscal mismanagement) attempted to gain gaurdianship over a relative who was rendered disabled by a serious injury. They did not discuss this with anyone, including the relative, but were working behind the scenes. When this relative appointed me to be their fiduciary, the narc FLIPPED OUT. Accused me of "using" the relative and called me every name in the book, and launched a spectacular smear campaign. Said that I "ruined everything" (aka their plan to live off my relative's disability checks). They were orginally planning to take the relative into their home to look after them during their recovery, but, once they learned that Inwas the fiduciary, changed their mind and stood them up at the hospital on the discharge day. I have been overseeing the care since then and have spent enough to buy a house. But the family has been convinced that I am a theif. They are "worried" about the relative I am looking after, yet no one calls or visits. Narcissistic abuse at it's finest.

[grantaugustyniak]

Have a few aging Narcs that have came a calling in my life as you speak now. Boundaries, Saying No & telling them what you will do & will not do for them. Same folks that never took a day in their life for anyone else unless it benefited them in some way. I’m blessed to be able to say NO with no remorse at all.

[writer]

My aging parents are suddenly super nice and sweet-talking, trying to get my siblings and I to buy them more premium life insurance (because they never saved up for any of this). But they're not dying any time soon, so they'll flip back to the nasty, grouchy folks they've always been, nagging, criticizing, you name it. That was over a year ago, right before I cut them off from my life. They can pass on knowing I won't be at their funerals.

[mikedoyle]

You don't have to be a narcissist to know that the world is turning to crap.

[bip-someandnone]

The narc never forgives you. The aging narc is worse and there are a lot of deathbed “confessions” which the narc reveals ALL of the issues their heart. They show resentment and they revealed the reasons such as telling their daughter “I wish I had a boy instead “. The bitterness grows very strong near the “end”

[InvisibleWarrior]

This is what I have observed as well. It seems like there comes that day - maybe at 60 or so where these people realize they have run out of time to lay that foundation most people have been working on for decades and the panic really sets in. At that point they do go into overdrive trying to figure out who is going to be willing to babysit them for the rest of their lives. God help you if you get sucked into such a mess. Because it’s not going to be easy to extricate yourself from it.

[jill]

Looking for a nurse and a purse💯‼️✔️✔️ precisely
This was my NARC
True True and more True
I like the way you present this

[privateprivate]

My neighbor went into survival mode. Took a sudden interest in me, when she realized she retired early, without a plan and, then, I started WFH at the start of the pandemic. I guess she thought God gave me to her, as an appliance, of course. Tried to morph into a pseudo mother. Told her no and that was The End.

I’m not a narcissist. But I am a prepper and the world is in decline actually.

[balanceskateboarding]

We need a PART 2 on how to handle the dying narc. Plz

[blessed]

Kevin thank you for all you share. Your own situation with your Dad and knowing you really understand helps me not feel alone. Going through a family member who now also has the dementia along side the NPD. It is surreal.

[Shenanigans_Afoot]

Oh my, this made me realize what my NM is doing with my niece. She has custody and refers to herself and my niece as the ‘throwaway children’ because nobody wants to help them. This is incredibly abusive to my niece as she’s only 13 and will get sucked into taking care of Grandma.
I hate the term throwaway child because she actually did that to ME as a child and didn’t provide much. Now she expects people to take care of her. She’s 60 now.
Our last conversation was her telling me how I’m her favorite one to talk to. But just a month before said I judge her all the time. Manipulation at its finest.

[christinerobertson]

My mother is a vicious, dangerous, , heinous monster.

[umelokarnes]

My narcissist ex husband die 2/8/24. He died blind, sick and alone. Probably had been died a while since his children ( from a previous marriage, )had a graveside funeral. When I heard I felt nothing! He was definitely a narcissistic phycopath. All I could say was thank you God! No more fear of him trying to find me! 😢

[NinaYsabelle]

He discarded me right after Christmas over a simple argument and told me that I am getting tired of his condition so it was better for me to pack up my things and leave. We were together for 4 years and I was always there for him. He is 69 yo and getting cancer treatment and I was his main support.

[timegoesby]

Folks, please read PEOPLE OF THE LIE. This book help understanding the pact narcissists make wt demons, explains everything about the incongruent /malicious/ manipulative behaviors, the destruction they cause in their life and the life of others. This book actually cleared my mind !

[theyjustwantyourmoney]

I worked as a carer looking after one elderly narcissistic resident who resented her aging, she hated young ladies and would say comments that showed she felt she did not deserve to be old.

[mattmerkel]

They don’t need to be aging or dying to be incredibly paranoid. Mine was on a tirade 24/7 about the imminent collapse of society, the economy, the environment, etc.

[grapejuice]

I will say father was a full blown narcissist who at the age of 77 just passed away on hospice care in my living room less than 24 hrs ago. It was the most miserable debilitating 4 yrs of my life dealing with him because he had abused and sadisticly harmed his family to the point that NOBODY wanted to deal with him or wanted to be around him.
And he didnt think that someday he would need us. He didnt think that some day he would want our love.
About a yr ago he started begging us to love him and forgive him....but he would never say what he was sorry for....because he wasnt sorry. He was just old and dying and no one really cared. So now that hes gone....maybe we can start to heal from the trauma.
Please be careful how you treat others....cus someday you might need them