10 Signs Between Genuine and Fake Friends

Are you wondering if you have a fake friendship? Fake friends are people who pretend to care about you, but in reality, fake people are self interested. Some things fake friends do include being nice to you, but not nice to others, acting like they care, but talk gossips etc. In this video, we cover some of the signs of fake friends, or fake people and the difference between genuine and fake people.

Disclaimer: Generally, it is best to avoid viewing and categorizing people into dichotomies. People are more complex, and sometimes show both negative and positive traits in their personalities. However, in rare cases, you may come across people who are exactly what you think they are.

Writer: Sara Del Villar
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[drinasun]

I have dealt with fake people before. They were only nice to me when they wanted something from me. I began resenting them for asking so much of me, and as soon as I graduated, I immediately cut them off.

[inyouall]

*A TIP* : Don't rush into a relationship. It's important, to have a positive relationship with yourself before you can have a serious, lasting relationship with someone else.

[DeRez]

From my experience, being "too nice" attracts these types of people a LOT. I used to be a big pushover; I did not know how to be nice while also respecting myself. However, I eventually started being more independent and vocal, which actually scared those people away from me. This also made me more respected and it is helping me find right people in my life. I have not been oblivious to people's true intentions for a while, now. I advise everyone to know when to say "no, " as you have every right to do so.

[betteralphaadvice]

Fake friends are like shadows : always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hours.
True friends are like stars, you don't see them but they are always there.

[khalilahd.]

I hate how many friends have fallen into this category over the years but I’m glad I’ve been about to learn who is truly my friend and who is not 💛

[datboi]

1. fake people dole out insincere sympathy 0:54
2. fake people avoid accountability 1:22
3. fake people do not make good friends 1:43
4. fake people are usually self-interested 2:09
5. fake people seek to take credit from others 2:39
6. fake people tend to not value honesty 3:01
7. they usually lead people on 3:16
8. fake people are attracted to power 3:29
9. fake people seldom commit 3:56
10. fake people frquently engage in gossip 4:16
I hope I could help!

[ericlee]

Tip: when facing situations with ‘fake friends, ’ it is important to always stay cool and be kind, whilst letting them know what you want to express. Be firm but respectful!
Please don’t try to take revenge or such measures. Always live life as what is satisfactory to you.
Stay cool like Gojo.

[ayamaitham]

The funny thing is I didn’t watch this video to check if i have fake friends, I watched it to check if i am a fake friend

[nekomaige]

Even though all of this is true we have to remember that this doesn’t define a person. They’re human too and may not realize how they’re treating you or making you feel and you can easily turn a fake friend into a real one just by talking to them about it. That’s how I got my best friend after all.

[lunaloud]

I can't believe this is how I treat my friend and I never even noticed it. I always said I was busy, when in fact, Im not. I feel really guilty about what I have been and I don't think I can even consider myself as a friend anymore. But, I will change. Thank you so much Psych2go for making this video. Thank you, for helping me realize how I've been treating my friend the wrong way and ignored it. Thank you, for letting me know.

[IgnitedQuils]

This reminds me of an anime named Oregairu, where the MC refuses to open up and be close to anyone. Then he’s forced to join a club with someone and over time he slowly starts to talk to others. Later on he breaks down and says he wants something genuine.

Meaning he wants to talk to someone who doesn’t fake their emotions with talking to him, someone who only wants to be honest and not hide their true feelings.

It’s relatable since like the video said, fake people tend to be self interested.

[cleanairninja]

I think it's possible for two people to be mutually fake friends with each other. I find workplace "friendships" are often fake and have many of the components mentioned in this video. Often workplace "friends" will resent or be jealous of their fellow workers and pretend to be friends just to "cope" with the workplace environment.

[Uselesslink]

I used to relate to a lot of these, especially during high school. But I think I am slowly learning to become more genuine and honest, for myself especially. Just graduated high school last year and am learning how to be alone. I wanted to let anyone out there who feels like they relate to some of these traits, that with a little humility and acceptance, you are able to change your views :) It's not at all a bad thing

[silverskies]

Relateable. I've encountered a lot of fake friends in my life or as I call them fillers in my life. I used to have friendships that I thought were genuine but as time went on I realized they were fake bc they always wanted something or me to help them and I never got help back. I don't have friends anymore bc of this. And I'm happier being alone.

[starrrrrlightttt]

this pandemic really made me realise that all the friends I had this whole time are all fake. except for one friend. but she’s still friends with the rest of the group and the others hate me for no reason.. they’re always talking behind my back and my friend who has a groupchat with them tells me everything..
i literally dont know what to do. i feel so lonely at school. i don’t understand how some people are still friends with them. im literally only “friends” with them for the sake of having friends at school. i have one more year in highschool and i cant wait for it to end. i wanna start fresh and leave everything and everyone behind. sometimes when i think about it, it is sad. but my mental health is way more important

[Rowananimations]

I had a fake friend once who I really saw a as a good friend
At the time I didn’t have much friends, then she friended me. I liked that. But something felt…off. It was like she was too friendly, as if she was forcing it. But I shrugged it off. It was just normal, right? Everyone had there own personality’s, right? She’d always sound really happy when she saw me, smile and say “oh hey -name- here”. She also just kinda became my friend right away, no talk or anything.
Then one day, she was laughing with her friend. When I walked back, the laughs only got louder. It puzzled me a bit but I shook it off. Then, she started saying mean things about me
Then started bullying me.
I never said anything to her again, just ignored her and nodded. I know it wasn’t the right thing of me to do and I’m sorry that that, but I just couldn’t face it. If I ended our friendship, that’d make it my fault that our friendship ended.
Luckily where not “friends” anymore. I’ve got new friends and Im really happy with them. If you are being bullied by a friend, you need to do something. Don’t let them drag you down, push you down to the ground and into the dirt. Stand ho to yourself. Whenever it’s speaking up, walking away, clearly showing them there words don’t matter to you, etc. and there’s nothing wrong with the words hurting, it’s natural. I’m not going to be all like, “oh, ignore the words and don’t let them hurt, it’s normal and you are a great person.” I feel like that’s forcing happy emotions on someone and that isn’t healthy. Your allowed to feel sad about it, upset about it. But just know that mixed with that sadness you are a great person, and no one’s opinion can change that. We all have different personalities, and we all need to grow and learn
Hope this message helped, from a human to human

[mymentorjane]

I’ve found it really helpful to ‘recategorize’ people in my life. There are few true ‘friends’. Most of the people I’ve thought as friends are either associates, assignments or advisors (see Dharius Daniels’ book Relational Intelligence). Once I got clear about the different roles people play in life, I’ve been able to adjust my expectations of them and me, which has helped me relax and enjoy my relationships much more.

[feizzu_]

I’ve had some awful friendships over the years, it really brought down my mental health. I am way too trusting in people. But currently I have the bestest friends anyone could ask for, they taught me that not everyone is willing to be a good friend to me. I appreciate them so much ^^

[lolitheblobfish]

I saw a post online that said “Fake friends will compliment you to your face and talk bad behind your back, true friends will talk bad to your face but compliment you behind your back.” Obviously you shouldn’t be rude towards people you care for but jokingly making fun if someone with them is a sign of a strong relationship and trust in eachother!

[Nayeon_is_everything]

I have dealt many at school. I have these three closest friends. They are the only one I can trust but I found out hey only pretend to be nice to get something that they want from me after that they left me alone. I was depressed and until now I still have fake friends. My depression is getting worst. I even call myself dumb, selfish and others because I thought I was not perfect for them 😔😔😔