Top Notch Couples Keep the Spark Alive Week 41

Week forty-one
What is not being said?

If you are afraid to rock the boat, you will rock the boat eventually and likely do it poorly. Do it before you get so angry you lose tact. Avoidance prolongs the inevitable and takes the spice out of relationships. Being honest and vulnerable and raw can be intimate and exciting. Avoidance is weakness. Yes, choose your battles, but you have to have the necessary conversations, not avoid them. Push yourself. Practice having them so when things get real, you feel more confident in your ability to have them. They will still feel awkward and uncomfortable, not paralyzing…

What is unsaid because you are afraid to rock the boat? If you were 100% honest and brave, what are you afraid would happen?

What elephant is there in the living room?

Sex, money, affair, job, chores, selfishness, politics, laziness

Couples who have the courage to clear the air every week, report higher satisfaction. They talk about, not avoid, their problems and practice good conflict resolution. They have confidence that they can talk about difficult issues and get through them.