The #Narcissists' Code 85: Does the #narcissist miss you or regret what they did to you?

Does the #narcissist miss you or regret what they did to you? Sometimes they do but maybe not for the reasons you may think.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[healingissexy]

That part. Ask yourself WHY are they missing you because it’s probably for a selfish reason (at your expense). 👏🏾

[mphomolotlegi]

Narcissists never miss you; they miss having access to you. Know the difference!

[SFranny]

For those of us who have experienced it... we will never be the same. My heart goes out to all of you.

[veganvocalist]

They do not miss you, they miss how you make them feel, you are convenient, they do not miss your spirit or see the best in you . They will replace you in a heart beat and not look back

[insights]

Lack of empathy is always the reality. Blame shifting. Deflection. Avoidance of responsibility.

[animikhaghosh]

Anyone here appreciating him how he admits his problems and how he absolutely changed himself over time❤️

[tbd]

After being Narcissisticly abused - my definition of love has changed. Now I know love means wanting the best for someone even if you don’t benefit from it in some level

[MicheleBohmke]

"Look what YOU made ME do!" Every Narc, ever.

[dumbass]

They hate it when they can no longer manipulate you. You understand the BS.

[kieraasmith]

“When you take a narcissist back you forgive them for everything they’ve done to you” spot tf on

[mscharita]

Damn.. im so glad that you were able to admit your narcissism. It takes a real man and adult to admit it . There are men/women that go into their 40s-50s-60s never admitting it.

[Enlightened]

We know narcissists “feel” it’s just they don’t feel about others feelings. Narcissists feel pain, hurt, frustration and sometimes sadness, but only for themselves. They can’t feel what others are experiencing even if they know what that emotion feels like for themselves, they just do not connect or care about the other persons feelings.

[Chill_Jill]

Why do we care whether or not the Narc misses us?
They didn't care enough to keep us in the first place.
*CLEAN BREAKS ARE THE BEST*
Here's a good motto:
If you're trying to move forward, you can't go backwards (meaning you can't take back relationships from your past).
My love and support to all Empaths 💕

[timesacharm]

They cant show they love you because they view it as weakness! They only show affection when they want something.

[LaadyLovve]

No, they don’t miss you. They miss the control they had over you. And, I can attest to them being significantly annoyed that you can’t be fooled by their facade any longer.
I’ve dealt with my ex for four years on and off until I finally got tired and left. I ended up going no contact for over a year. 18 months into no contact my ex hoovered me and I responded. Stupid, I know. My ex knew he was a narcissist and he admitted it to me before I went no contact, and I knew a lot more about narcissism by then at that point, myself. Naturally, when I agreed to speak to him, he tried all his old tactics: future faking, bringing up some of our “better” memories (and I say that lightly), etc, things that worked in the past. And I let him think that they were working, too. I was hip to his game and I knew what was happening because it had always happened in cycles like that before. He eventually asked me to date him again, to which I told him no. I told him I would consider being friends, IF he sought help for his narcissism. To that, he replied “🙄”, and told me he’d talk to me later because it seemed like I wanted to start a fight. I told him that wasn’t my intention but okay, and that I’d talk to him later 🤷🏾‍♀️. It wasn’t until the next day when I haven’t heard from him that I realized he was giving me the silent treatment, aka old reliable, his favorite form of abuse. Because how dare I call him out and tell him he needed to seek help? I took that opportunity of his silence to silently leave him alone for good. I didn’t reach out to him or anything. I blocked him, changed my number and blocked him any and everywhere else he could reach me. Even cashapp. Luckily I haven’t heard from him since. Now I’m six months in no contact, and I don’t plan on going back. Ever.
They don’t change. They don’t miss you. In all honesty, I believe they don’t even care about the people who actually gave a genuine f about them. And unless they’re self aware and willing to seek help like our good friend here, then they’ll continue to spread their toxicity like a wildfire. My advice is to move on, better your life, learn and grow from this experience and find your happiness and peace. Best of luck to you all.

Thanks for listening to my Ted talk 😂💛

[tricem.]

I believe my ex misses having a generally kind, caring person by his side. I was a convience to him. He had it so easy. Now his life is a constant struggle and he's only surrounded by ppl who don't give a #&%* abt him. He tried to hoover me back. But i didn't take the bait. I will never go back to that and live that life again. Lesson learned.

[peanut]

I think it's fear. They can't deal with their feelings. Strong feelings scare them so they shut that down. It is extreme emotional immaturity. Guilt is too much. It requires a certain amount of emotional maturity to take responsibility for your actions. They have none of this.

[roseburke]

I have no tolerence for The Narcissisct. They are a trip. I have learned alot

[involuntarilycelebrate]

They don't miss you cuz they don't really know who you are. They see you by their own perception which is not who you truly are. So if they miss anything they miss what you did for them, but there's no way they could miss who you are because they don't know you

[LD-qokf]

I appreciate your strength Lee...In part you helped my daughter walk away from a 5 year abusive engagement that never came to fruition of marriage but resulted in a pregnancy. My daughter left secretly 3/5/22 and is with me & her 3 sisters tonight in Hawaii with my unborn granddaughter due in 3 weeks.💗💗💗