Stop Being Shy With Girls | Overcome Social Anxiety The Easy Way

What is a simple daily lifestyle change you can make which will drastically reduce your shyness with girls AND your social anxiety?

There are many reasons why the thought of approaching a cute girl will scare you and make you anxious - And believe it or not, it's a far more common problem than most men realise.

But if you start to change your behaviours around both men and women on a day to day level - and just start having regular, innocuous conversations with the strangers you encounter in your day to day life, this can massively reduce your approach axniety.

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School Of Attraction
Dating And Relationship Coach

[lifestoryguy]

I think for me there was one day many years ago when i realised that i didn't have to try to be entertaining in a conversation with women which was a kind of light bulb moment when it came to dating. I realised that i didn't have to be an outgoing gregarious person to be attractive or desirable. I could just take the time to really enjoy listening to the women i dated talk about their lives and then ask them deeper questions about their hopes and dreams and let them see who I really am. When i focussed on enjoying the process of listening and connecting with women irrespective of the outcome, I realised that I didn't really care whether the women found me attractive or not. I cared more about having an interesting conversation about ideas, thoughts, beliefs and emotions that we both enjoyed. I suppose I'd say dating for me is a bit like being a groupie at a rock concert. While it's great when you get to spend the night with the lead singer, you can still enjoy the concert and the songs they sing even if you don't end up back at their place. In general, considering that as a man I have to plan the date i think it's best to have the kind of dates I'd like to go on so that if there's no romantic attraction, at least I can still have a good time by having a rich conversation full of depth and meaning. Of course, if it goes well and i can make her laugh and feel connected to me then I'd go in for the kiss because well part of the job is to make her feel desired. if she wants to turn me down after all that then she's free to do so with no ill feelings because I had fun trying.

[altheuss]

1. Your self worth: how you value yourself
2. Learn to strike a conversation with everyone

[jbarkerhill]

Being socially engaged helps with overall socializing and also specifically with women.
The same type of energy that spurs you to make small talk with a clerk at a store or to strike up a convo with a coworker also is the energy that helps you talk with a girl on a date.
How to get that good social energy is the difficult part. For me healthy diet and sobriety made biggest change. When I was addicted to weed, porn, and junk food my social vibe was off. It improved once I improved my habits

[comdo]

Most men have too many bad experiences with women to just want to walk up to a stranger and talk to her. It's all about statistical probability you run into a nice woman vs. you run into a not-so-nice woman.

[umcia]

I think you are the best advisor I have come across on the internet. It really does make a lot of sense what you are saying here and I try to introduce such changes into my life. It always seemed odd to me to talk to strange girls and strangers in generals, for no particular reason. No idea why, really. I think we all should do it more often

[LoserDestiny]

I really have no problem with asking a question or even slightly flirting with a waitress or cashier-girl ect. When it's clearly just a small thing and going nowhere.
But approaching a girl at a bar or on the street is still immensely difficult.

[rik-keymusic]

For my experience i find it difficult to stay hi vibe if girl rejects me without even knowing me. It triggers a fundamental core wound that I’m not good enough. It’s like you want to be polite but some woman just don’t want to be bothered when they go out. They just want to enjoy their time with their friends and sometimes get very defensive… I know I should not care so much… but i came to a point that i gave up. I observe a lot and when i see behaviors that don’t resonate with my values i just won’t approach. Often woman drink and smoke or have a lot of dude friends who just try to get in her pants… it’s not that i never had woman in my life. I had my experiences. But we have to be honest. Once your on a self actualization journey you start to see how difficult is to pull a high quality woman these days. I don’t know where they are or where to meet them but i don’t think bars are the best spot… many come there to get shit faced. Maybe i reject them before they reject me i don’t really know. I’m singel for a long time and I question if i should give up my free time to spend with a woman… there’s a lot of toxic femininity out there believe it or not. I just wonder if that’s everywhere in the world or just where i live…

[alejndraalmirowitsch]

great video my man! your voice also get a little deeper, not sure if that's deliberate or not... but i wish i can deepen my voice like that lol

[DannyArcher]

If you have to wear a mask all day, talking to strangers is really difficult.

[charminions]

What would you recommend to someone who is very introverted (in the actual definition of it) along with socially anxious? For introverts it's very draining to have social interactions all day every day.

[theotherway]

I've found mindfulness is very helpful. The workbook "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels is pretty cool.

[drhfuhruhurr]

If im not attracted to her im totally confident, and am able to act myself. However... if im attracted to her i become insanely nervous and turn to jelly!

[initiatorhater]

i sometimes am jealous and envy other species of animals, because their mating dance or courtship ritual, looks a lot more simple and straight to the point, point blank, no multiple or several steps involved, it's just like this, 2 males fight, winner gets the girl, thats all, with us humans, it is much more complex than that.

[mickzeh]

I talk so strangers all the time, still cant talk to women

[guitarplayer]

Are you sick? Your voice sounds different than usually...Hope you're doing well!

[ralphie]

How is it rare?? Really?? I just need a a quick pep talk lol

[agoogleuseranonymous]

So Damien could you give us pandemic advice and real life examples? Like right now it's not recommended to just walk to a girl and start chatting. I mean ok. How about you do this. A video where YOU approach a bunch of random stranger women(yes we want to see your failures like if you end up slapped). This way we'll get a concrete proof that you don't need to be a Chad to get a chance with women. You know there is the saying that a picture is worth a thousand words. So yeah show us in a video with a hidden camera your "master tactics" about how and where you approach women and their reaction(a number would be pass). Like you throw a zillion different ideas and tactics but I'm doubting that these are real life scenario. A bit like a self defense class. Good theory but questionable practice. It's very rare that the ducks are all lined up in a row you know? I also brought the idea of pandemic because I think right now a lot of people are afraid of being approached by strangers.

[jerdawg]

Need to blame the little brain. It does all the thinking for us, while the big brain just gets in the way!!

[emperorofthegreatunknown]

Get a food service job. You get unlimited chances to flirt with people for little consequence.

[agoogleuseranonymous]

And you're a white guy with blue eyes ... you got the appearance advantage man.