How To Save Marriage After Infidelity And Lies

Marriage is always worth fighting for but how do you save a marriage that has been through infidelity and lies? I hope this video will help save your marriage. Here are some principles to help you get through.

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Dr. Paul Jenkins

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Video by Nate Woodbury

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[kingbee]

Thanks for the principles, Dr Paul. I've found that the opposite of love isn't hate but indifference. The 95/5 proposition is gold.

[lolikalopareva]

9 principles
1. Positivity
2. Values
3. Humility
4. Forgiveness
5. Respect
6. Love
7. Compassion/ kindness/empathy
8. Work (hard work)
9. Wholesome recreational activities

[micheledomin-jones]

I’m have realised forgiveness means you no longer want revenge or to hurt the person that hurt you

[jasontwombly]

I’m ready to be there for my wife, show her my true love. Even though we separated, we’re communicating better now. I’ve forgiven her, unfortunately it would seem she has trouble forgiving herself. These principles I’m going to apply. With patience, and positivity and compassion, I want to help her.

[candyjohnsonmak]

Love "Forgiveness is giving up your demand for a better past". I loved that you acknowledge we are all human and we hurt each other everyday. And we have choices and the respons-ability to change how we were programmed. You are a piece of art. I can't tell you how much it has helped me from listening to your playlist. Thank you for sharing your passion, it gives us hope and directions for better relationships. God bless you for lifting up others.

[ELLAWARD]

My husband cheated and I cannot move past it because my dad was a serial cheater and I promised myself never to marry a cheat. My husband said I pushed him to cheat because of my attitude. We are still together but I just cannot forget and not sure I have forgiven. I sometimes hate him deeply.and then love him the next minute. Don’t know how to get over it

[jamesmccall]

I’m two years too late but you pushed no one to cheat it’s been 20 years for me I’m still hurt but kids needed to be raised and I put them over me I’m glad I did. Not my fault but somebody had to be the adult no easy way out I had to sacrifice myself respect swallow my pride look in the mirror. It has been a long road but I’m still here. Let the past go. It robs you it never goes away completely but you can feel good about your accomplishments dispute your unfaithful partner

[bhepp]

Thank you for all your videos! I have been watching a bunch of your stuff and it’s giving me hope! Your awesome! I have a up hill climb and messed up my marriage bad. I will do all I can to fix it! Better late then never! I hope my wife takes a chance and forgives me!

[sdo]

-positivity
-shared values
-humility
You can be right or you can be married focus on whats right together
- Forgiveness
Give up the demand for a better past
- respect
Respect people who dont respect you
- Love not simply romantic but the choice of love no neutral option. ( Opposite of love is indifference btw not hate)
-compassion show kindness
-work
Hard work elevation requires effort
Dont put in the work a relation wont go up as the gravity of the transgrenssions will weigh it down if you go in default mode
- have fun! With each other if possible or just spark the fun

95-5

Good luck everyone!! God may help and assist you in your path

[CarolynneSanchez]

My husband cheated. I want to forgive him. I want to work through it. But he keeps denying it. Even though he literally could not be more caught, if I walked in on them! Ive seen texts and heard voice mail messages. I've caught him in lies about where he was. What's worse is this woman ended up stalking and harassing me for weeks. But he keeps denying anything happened! How do I move on and forgive when he won't even acknowledge there was a problem?

[amberthompson]

Thank you for this video first time watching you.

[yessicapeters]

Love all your videos. Thank you so much for your dedication to helping others!!

[frederikvanderwalt]

my marraige is falling apart she want to devorce how do i stop it

[mrsrejas]

You are amazing doctor Thank you for all your videos!!!

[russellkeeling]

Why would anyone want to save a marriage after infidelity and lying? People watch to much tv wherein cheating is portrayed as acceptable.

[joprinsloo]

You make it so easy to find a path in the forest... thank you so very much for all the clear and concise plans of action for so many issues we need to resolve to have happy and healthy relationships!!

[bepolite]

Hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me. Therefor you do not get a second chance.

[alissatorres]

You're awesome. I've been learned so much with your videos. Thanks for that.

[namboy]

Good video, but I'm wondering if these 9 principles are enough (?). IMO: After an affair/discovery, it is unlikely that either party (especially the betrayed) can easily operate genuinely with any of these 9 principles due to: anger, distrust, shame, anxiety, maybe some depression, defensiveness, fear, etc. For sure the WS will likely be in a deep, confused fog and will be trying to deny and hide facts/truth, etc. for obvious reasons. The betrayed spouse will be hard pressed to positively or empathetically approach the deflecting and defensive WS, in a manner that is certain to resolve the conflict. From the start, both people will have to possess good personal and moral character and integrity to commit 100 % to using these 9 principles and then effectively work toward resolution of the issues. Most cannot do this w/o counseling help if they seek it, and then all the ducks better be in a row for success, IMO. If they both had these qualities to start, maybe infidelity wouldn't have occurred? JMO

[diversecuisine-rn]

Thanks again Dr. Paul your videos. Please I need your help. There is a 24 years old girl who’s really suffering from inside. In fact the problem is that when she newly immigrate in Canada after few months her mother felt sick of brain tumour. Since than her mom still in the hospital not talking, she loses memory. It as been five years now. It affected this 24 years old so much. Again she’s in the relationship with someone it also seemed not working properly. I am trying sometimes to encourage her so she accept the situation and try to focus and do something because she still have life, but it seems like it difficult for her to accept. She is affected and also her siblings. How can you help this girl please. Thank you.