Save Your Marriage While Separated | Do This!

Is it possible to have a marriage be saved even when both couples are separated? In this episode, I will share to you a handful of big things that I am sure will make a huge difference. Stay tuned!

00:00 Intro & Summary
00:34 Understand a little
01:26 Hurt people hurt people
02:28 Do a breathing exercise
03:30 Blaming attitudes
04:41 Drop the desperation
07:04 Many people get these wrong
09:08 My suggestion
09:59 Create a dilemma
12:01 Don't be defensive
12:58 Be the spouse you deserve
13:21 This can help you

Watch and Enjoy!
Dr. Paul Jenkins

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PSYCHOLOGIST’S Top 5 Tips For SAVING Your MARRIAGE

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[CanadianGrown]

“Be the spouse you deserve”….that really struck a chord with me…probably the best thing I’ve heard 🤔👍

[rainskitchenandgarden]

"Be the spouse you deserve"...this is so hard when ego gets in the way!

[sakinakharrubi]

these tips are great and work wonderfully if I apply them without hoping they will really save my marriage. I realized I can save myself and no one else. If my spouse doesn’t want to care for a happy marriage, then I’ll have to find my own happiness with or without him.

[tjhaigh]

Thank you much!!!! I took 4 pages of notes and put them into practice… Your tips worked almost immediately! Thank you again!

[bhepp]

Thank you Dr. Paul! Your videos are so helpful! I see this fight or flight happening a lot. It makes what should be simple conversations go down hill fast. We have been separated for over a year and I have been trying to get our marriage back for 9months. Tons of up and downs but, I don’t give up! She’s seeing someone and it kills me. I try and make the best of our times together and not think about that (witch is so hard for me) but I’m trying to be the best I can. Not sure if this is going to work. Sure hope it will!

[lovelearnvy]

10:50 negative story has been created about you
11:10 show up like a really awesome person that you are
12:35 show up with integrity and compassion that you really have.
Wonderful advice that can be applied to many instances of life.
My concern is when others use this but they are really controlling and deceiving others. I have ran into people that show me their controlling side and to others they show up as easy going people with integrity. They make themselves look as if they wonderful!😣. I do wish someone would remove the curtain that they hide behind, so I avoid being around these characters. It's hard to be around them and what is the best approach to deal with them. But when I do have to be around them what is the best approach?
Thank you 😊

[IAmMichelleKeith]

Be the spouse you want to have...awesome advice!

[biblestudy]

My husband truly is mentally ill, but it seems that people think I am only saying it. After 35 years, I was mentally and physically exhausted. His therapist told me I need to be encouraged daily if I stay but I left because I got suicidal. Feeling about 75%better now and going to kintsugi and studying CBT
Otherwise, this is good advice for sure. I did all this with no change - just with him being diagnosed with a few things he did not want meds for. No relationship in 35 years - but we are still friends.

[nuncaigual]

Your videos are always so helpful and right on time!!❤

[gan]

Excellent presentation and just what I needed to hear today. Thanks!

[EvolveJAB]

There were a few good nuggets in there. Thank you.

[jamesga]

I always enjoy your videos. Your delivery adds to the informative content.

[coleworld]

“Your going to need to e improvements your promising yourself to make whether or not the relationship works out” I know that’s right because I can count 20 times in the past where if I was a better me we wouldn’t be where we are right now. That really eats at me. Knowing their were those times I should have done better.

[ethansdigitalstore]

Thank you Dr. Paul. Good advice to take away.

[genedhallinc]

We are in same house still but basically separated for 3 years now. It came to a head about 3 weeks ago. Divorce word came up. I started working on the let go and move on techniques. We have a very complicated history of breaking up and getting back together. The 4th time, she wanted it over, 2 months later of me going NO Contact, she tracked me down, cried and begged me. That time we got back together, we got married. Now a total time together 18 years. I'm 62 and she's turning 65. Although she seems absolutely 100 % done, and I emotionally need to let go, my mind thinks divorce at this time and age is stupid. Emotional and not thinking clearly. It isn't just my blind eye thinking this, everyone I talk to thinks it's ridiculous to divorce now. There's no issues that are typical GOOD reasons people or one person SHOULD get a divorce. Things really aren't bad. Some how, she always repeats the sabotaging negative talk, indicative of someone who internally facilitates their relationship to fail. As though she can't help herself from doing. I have heard her complain for so long that I started believing I was ALL BAD. It requires me talking to other people to realize I'm a pretty nice guy. I make sure those people know what I did wrong and didn't do right, so I get their unbias opinion.

[boyetpogi]

this is so me, i need some fixing to do at this toughest time of our lives.

[witness]

God bless you for doing your wonderful videos. Keep up the great work.

[AlWheelin]

We don't really fight, a few weekends ago we had 4 rv trailer family campout with her family, it was a good time. Then two weeks later I lost my job, that's my 7 job in 2 years, all my bills are paid and my portion of our living expenses. Then she decided for separation.

[DarinPirkey]

"Hurt people, hurt people." Damn

[JamesWFisher]

Oddly I have been using all this and she admits it. But shes got the problems u listed I'm your other video. Stonewalling, defensiveness etc. I own my faults and don't make excuses for them. But she's the opposite, I can say things like "hope you and the family have nice holiday season " she will take that negatively and defensive. Doesn't want any conselling or work with my. So now I'm basically working on myself for me as it's all that's left I feel.