6 Common Traits of Fake Nice People

Have you ever wondered if you are surrounded by the right people? Knowing whether someone is truly a nice person is difficult since it would require you to be close enough to them to understand their personalities and behavioral traits. Because of this, a lot of fake people get away with being labeled as “nice”. So, this video will be focusing on some of the most common traits that fake “nice” people have.

Writer: Xinyi
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References

[Psychgo]

When was the last time you got slapped?

[adamcuneo]

"Don't mourn over someone who changes all of a sudden, it could be that they stopped acting, and returned to their true self." - Socrates (c. 470 B.C. - 399 B.C.)

[peachy]

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1) 0:42- They only respect people with power
2) 1:25- They pretend to try to please everyone
3) 2:00- They desperately seek attention
4) 2:35- They gossip and talk behind your back
5) 3:03- They disappear when you need them the most
6) 3:36- They avoid questions about themselves

Have a great day!

[suzuyahaise]

I relate to some of these points because I've always been scared of making people disappointed/angry/offended. I used to keep my mouth shut whenever someone did something wrong to me because I didn't want them to suddenly scream at me. Also, I was obsessed with the idea of being liked by everyone. I thought "If someone doesn't like me, it's MY fault for being myself", and that is why I tried to contain myself. When I make favors to friends, it's because I hope they won't find me rude and suddenly leave. But now that I'm in therapy, everything is getting easier. I'm trying to be myself, express my opinions without feeling guilty or dumb, and it's ok if others don't like me for the way that I am. I still have a hard time accepting myself, but I'm slowly working on it.

[amazontheseawing]

I’m starting to see a lot of this in myself lately, but only around certain people. I keep switching from telling myself that I’m a bad friend for it, to just going with it.

[MrDHWong]

Fake nice people are like shadows. They're there during your brightest moments but disappear when things get dark for you.

[imthekingtaehyung]

I'm a fake nice person but not to this extent, I just try to always smile and be nice to people not to please them but just because I don't want to be rude and if I don't smile at everyone whenever they say something to me they look at me weirdly i used to get comments like " you're gonna become a serial killer in the futur " or "with that cold face of yours no one will ever bother you on the streets " I don't mind them anymore but being nice just became a reflex even when I'm at my lowest

[Truthpeacefreedom]

This only applies to friends. If you are applying this to a work relationship, then we'll probably all be labeled as "fake, nice people."

[Ray-hohz]

I am scared of being rejected by people; I try to be nice but I'm worried of everyone relying on me.. I've had a lot of crappy friends and I try my best to be a good friend because I know what it's like to have those friends and I want people to have good experience around me.

[farstarreflections]

It's funny, how I watch these videos to cheer myself, but every time I end up feeling anxious. I start asking myself different questions. Who I really am? Do I even know the real me? Am I actually a good person? This thoughts scare me. This whole situation scares me. And the worst thing is that I'm scared of myself

[saltysodacracker]

when I feel anxious and I get asked questions that make me more anxious to be thinking about, I use the technique of turning the question around on the other person so that they aren’t curious about me and then they focus on themselves. It’s actually a great technique when your in a situation you don’t want to be in or talk about.

[vicar]

"They disappear when you need them the most" is such a double-edged sword, mainly because the opposite can happen too. Some of them relish in the idea of being needed, of being the knight in shining armor, being depended upon. They feel the power and the thought that they can solve the other person's issues, and when that person is doing good, they suddenly wish to remind them of the worse stuff and wish to bring them down. I am saying this because I was that guy when it came to someone who broke my heart and still remained friends. Them doing good in life felt like a threat to future prospects for me and them, and them doing bad meant "now it is my time to shine!" I hate this feeling mainly because I wish to be happy for them, but I wish to be happy with them and them to be happy with me, share in it, relish in it, making it into an "us" thing. All in all, I am telling you this so you can be aware of it too and try to see if there is someone in your life who is like that, or if you are that person yourself. The "I can fix them" mentality.

[alexandrialeonora]

I agree with some of these things, but I think you have to be careful suggesting that numbers 2 and 6 are the result of someone being "fake nice". 6 could just mean the person is introverted or shy, or perhaps they grew up being told that they weren't interesting enough, so it's better if they don't talk about themselves. 2 doesn't mean the person is fake nice. It's actually common for people with ADHD to take on more work than they can handle, fully intending to help those people, and then realizing after that they offered to help too many and can't fulfill their promise. It's not them being "fake nice". It's a product of having ADHD. Like I said, I agree with some of the points in this video, but I'm really not feeling this one overall. It feels like a chance for someone to misunderstand the actions of another person and label them toxic unfairly (at least in the cases of 2 and 6).

[izzylandyt]

“Try to avoid fake nice people” - haha yeah that’s impossible in this society 😬

[Iloverockcandy]

The fact my online “friend” fits all these traits is hilarious.

[Adelina]

Omg, It’s about my childhood friend. It took a long time to figure out what kind of person she really is. It’s very upsetting when life makes you realize these things about close friends.

[Louiebrine]

i am always taken for granted in a group of friends. I'm tired of getting ignored but i have now decided to remove my attachment by distancing myself from them.

[auryangus]

One of my ex friends kept talking behind my back on the bus where all my other friends were and my friends told me about it, that’s how you know you have good friends

[isaiahvoss]

Question yourself, what kind of person do I want to be? For other people or for myself. Don't go above and beyond to be nice to someone or try to impress them because all they're gonna do is expect more out of you. The people you're with is who you're gonna become. Don't be around those people who will wear a mask in front of you:) They're not worth it. You're worth it more than the other fake people out there.

Have a great day! Stay true Psych2goers!

[alfiecdyson]

Speaking as someone with an ADHD diagnosis, I find these videos teeter on a dangerously two dimensional framing of certain behaviours.. I accept that I’m perhaps reacting to criticism and understand there’s potential to listen and change accordingly.. However, when it comes to how impulsivity/indecision impacts one’s social behaviour 🤷‍♂️