Christian Breakup Advice: When, Why, and How to Breakup in Christian Dating

Is God telling you to breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend? What are good reasons and bad reasons to end the Christian relationship? And if you do feel led by God to breakup, when and how should you do it?

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[fw]

“It’s not you. It’s God.”... what you said about that is so true. I once had a guy that pulled that on me. It was the hardest breakup I’ve ever gone through because it made me feel as if God plays favoritism. Even though, it took me a few months to get over it, by the grace of God, I was able to fully forgive that person. Looking back now, I’m so grateful for that pain I had experienced because it allowed me to fix my eyes only on God. Thank you for what you do. Your videos are a blessing to me.

[SB-rste]

Breakups are sooo hard when you really care about the other person. why is that? It’s like if you break up with them you fear they will never be happy which is totally not true.

[_theechriswilliams]

I ended a relationship with someone because I thought he was ok waiting until marriage but all of a sudden found out he wasn’t anymore. He somehow thought me waiting until marriage because I’m a Christian was to manipulate him because of his previous relationship experiences. We had never been or even come close to being physically intimate. I wanted to be with him but in order to not pressure myself and make him feel like he was being controlled, I ended it because as a believer I couldn’t compromise my values just to keep someone. So I just simply told him, while I loved him and wanted to be with him very much, what was more important than me trying to force him to agree with my desires, I would rather he be with someone who he felt could align with his current desires and need, since that’s what seemed to be most important to him.

[Ppyongppyong-semt]

It was definitely difficult and heartbreaking at that moment but now I think that it was the best choice and I should have done it earlier lol. Praise the Lord ❤️ God is good and he is always right.

[Millennial.christian]

This is even hard when you're trying to correct someone's behavior in general. How much should we tolerate if a person continues to be rude and disrespectful? I find myself continously confronting this negative attitude even when I truly want to help that person by calling them out...

[gmariemay]

Welp. Where was this video last week when i completely fumbled thru a breakup? lol I used God as the breakup reason (which is the truth, bc I learned he wasn't a believer) when I told him I was looking for someone with a deeper faith walk to go thru life with. And it's the honest truth, bc otherwise he is absolutely amazing. I've cried everyday since, and I hope I didn't make a mistake. I've watched your video on ministry dating and being equally yoked, about 100x. Still praying about it and trying to move on, but if it's in God's will, He will make a way.

[maxfaircloth]

My fiance called off the engagement and the relationship because "God told me to." We were perfect together until I opened up about my past and about the addiction I had to porn years in the past. Like a good year before we dated I got out of it then I opened up just to tell her about me then she used this excuse " That's cheating and you're gonna keep doing it" She got so insecure about it and took it personally and used it against me. Then a year later or so she called off my engagement because of my past and God told her I'd keep doing it. I delt with lust but I got past it but she never saw that. I'm still stuck what should I do to move on? She blocked me on everything so I have no choice but to move on.

[migdaliamojica]

I think people should go step by step and be honest with each other as they get closer to one another like that they don't get themselves in these kinds of situations. God bless you🍂🍂🍂

[nwogubenjamin]

I was so nice to her, loved and respected her so much that sometimes i make God angry by spending more time with her than i spend with him. The worst is that she receives tons of gifts and money from this other guy(even before she broke up with me).

[overcomer]

I had a platonic female friend (I'm also female) who would never own her feelings and used the God told me to step away from you for your own growth card all the time. In the end we respect the other person far more if they own their feelings and don't use God as a cop out

[cliffhonest]

Hi, greetings from Tanzania, thanks so much for your video its really helped me a lot. GOD bless you

[LVKZLevTov]

Thank you for the free E-Book.. God Bless you

[athena.mt]

Thank you so much.. you are definitely God's sent.. this is my problem at the moment..i could relate really into it..

[sherikwasnik]

There was sexual sin, we wanted to be married eventually, but he had difficulty becoming stable emotionally, and financially. Those were both deal breakers for me. It hurts a lot, bc he is not a bad person. I just can’t be with him while he is like this.

[FELIX-qrvd]

He's a good guy, a God-fearing man but I just don't enjoy being with him that much. I can spend a whole day, without even thinking about him once. Even though I am not busy, I can be bored the whole day, yet not think about him, not even once. That's weird. He is supposed to be in my mind...naturally, but he's almost never in my mind.

[wei-enwang]

Thank you so much for the video. It's helped me a lot.

[nwogubenjamin]

Mark, these are really inspiring videos. God has really used you to touch areas on uncertainty in my life. More grace to your elbows.

[linmeco]

How to break up ! Please guys don’t do it by text ( if you at least spend 6 months of emotional connection ) the other persons deserves at least a call … a text is not personals (even if it is your confort zone) telling with your own voice helps to heal soon .

[bprathe]

I’m 58 and just got the word from the woman I became best friends with. She always wanted marriage then when I leaned in she pulled the God cord. Maybe she’s afraid and confused. Whatever the case, I am 58 year old man, warrior spirit and crushed to the core. It has driven deeper on my knees with God. The struggle is I feel more drawn to pursue her, the more I pray! It’s driving me crazy. I didn’t want to hurry because I have failed marriages. Both walked away in adultery. Now she thinks it’s adultery to marry me after she read something from John Piper. I’ll get over it. Just putting mine out there for an example. She told me I’m her best friend too. Well isn’t that the type we want to marry? I have no desire to even look at another. I look down when even walking by. I don’t want eye contact. I pray my heart will not harden. I had major trust issues after giving my heart. I finally let go and pow!

[nwogubenjamin]

Some guys were like she lost attraction for me so that was why she lined up a replacement, i do believe that cos if someone truly loves you and wants to be in my life, they will make efforts for such to be accomplished