The Model Of Developmental Immaturity: Understanding Developmental Trauma and Recovery

In this lecture from Sydney's South Pacific Private – Australia's leading treatment center for trauma, addiction and mental health – we explore Pia Mellody's Model of Developmental Immaturity and the ways in which our childhood experiences shape us into adulthood.

We are all complex products of our past experiences and current environment. We don't exist in isolation and neither do our problems.

[dandaniszewski]

61 years, and the lengths I have to go to find this info. I've tried to put it together on my own for years.

[landline]

I have CPTSD. Until I could name it, I could not claim it. Now that I can claim it, I am healing it. South Pacific Private has enabled exponential healing with their videos. I can attest to the failure of decades of (multi) high dose antidepressants and therapy. Now that I understand that what I have is neurological and not chemical or psychological, I actually feel optimistic that I can experience balance and peace. Gratitude gratitude, gratitude to SPP.

[kathyhathaway]

These talks are incredible. I am an adult child of an alcoholic and have been in therapy for almost two years as well as attend ACOA meetings. It wasn't until I found all this information on Complex PTSD and my therapist did, I really start healing and it's been brutal at times. I don't have memories, but I have extreme nervousness and anxiety and body symptoms. I was told we just had depression and to take medication. God bless all the work you are doing because this was the missing piece for

[arich]

THANK YOU for this. I wish all therapists who list themselves as "trauma-informed" would be REALLY clear up front of they are trauma-TRAINED (it turns out those things are different, and I wasted about 16 years and a whole lot of money trying 10 different people before I found someone who could help me make some progress).

[quitetidy]

Concerning setting boundaries for children or even for a significant other, set a boundary first for yourself that allows you to distinguish between setting boundaries that cross over into an "over controlling environment". A good indicator that you're being over controlling with the boundaries is when you get angry over ***trivial*** things.
Boundaries that protect a child from danger to himself or to other around him are not trivial. When a child forgets to remove his shoes when coming in from playing outside (despite your rule of no shoes in the house) becomes a source of anger, this can allow you to become too controlling as it's a trivial matter. It can apply in any case. If you're a person that is needs to control everything, you need to have grace an patience and really think it through when creating boundaries :)
Great video!

[kirstinstrand]

I just started listening. I like the direct, uncomplicated approach to "typical" families. I'm from a middle class home; both parents had college degrees, and loved the arts, yet they lacked parenting skills. Essentially, they created 4 chaotic human beings. And I, after a life time am still picking up the pieces. The other 3? They never tried. Edit: at 55 I had a brain aneurysm. I often wonder how my childhood affected my brain; fortunately, I survived, with physical disabilities.

[Dawnseeker]

This was incredible. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

[heidic]

Thank you for talking about the awkward feelings that can pop up during recovery- that it can be an uncomfortable experience. The last therapist I saw gave me helpful tips but unfortunately gaslit me at times too (unintentionally I believe but it didn't help things). Kind of feel like I'm fluctuating between all three stages but I'll keep your advice in mind.

[SamSite]

Wow ok, I had for gotten that AA was more about recovery then just staying away from alcohol . Thanks for the video

[GloriaGarcia-ijec]

I have no words to thank for your wonderful lecture

[annyspb]

This is tremendously helpful, as are the comments. Can I just add, who's the person giving the lecture? And are the tables available somewhere? (Online, or in books)

[becky]

Insightful . Beautiful and guiding.Thank you.

[SpiritualStuntman]

I'm so glad I found you guys. Thank you for helping me recover ❤️

[melowndes]

This is a brilliant talk. Thank you so much. 💓

[robynalice]

I don't comprehend why, but 3yrs into recovery and I'm still the "Wounded Child..." It's as if my mind refuses to be left alone, even once more.
I've spent up to 10 days sleeping in spurts, all because of incessant vomiting, and ending up in the ER with dangerously low blood sugar/near diabetic comatose for an extra 8 or 9 days..

What the living hell is wrong with me, sir?

[timpostle]

Really helpful overview, thanks Steve Stokes

[Raminakai]

Thank- you for posting these!!!!
God Bless❤️

[cyndimoring]

my ex's daughter came to live with us at age 18 after spending her childhood being neglected by a sick parent in a hoarder house. We took her to a therapist who pegged her emotionally at about age 13.

[karimaais]

Very instructive we’ll explained video thank you for your efforts

[annaynely]

The wisdom of sociology. Sam Richards. Tedx Talks.