Signs Of A Female Narcissist - How You Spot A Female Narcissist

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[coldwarnightlife]

Plus, they never take responsibility. They are never wrong, and if they are caught they are "sorry you feel like that" but never sorry for what they did. And they need to assert control over everyone...

[renewed]

Frenemy vibes.. Even with their over the top fakeness and love bombing, there's this nagging feeling in the back of your mind.. "This person doesn't really like me." But we brush it aside.

This has been my experience in friendships with female narcissists.

P.S I love your videos.

[joannerodriguez]

They also do a lot of “dog whistling “ and when you answer back, you look like the bad one, they are so sneaky !

[timothygenaw]

I always thought abuse was physical and from men. Then I married a very cruel woman. Partner abuse by women isn't recognized enough. Took me years to even know I could label her behavior as abusive.

[butslug]

The one i knew loved the rumor spreading. She would fan those big flames. She use to play victim. And of course i felt bad and help in any way. If i had anything on my FB that was like a meme about friendship gone bad or being backstabbing. She would call me and ask about it. She would go do things that left me out. And flaunt it all over the place after. One time she went swimming at a local hot springs and got really sun burnt. Later wanted me to bring her after sun screen and pain killers. I told her to use over the counter stuff at home. She claimed she had none of those things and no money. I didnt get her anything. I actually ended the friendship shortly after.

[janetheresesbye]

You have described my mother. May I also add: Manipulation, Threats and Mind control.
By mind control, I refer to the Narc person/ parent telling their child/ children they are able to know EXACTLY what you feel, think and are going to do at any given point.
Plus a supreme belief in their own preconceived notions, about everything and everyone.

[jenmarie]

Wow, this is probably the best description I’ve heard to date!! My narc ex’s mom is a covert narc and so is my narc’s current girlfriend! I mean she totally changed up his wardrobe and look to fit what she wanted him to look like. She’s so superficial and is all about looks and her new car and the new house she got my narc ex to buy with her. She’s also super jealous! She has to follow my ex around when he’s around me. She screams insecurity. I wish I could go no contact but I share my 2 kids with my narc ex so you can imagine how challenging that has been. She’s very manipulative and sneaky. Thank you for posting this!

[AlastairjCarruthers]

Very accurate, as always.

The one major pattern that I think you missed out here is fake/performative/shallow empathy.

My narc loved to tell everyone that a caring and empathic person she is, but then that would never, ever be backed up with her actions.

For example she would act all sad when something bad happened to a fictional character in a book or film, but she didn't care in the slightest about hurting anyone real and close to her (me and her daughter in particular).

She'd always stop and talk to people who are homeless or disadvantaged, but would never lift a finger to actually help them. She was friendly and kind to wait staff, but didn't tip and always left them a horrendous mess to deal with. She'd say she'd be the first to help if I or anyone else ever had a problem, but if anyone ever did need her, she'd dissapear off the face of the earth. She appeared to be good with kids, but admitted to secretly despising them and subjected her own daughter to an awful, abusive childhood. She kept pets, but laughed at and shared vile videos of animal cruelty.

It was all fake, her actions didn't ever match her words. I think these performances were meant to "prove" to herself and others that she's a decent person, because that made her feel special and admirable, but it was all surface-level and she doesn't really care about anyone.

[peachypie]

Yes Jess, this is my mom spot on! The helicopter part and the living in a certain neighborhood even if they can’t afford it.

[johnpaul]

She’s all that and a bag of chips with way to much salt Especially when you’re thirsty Thank you Jess and you have a beautiful day !

[godzillamanstreb]

Yes the time & attention trait is super I think back 20 yrs the female narcs in my life constantly invaded my time & diverted my attention from my husband & didn’t see it happening bc they were doing so under the guise of “being helpful “

[peterknyk]

Bravo! Jess! You just described to a T my soon to be ex marital partner.... thank you, thank you, thank you for this today! I'm going to send this and share this with my sister who has been helping me through all of this for the past 3 1/2 years! She will be delighted to hear what you have to say as I am so delighted that you brought all of this to our attention today! Bravo! Jess! Thank you so so so much! 😌

[garycordle]

Your spot on Jess👍 some of them will give you the silent treatment, and use words to hurt you, a lot of times words can really hurt you more than being physical and they no it, they keep it in their little pathetic play book 📚

[LovieB]

In "friendships" everything is a competition. Can never compliment or give encouragement or support to their "friend" but can always criticize. 😟

[jesseM]

My ex narc was actually *very* grandiose, but those of us who knew her (most of us) always played it off as a charming quirk. "Oh, she's just super honest about who she is and doesn't care what people think". Only a small handful of us, who got to know her well enough, realized it really wasn't a joke to be laughed off.

[looks]

Oh yeah giving you gifts and then telling you how many people would love their attention. Shallow to the moon 🌝

[kyrasmith]

Sounds a lot like my aunt. She hardly ever yelled at me, she would say things that would make me confused all the time, leaving me wondering what she meant by what she said. Also, it was like she wanted me to read her mind, sometimes I thought I got pretty good at figuring her out then she would change things again and I'd have to try to go around her, what I call obstacles. Obstacles she'd give me were trying to figure out when to call and how to talk to her without an argument. Just when I found a way, she'd start something else. I could never win. I thought so much of her but she was making me feel worse every time I called. I've stopped talking to her for over a year now and even though it was a hard decision, it was the right one. It's great to see videos like yours, I learned what this is and that feeling I had of 'something is off' was right, it sure was off, just never had a name for it!

[jasonmcnutt]

I just got out of a 2 1/2 year relationship with a borderline/narc. I though she was the love of my life. She said I was her soulmate, her world...
Her EVERYTHING! I loved her unconditionally. Comforted her when she was feeling bad. She begged me for a child, she's 39 & I'm 50. Neither of us had children, so time was running out. I agreed! So we decided to do it. She had a wonderful pregnancy. Everything was going great. So now we have an 8 month old daughter together & she's been gone two months. We didn't even really have a fight. I'm sitting here with my head spinning wondering what the fuck just happened!😰

[purplepainandgoldsuffering]

I honestly think the issue of female narcissism needs to be more highlighted more. I know narcissism is often more associated with males but female narcissism is so much more common than it's reported.

[davidcoppotelli]

Your always correct and on point when it comes to Female Narcissist. The jealousy and the Selfishness.