Meet my FIRST Exmuslim Friend

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How did we meet? What's his story? Watch to find out!

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0:00 Introduction and How We Met
4:46 Religious Zeal and Questioning Beliefs
18:43 Coming Out and Setting Boundaries
27:13 Impossible Standards and Depression
33:18 Different "Flavours" of Islam
36:51 Debating Islam
45:21 The Way Forward
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I'm so happy to have got the chance to interact with you Aladdin and this community. I look forward to it more. It may sound cheesy but I'm all alone in this predicament and this is the only comfort and safe space I have. Keep doing what you do, making sense of all the senselessness. I'll be here to watch the community grow, keeping the gentleness, humility and compassion for a lot muslims like me to safely find the meaning in the unexplainable and open our minds to the truth. Thank you once again for the efforts you put for this cause.

FM-ibbx
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Ugh, I'm so glad your channel exists. So many channels talk _about_ ex-Muslims and Muslims but never _to them, _ let alone on meaningful topics related to upbringing.

potts
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Aladdin I"m ex-christian but your channel is so informative and kind. I look forward to every video.

MjolnirJM
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Just something to share: I recently discovered your channel, and I must say, it is refreshing to finally find someone who thinks on a similar level. I left Islam over ten years ago, and while I haven't been actively engaged with religion for some time, Islam has never fully left my life. My family, including my wife, are Muslim. However, during the last Ramadan, a significant conflict arose when a previously agreed-upon arrangement with my wife was broken. Without delving into the specifics, it essentially boiled down to the fact that, initially, only my wife knew about my position as a "kafir." After about a week of principled arguments, the entire family became aware of the situation.

Since then, the conflict has subsided, and life has largely returned to how it was before. There were attempts to have imams speak with me, but many backed out. Only two young, passionate imams were willing to engage in conversation. These discussions largely followed the same tone as what I observe in your videos. After reflecting on your content and comparing it to my own experiences, I consistently noticed the same excuses being brought up. It was not only exhausting but also frustrating.

In the end, I encouraged my wife to truly delve into Islam and not just live it as it told to her. I told her to approach it with genuine critical thinking and that I wouldn’t guide or question her, but that she should be sincerely critical, as if she were writing a thesis for her studies.

jow
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I told my Egyptian uber driver the other day that I'm an exmuslim(he asked because of my name) and he ended up being christian - I don't know what possessed me to say the truth, but maybe I'm hoping one day I'll have a irl exmuslim friend like you two have made with each other. So nice, great video.

I_am_not_your_sister
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Wow, I'm so glad this channel exists. I am not and have never been Muslim, but I did come from a very religious background and was also a very idealistic teenager with impossible standards for myself. It's fascinating to see someone from such a different background have such a similar experience to me. Thanks for all you do!

nikitaleblanc
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omg Aladdin made a friend :0 gj!! /j

been searching yt for something to listen to
new AA vid is a great thing

respectthefish
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lovely conversation! i definitely do appreciate this shift in ex-muslim spaces from one that is just debating or justifying or standpoints to one that focuses on community building. when i first started graopling with doubts on the religion it was a very isolating feeling, but im thankful to find friends who are understanding and on the same page as me

himbo_advocate
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I've been binging your videos for the past week, so you're probably seeing a barrage of comments from me recently. I just want to say, thank you for doing what you do. Not only are you helping people who have left islam, you're also educating muslims on the things said in the religion without the obfuscation that's done by a lot of teachers who teach it.

It cannot be stressed enough how little the average muslim knows or thinks about the inhumane stuff in the quran and hadeeth. Most schools don't really go deep in the actual history of islam, and when they do, it's told in a way that we can't really understand what's happening exactly, so we just trust that it's some profound sh*t and move on.

Your videos are really great for shedding light on these issues in a manner that's respectful and easy to understand. So I appreciate all the work your doing. I wish to someday be as well spoken as you are, and be able to communicate my ideas better.

MohamIsMe
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Hi excellent discussion. I was fortunate enough a few days ago I got talking to a Egyptian doctor who is an ex Muslim really refreshing to encounter just by chance. Former Indian Muslim Yorkshire uk.

Timeone.
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I think debates generally won't convince the participants, but public debate can be useful for convincing people listening/watching/reading the debate who are less convinced of their current position or simply don't know enough about the topic to have a position. That said, I personally don't enjoy debating anymore, and I understand why you might not either -- it's often like talking to a brick wall, and you can't always be sure you'll be the best public speaker/most persuasive writer, even if your facts genuinely are stronger, so it can often feel like a fool's game to start.

honoratagold
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Just to be another positive comment here. I never had any of experience relating to what you have been through, I can barely imagine what it must have been, and what it is like. I sincerely appreciate your content, your dedication and care for those in a similar place. You do great work, and you are greatly valued by those lucky enough to come across your videos. Have a great new year! And thanks to the friend as well, obviously, reminding people that they are never alone, no matter what situation they are in! Cheers!

Ajac_
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When you learn Islam deeply you become an Ex Muslim.

thomasthomasphilp
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Ah...I'm so glad you are both friends. Take care of each other!

drziggyabdelmalak
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I actually knew some christian arabs back in Iraq. It's not that uncommon to meet non muslim arabs if you're outside arabia (gulf countries)

catwithaneyepatch
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I am not a Muslim, not even from an abrahamic religion. My Mother practices a new age esoteric spiritually combined with some parts of hinduism like mantras. Yet everything you describe sounds so familiar. I really want to thank you for this channel and this interview.
My family was deeply into this spirituality since I was a baby, almost all the life was about it, so you can probably imagine how much it matters in the family, especially for my Mum. But now, as I became an adult (I'm 24), I became an atheist. I don't believe in the holiness of a guru that my parents are deeply devoted to. Unfortunately I cannot open to them and I doubt that I'd ever be able to. Since childhood I was taught repeatedly that I have to adhere to spirituality, otherwise it's immoral and bad. Even now, my Mum got furious when she found out that my partner is an atheist and a Jewish man (she's antisemitic). And right now, I have no idea how to navigate through my own life the way I want it to be (I have to hide the fact that I got a covid vaccine for example, or that I began to eat meat) while still having a normal relationship with my parents, especially my Mum. It feels terrible.
Listening to your videos gives me a feeling that I'm not alone and not a coward for not cutting off my parents. Thankyou so much for being there!

khanbika
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I love your channel! Thank you for keeping it interesting with new type of content.

momo
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Very interesting to listen to you two, thanks Murhaf, thanks Aladdin.

chr_my
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Thanks, you two!
This was wonderful! ❤

tulpas
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22:17 this was my parents when we would see my father’s parents. I didn’t even know my parents were atheists until I came out as an atheist. Of course, they didn’t make their kids do all the religious stuff unless their parents were visiting so I never got the impression that I would get in trouble for not being religious. So, I came out without fear and it didn’t really change much. It was a lot more like deciding that I didn’t actually like playing basketball that much and didn’t want to do it any more. But there were my parents in their late 30s/early 40s, pretending to their parents that they hadn’t left the religion.

nathanpowell