The Dark Side of High Achievers (DON'T DO THIS)

Are you a high achiever? How dedicated are you to reaching success? By pushing ourselves beyond our limit, we may pick up a couple of not-so-healthy habits and practices along the way. But by acknowledging them and understanding their consequences, we can use what we know to help change any harmful behaviors we have in order to steer clear of them. While the list definitely goes on, here are 5 toxic habits of high achievers:

DISCLAIMER: This video is for educational purposes and is based on personal opinions. This video is not a substitute for professional advice, but general guidance. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you.

Writer: Maryann Opida
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: AmandaSilvera
Animator: mcsky
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

Comment below if this is the final week of your exams :D. If not, how many more weeks left?

[Raghav-txym]

0:44 You find it hard to say no.
1:33 You’re too independent.
2:18 You’re a perfectionist.
3:04 You’re highly self critical.
3:58 You neglect self care.

[babybunny]

I'm a very high achiever. I get amazing grades but it can be very stressful. One time I got a bad grade in a quiz and I cried a lot that day. But I've come to realize that faire is the key to success. Our provincial exams are coming up soon. And I believe in myself. If you're struggling with this, remember that you CAN do it!! Have faith in yourself 💜💜💜

[ComicalRealm]

"Most high achievers believe they owe society a debt for being more capable. Almost a responsibility to achieve and push society forward." - Wilma Flintstone

[jun]

The worst part of being a high achiever is when you're never enough, no matter how hard you try, and it gets even worst if you have burn out :)

[drinasun]

I was a high achiever from elementary school to high school. Students came to me for homework answers. I found it hard to say no to requests, and they used that against me. It got to the point where I slowly started to resent the kids I was helping.

[sinRing]

I was a high achiever until I had my worst breakdown in middle school. I feel burnout for years. And now I'm trying to finish high school. I still have low self-esteem, and my parents still hope that I can return to be my old self.

[zovalentine]

Success is the amount of joy one feels.!

[AuRoaraAnimations]

i sadly say “no” more when Im in an ambitious state

[shawngray]

I am a high achiever. I have accomplished many things, but it never feels like its enough. I feel like I need to do something society- altering to prove myself. I'm still working on accepting myself for who I am. It is a relief to know others feel the same way.

[thechancellor-]

To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

[srdvizions]

1-You can't say NO
2-You're too independent
3- You're a perfectionist
4- You're highly self critical
5-You neglect self care

[DaestrumManitz]

Being a high achiever is great, as long as you do not use people as ladders!

[naru]

This is the PERFECT timing. Just had a mental breakdown because of all the stress...

[khalilahd.]

As a pre med student I hate to admit that I’ve don’t all of these at least once in my life (especially the perfectionist one) but recognizes the bad habits is the first step to self growth which has slowly helped me improve in these areas 💜

[lythd]

0:42 you find it hard to say no
1:32 you are too independent
2:19 you are a perfectionist
3:05 you are highly self critical
3:57 you neglect self care

[SoldierOfFate]

High school made me feel like this. Unfortunately, I was never strong in academics and it was only after graduation and when I started working I was only at my best when doing something hands-on and more in the field. I was never a booksmart person and I certainly don't like the idea of being forced to cram unnecessary information that I'd forget immediately after an exam.

[catperson_]

oh my gosh i relate to everything here, especially being independent and a perfectionist. i get so mad if i have a B+ or A-
everyone always comes for help- man thank you for making this-

[SteamMole]

The fear of disappointing others really stuck with me through the video. I dont set the bar high when doing anything, unless it involves other people. High expectations from teachers and other kids picking on every failure drags on into adult life

[tommygunn]

🙋‍♂️ yes, definitely fit into couple of these. I constantly tell myself to never settle for mediocrity and to just work hard...however, I've totally neglected self care and would get burned out easily.