Why Do Men Want MULTIPLE WIVES? (Ft. ​Gabriel Al Romaani)

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In this video, we discuss polygyny in islam. Polygamy in islam is a very sensitive debate although it shouldn’t be. Only in the modern lens is it something controversial. We bring on the intimacy expert gabriel al romani. Having 4 wives in islam and practicing polygyny (polygamy in islam) creates many solutions to a lot of problems. Polygamy debate Islam Is a hot topic, and we are here to deliver!

Timestamps ⬇️
00:00 - JOIN The3Muslims
00:11 - Introduction
00:28 - Why Men want MULTIPLE WIVES?
01:52 - A Woman’s Love vs A Man’s Love
03:02 - Anghel shares his thoughts on Polygamy/Polygyny
05:03 - Importance of INTENTION
05:45 - Women being AGAINST Polygyny
07:34 - The Fitrah of Men vs Women
09:25 - Problems with One Woman with Multiple Men (Polyandry)
12:02 - Muslim Women on Polygyny
13:51 - Rational ARGUMENTS for Polygyny
17:14 - Reasons Men practice Polygyny
25:51 - Importance of Tawakkul
27:09 - PUSHBACK against Polygyny today
29:19 - Practicing Polygamy: MEN VS WOMEN
31:34 - Polygyny in Older Generations
34:24 - Immense BENEFITS of Polygyny
38:14 - Issue of Men not Stepping Up
40:35 - Taking your own DESIRES as god
43:38 - Islam operating within a WESTERN Framework
45:47 - Closing Remarks
48:37 - Wrapping Up
48:48 - JOIN The3Muslims


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[Tharoo-pgdf]

They are giving out some ridiculous scenarios in this discussion to prove their point. I read some comments and agree that this sounds like a discussion where theses men are trying to convince women to accept polygamy. I accept it not because of this unbalanced discussion but because Allah SWT has allowed it with conditions and rules. That doesn’t mean women have to choose this lifestyle. To each his or her own choice right.

[FadhlyHamzah]

Dear brothers. Make sure u have already make your first wife like a queen before even thinking about having another. Also, if ur wife doesnt agree, please respect her opinion. Even if its permissible, if it leads to broken relationship with your first wife, dont even think about it. For Allah's blessing is with good family.

[mandm]

As a woman I feel jelousy thinking my man would be with another woman but I also think about the wisdom of of Allah, I don't believe that he would allow something that would be harmful to the woman, we women also become sad because we think that we are not good enough anymore, I think it's impossible to imagine why a man would want another woman while women only wants her 1 man so we are left to think that they just don't like us anymore and it's heartbreaking.
We pray that Allah gives us easy and a peaceful heart.

[u-kneeque]

Polygany is NOT about what a man want, or a woman. Its about society. Its about the orphans, widows and the divorced. When men made it about what they want and desire it went down hill. Islam is about the betterment of society and taking care of the needy not the hawa. women desire to show their hair, but we don't because it's not about us its about Allah. Women could also want a man other than their husband or fantasize about two men, but we stop ourselves because its not about our desires its about Allah. Men really pretend like only they have desires for the opposite gender but forget women also in their nature salivates over different multiple men at the same time as well. But we choose Haya and purity because we choose Allah. Men are also supposed to choose Allah and THINK about who the ayah is mentioning: orphans, second hand possessions. Thats why the prophet married one second hand possession, widows and divorcees.

[Unknowntodayandtomorrow]

People dont talk about the impact it has on the children, all through their different stages in life. The father role is crucial for both boys and girls, if his only showing up 2 days a week because he needs to distribute his time with his other wives and children, this will have a negative impact on the children.

[LittleBarbiex]

I have a lot of issues with this video. First off, the whole multiple wives thing is not mandatory in Islam. It’s allowed. That’s it. Your current wife not wanting you to find a second wife is not keeping you for your religious obligations. Your not mandated to marry more than one women at a time. The whole narrative of this conservation seemed to give that impression.

Secondly, there also an impression that a widow or divorcee would benefit from being a sister wife. What makes you think these women aren’t able to get remarried to single men? I know plenty. And this idea is women getting left behind being unmarried is ridiculous. There’s plenty of men that go unmarried as well.

Additionally, it’s irrelevant if a guy has multiple wives or not, if a man wants to cheat they will. Men want to sleep with multiple women, yes, having a second wife or third or fourth isn’t a solution tho. Just because he may want to sleep with her doesn’t always mean he wants to marry her as well. And how pathetic would it be for a guy to marry a girl just cause he wants to sleep with her but keep it halal. Is he gonna get a new wife every time he gets bored ?

Also, with the topic of being able to have more children with more wives… how many kids do you think most of these men realistically want to have anyways. I know women who have had 15 kids. You don’t need 4 wives to do that.

Also why are we pretending that men, especially men in the west can even afford more then one wife. Rent and/ or mortgage is expensive enough as it is. Imagine having to pay double or triple. It’s absurd.

I’m not saying that polygamy is haram but being such a hard core advocate for it is a little off putting. It’s not something necessary or applicable in the Westen world. Men will go hard to advocate for multiple wives out of complete selfishness not because their religious. That’s an excuse.

[deedeee]

Islam is submission. Yes. But a wife doesn't have to accept or be happy with it. That's her choice and you can't change people's feelings. Best case scenario is to only do polygyny after the first wife has been consulted and if she is okay with it. If not, you are creating a possible recipe for disaster for her and the children you may already have. You are asking a person to w/in herself to accept a situation for her personal life which she doesn't want, which may be disruptive to her and the children's lives. A woman can accept polygyny as an Islamic practice but also not want it for themselves.

[tazc]

Polygyny obliterates your reliance on a man for your happiness and turns you directly to the True source of happiness and joy. Constantly living, embracing and experiencing Truth, keeping you awake at every moment, never allowing you to forget your purpose here on earth. A jihad for women. A mercy and blessing for women.

[etattainments]

I think one thing they and a lot of Muslim men tend to dismiss when talking about this topic is that men nowadays are not doing it correctly-which in turn hurts the woman. Another main issue that I’ve noticed is that just because it is halal, a lot of Muslim men expect a woman to accept it, guilt trip her or will make her question her faith because it is not her preference. Just because turkey is halal doesn’t mean I want to eat turkey. I would want them to discuss this with Honest Tea Talks because they really show the woman’s side to this and how it affects her. All I usually hear from men is defending it and saying that it is allowed in Islam and for women to just be patient and accept it. I don’t think that’s realistic.

[Lipanj]

47:59 Right? Men need to submit to Allah in what they like and enjoy, but women need to submit in what they despise and are hurt by.

[MB-nfzf]

I think it's shameful that so much focus lays on a man's libido. Are you created for a higher purpose or are you created in order to fulfill your needs? Be patient. That is what Islam teaches. You'll get your reward in afterlife. Can't expect to get everything in this dunya, hiding behind the statement "but i will be more sinful with one wife" Allah is all knowing and just Alhamdulillah. Even if you try to fool yourself with "right intention", the Al'Aleem will know your true intention. People are struggling to keep themselves alive and yet men of our community decide to speak about their special needs of the lower part of the body.

[whoami]

I think it's just a matter of age and maturity, ask a virgin and young woman if she will accept a second wife for her husband and she will most probably say no and ask a divorcee or widow that will she become the second wife and she will most probably say yes, for some women marriage is all love and intimacy while for others it might just be a necessity

[naimam]

Why do guys act like women have to pick between an unfaithful guy or a polygamist? Do you really think women are that desperate for a husband? Loyalty exist, you know you have options, don’t settle for this if you want more for yourself. You can find a loyal man that appreciates you, a man that is content with what he has and wants you and ONLY you.

[Rachidasister]

Men only see the advantage of polygamy for them. Most of them ignore the challenges coming with having kids with multiple women. Often times, the children are the victims. Go ahead and enjoy the halal sex at the expenses of your own children. There are guys who consider themselves sheikhs yet their daughters were rapped because Mr. Was too busy chasing the desires of this world. Go ahead and beautify polygamy but make sure you have a number of kids you can not only feed but also give the tarbiyah, the security and upbringing they deserve.

[zikoha]

Justice is unachievable. Allah says so.
I can honestly one 100% whole heartedly say that I would be okay with my husband taking another wife. But please don’t Insult my intelligence by telling me he will treat us equally. Just call it what it is. He has weak animalistic desires he can’t control. I’m fine with that. Don’t expect me to hold him in the same regard. Don’t expect my respect for him to remain the same. But I’ll accept it.

[mademoiselledelaforet]

The issue with polygyny is that its not A commandement or an obligation its more like a proposition. If you are able do it and if not dont,
This was actually meant to help womem hence the prophet PBUH encouraged men to marry:
. Older women
. Single mothers
.widowed women
But muslim men out here only choosing beautiful young virgin women from ages 12 to 25

[a.s.]

The verse most commonly referred to with the topic of polygamy is Verse 3 of Surah 4 An-Nisa

If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.

— Qur'an, Sura 4 (An-Nisa), Ayah 3

It is believed these Verses were revealed after the Battle of Uhud, in which many Muslim men were killed, leaving widows and orphans. Thus, many argue that these Verses have been revealed "because Allah was concerned for the welfare of women and orphans who were left without husbands and fathers who died fighting for the Prophet and Islam. It is a verse about compassion towards women and their children; it is not about men or their sexuality."

[hudaahmed]

Love this video and y'all speaking facts. Going against polygamy and believing its not good practice is haram cuz Allah made it permissible and he's the only legislator. Monogamy is also allowed and that what I wanna have. Hopefully my future husband is ok with it. Monogamy and polygamy are both are allowed and u shouldn't criticize anyone who practice either of them

[saimabachani]

As long as everyone involved is happy with it and chooses that lifestyle, it’s fine. The problem is many Muslim men force this lifestyle on women who don’t want it

[mertmitm]

It confuses me deeply when people nowadays talk about that topic, because they always say that men can have multiple wives if they want to. But doesn't Allah (s.w.t.) tell us in the Qur'an that multiple wives are ONLY permissible if it's ONLY for the sake of helping the orphans?? So why all this talk about why men WANT multiple wives?
Humans also want to have premarital intercourse, but we don't do it because Allah (s.w.t.) tells us not to.
And even then Allah (s.w.t.) tells us that one must be just with all of them which is impossible, hence why every believing Muslim should abstain from it if not necessary.