3 HUGE Mistakes Men Make in Relationships

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[marky]

12 years ago, I was in auto sales. Had a customer, middle aged guy, late 30’s, early 40’s. long time plumber. He was looking to get into a 2014 F-150 FX-4, crew cab long box. Nice truck.. $42k, roughly, after all rebates. Goes and gets his wife, comes back a day or two later. She sits across from me, he sat to my right. All of a sudden the dynamic changed. He sat down like a little school boy, head down, slouched in the chair, while his wife spoke to me, speaking as if she’s talking about a little boy. “No, we have to do $40k. That’s his allowance, that’s all I’m gonna let him spend. That’s all he’s allowed to spend.”He sat there like a little bitch and didn’t say a word. He’s a professional plumber, she worked at the SPCA. And he sat there and let his wife talk about him like that.. the obvious, blatant, public disrespect shocked me. She’s talking about her husband, presumably a grown man, like he’s a child, and he just sat there and not a word out of him. I couldn’t believe it. And it’s not like the wife was a catch, by any physical standard… 5’6”, easy 300 pounder.. a negative 5 on a good day, with the personality and attitude to match. What a damn shame.

[TheMultiGunMan]

Every Man I've heard use the "Happy Wife, Happy Life" line is now divorced.

[keenanfish]

My commandments when dating.

1. You’re the prize and not her.
2. Don’t doubt yourself when she gets dramatic
3. She’s lucky to have you
4. Stand your ground
5. Don’t change your beliefs

[KingsguardX]

Mistake number 1: You expect it to last forever. Marriage or LTR is just a lease.
Mistake number 2: You dont lead and control your kingdom.
Mistake number 3: You are afraid of loss, so you dont enforce your boundaries, and you dont end things when it's time to move on.

[ctVreZ]

I know of so many of my friends who I lost because they lost themselves in their wives. I haven’t seen 2 of my buddies in 5 years since they got married. One of them is like a totally different person, completely.

[deanofrock]

My last girlfriend who was living in her parents home with her son rent free. One day asked her father to babysit her son, he refused because of work. She then gave him the finger behind his back. That was all I needed to see. Good Bye!

[Musrusticus-]

I don’t know a single soul I could call a ‘happy’ husband, they’re all under the thumb and very miserable. My life massively improved when I became single.

[deborahbrady]

Asking permission from your wife is backwards. As a wife, I ask my husband if I can spend money, he never asks me, ever. Stand up and lead your home. She is the help mate, NOT the leader.

[bradd]

100% right guys. I’m 31, was in a long term relationship from 19 to 29. We had one child together and a dog and a cat.
First 5 or 6 years were fine bcuz I was doing what I wanted us to be doing regardless of what she thought. She was kind of like a tag along in a way. I loved her and would do anything for her but I approached that in a tough love kind of way. I led she followed. I made sure things were fair without compromising myself and if that wasn’t good enough I say tough shit.
Once we had our kid things changed, and I changed. I was more willing to accommodate her in my life even if it ment making sacrifices, I thought I was doing it for my family and she was the mother of my child. so as long as she was happy I was happy. But this was the beginning of the end guys. That’s the beginning of catering to her every need, giving in more and more to her emotions, letting her get her own way even if it went against my logic and reason as a man simply bcuz I wanted to keep the peace. Less arguing the better especially for the child, that’s how I looked at it. But giving into her like that is a lot like giving into your kid when they throw a temper tantrum and you let them have their way just to get them to calm down. But over time the kid catches on and starts to do it to take advantage bcuz they no longer take you seriously bcuz they know you won’t put your foot down.
Woman are the same way, the more you sacrifice yourself, your needs, wants, desires, hobbies, friends, interests, all in the name of making her more comfortable in life the more she will take advantage of it. You think you’re doing the right thing by giving her what she wants but that’s the problem they don’t know what they want half the time, it’s just their emotions talking. That’s why the longer that goes on the more she loses respect for you, challenges you more, becomes more difficult and confrontational, the more she emasculates you until the polarity in the relationship is reversed and your now the pussy whipped yes man b*tch and she’s looking down on you from her pedestal. The fact that you as a man let things get to that point is why they lose trust for you, and that loss of trust turns to resentment bcuz she knows she chose you and chose wrong and wasted her time. Woman know they’re emotional, they know they act childish and they know they lack reason and logic, that’s exactly why they love it when a guy takes the lead and makes decisions. It’s also why they turn on you for giving them what they want bcuz when it all goes to shit in her mind it’s like “your a man you should of known better, you know if you hand me the wheel to our relationship I’ll crash the damn thing, you knew I didn’t know what I was doing why would you listen to me ?” You ignored your logic and reason as a man to make me happy and now everything is gone to shit and it’s your fault that happened and now I’m even more mad at you bcuz you let it happen”
That’s her line of thinking guys. She basically resents you for listening to her bcuz she knew half the time she was being unreasonable and each time you failed those tests until it got to the point where you gave up your leadership role to make her happy.

It’s kinda like a toddler who cries to drive the car, even tho you know he can’t drive you decide to let him anyway to make him happy bcuz he asked if he could drive. Then he crashes the damn car and instead of taking any sort of responsibility for his actions he gets mad at you for letting him do something he wanted to do bcuz you being the adult should have known better not to let him do it, you knew the outcome and let it happen so it’s your fault, not the toddlers.

It’s basically the same thing in the relationship, when that power dynamic flips she’ll resent you for ever letting it happen. How can a toddler trust an adult that lets things like that happen ? How can she trust a man to protect her and lead her through life when he can’t even stand his ground to his tiny little girlfriend ? That’s their mindset.

Towards the end of my relationship I had a dependency to pain meds bcuz of back injuries sustained from working like a dog in construction, I had no friends, no hobbies, and had recently move back to where she was from so she could be closer to her friends and family. Like I said as long as she was happy and our son was happy then I was happy. Going to work and coming home to them was good enough for me. And once she had everything she needed after the move and was back in her friends and family circle she no longer needed me. She created drama and turmoil in the relationship over trivial matters, instigated fights only to play the victim in it all, took horrible toxic relationship advice from some of her single friends and female family members. Sabotaged the relationship and made me out to be a bad guy so she could be justified in ending things to go off fooling around with different men for the following year.

10 years together, we’d often refer to each other as being best friends and the only friend we needed. In the end I was left with a garbage full of clothes. That’s it. Hardest time in my life and I hated her for it. Not for breaking my heart but for fucking Me over like she did, after I made huge sacrifices so she could be home with her family I was treated like dog shit. As a matter of fact our dog was treated better then I was.

I’ll carry that lesson with me for the rest of my life, and as hard as it was to learn, I’m thankful for it. Cheers boys

[MrJujitsu]

#1 I hear that so often . “ my wife won’t let me buy a motorcycle “. I told the X wife years ago; “ you’ll go before the bike goes “! She shut up very fast. The same thing when she said she was going to join my martial arts club. I told her that there’s no way he’d let her join when I’d tell him I’d quit and go somewhere else. I’d been at his club for 12 years. Never put up with crap from some hairball. It’s not worth the aggravation. Dump them and walk.

[theodorusrexicon]

I'm in an LTR and I'm on my game DAILY. You can't slip up. Keep the masculine frame and all is well. If you do slip up- learn and move on quickly - don't dwell.

[jonbuehler]

Rich is speaking wisdom beyond his years. Of all his videos, and I’ve watched so many of them, this is one that hits home probably the hardest. Guys, take it from a 68-year-old man. Do not fall into the trap of “happy wife happy life”. It’s bull crap. Divorced since 2001. She was a good mother, and she was cooperative in raising the kids-even after the divorce; however, my life improved dramatically. Now I see women for recreational purposes only, like a jet ski. I do what I want (as long as it’s legal), with who I want, when I want, without asking permission. Although it’s sometimes nice to have somebody warm, in bed, next to you (as long as it’s a woman), the peace, serenity and freedom is wonderful.

[professorlayabout]

My dad got remarried in his seventies after my mom died. A couple years later I was visiting them and she called him stupid in front of me. I was dumbfounded. I was considering an intervention and then she got diagnosed with terminal cancer so it became moot.

[MDwng]

These guys will not only ask for permission, but also refer to their wife as the "boss"

[k_vozzy]

Agreed. I always hear men say " Your wife let you do this " and when they first walk into my house "Your wife let you decorate this room like this?"I just stare at them and say, What do you mean my wife let me do it??? I dont have a man cave, I have my house the way I want it and what brings me peace.

[jdek]

Drives me crazy when I hear a guy go "Oh I gotta check with my wife". Sure if you are going to go on a trip or something you should let her know, but you shouldn't be asking for permission.

[philg]

The asking permission thing is incredibly sad. Most of my men friends don't do anything without being told they're 'allowed'. WTF!

[GPmann]

Pump & Dump . No Relationships

Be safe Gentlemen 🍺

[matthewsilva]

A lot of men are just whipped in relationships. Wife controls their life. Lame. I have had friends who dissappear because the girlfriend controls them makes plans and the guy cant say no. Ridiculous