How to Find Your Why ✨ purpose & life path

How did I find my why? Let's talk about how to discover your purpose and choose your life path, starting from what's most important and foundational. Your "why" is your spark, your light, your compass. Knowing your "why" will help drive every decision you make as you create your dream life.

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I’m Aileen, a lifestyle creator sharing knowledge and inspiration on creating your dream life.

Lavendaire is a resource for personal growth & lifestyle design. Follow along and learn how you can create a beautiful and meaningful life.

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Disclaimer: This is NOT a sponsored video. All opinions expressed are wholly my own.

[jheriengdahl]

For me, I stopped trying to find ”my passion and purpose” and embraced the idea that my purpose is to live in the present moment with whatever I do. So if I’m at dinner with my son, my purpose is to eat with my son and be his mother in that moment. If I’m working on an important project at work, my purpose is to be focused and try my best to get it done in that moment. I have multiple purposes and it makes life so much easier.

[sleepysawada]

I saw something on Pintrest and it said,
"I don't think your life has to have a purpose, or you a grand ambition; I think its okay to just wander through life finding interesting things until you die."

and honestly it hits.

[pebbles]

I manifested this video. I literally this morning decided to take a break from social media and find out who I am because I'm always looking at what others are doing, I've become lost. Like many others I should imagine. ❤️

[Anna-usyw]

As a 20-year-old girl, I want to pursue the activities that bring me joy.
I want to go with joy.
Living joyfully is what I consider to be successful in life. That's why, even though I'm battling uncertainty, I always grin at myself in front of the mirror every time I get up in the morning. Early in the morning, I have a habit of telling myself things like, "I'm glad to see dawn." That means I have the chance to attempt.
Anyway, I admire you a lot.❤❤❤

[Lilibetsdream]

Thank you so much for mentioning that FAMILY can be you why & your purpose! Everyone is so career and money driven. It uplifted me to hear you say that it’s fine & great for family to be a priority over money. After 15 years in corporate banking - I quit to stay home and work a remote job part time. I’ve never been happier. Yes we had to give up some luxuries- less shopping and eating out etc (strict budgeting). but it’s sooo worth it 💝. You provided some needed validation 🙏🏽

[clau_sing_]

we're all a bit lost, aren't we? Thank you for the kind reminder to keep looking inward and asking those crucial questions <3 I hope I get the answer sooner than later

[imjustcarrie]

My why is Independence. I have been co-dependent my whole life. I really want to be financially, creatively, and wholly independent in my life.

[melbelmel]

I think a lot of us put so much pressure on finding our purpose or meaning in life and seeking others to help us to organize or structure our own lives…when we can flow in acceptance and in mindfulness with gratitude. I believe life has its moments but it’s lessons behind them. I stopped dreaming so much because I only disappointed myself. I tried being creative but lived the harsh reality of it financially and career-wise too so I now realize it’s better to be safe than sorry. I’m sad and depressed but financial independence and stability is all now that I dream of.

[AllisonBorden]

As a 30 year old, I never thought I'd still have to be looking for my purpose/life path. But this is exactly how I've been feeling lately! I hit all the marks of what I expected my life to be when I was in my 20s. I now live in a different country and my whole world got flipped where I'm basically starting over again, navigating a new cultures/language and I don't know where to even begin! I feel like I lost my self/sense of purpose while trying to integrate.

[Negard_]

OK I know I'm a little late but I have to say this
You ACTUALLY changed my life
I was in the most depressing mood I used to hate myself
and I had no purpose in life
no physical energy to do anything
During this time (that I watch your videos) i love MYSELF I study more I do more and my life is meaningful
I learned to do not care what others think and now I'm at a point where I'm proud of myself and I'm doing my best to get better
It's all because of YOU
You're my HERO 💜🌻

[kamille]

I'm learning English with my sister, but the main purpose of watching your videos is not only just improve our listening, but also to change our lifestyle and being fulfillment in our life (Of course, it is due to you) Keep giving us useful advice, we love you🥰🥰🥰

[patricia_]

Thank you for this video Aileen! 💕 I’m 26, 27 in few months and I feel so lost in life, I know what I want but it’s been a struggle, I feel like I’ve wasted my 20’s trying to “fit in” and dreaming of a good life rather than take action! I guess it’s a journey and only now I’m learning about myself and what I really want ❤

[inhabitantofearth]

Hello Aileen! I use the lined pages in your Artist of Life Workbook for:

1. Book list (Books I've read last year, and current year)
2. Wishlist (Things I want to buy, or will reward myself with if I achieve my goals)
3. Good Investments (New things I have bought that were good investments and/or use often)
4. Favorite Quotes (any new quotes I read/hear that impacts my mindset)
5. Things I've learned about myself (for building self-awareness)
6. Hacks/Tip (any new info/tricks I learn for each category: Fitness, Health (sleep, diet), Chores, Budgeting, Personal growth, etc...)
7. Deaths (people who have died that year...I know that's morbid, but I like to keep records of that)

I have used one of the dotted pages for a Period tracker, and a period review (to describe what each menstrual cycle was like and all of the symptoms I felt, to compare each cycle and find patterns)
Have you ever thought of adding a "NEEDS" category to your weekly journal so people can list all of the things they "need" for the week like grocery or supplies? I add it to mines to make sure I buy things I ACTUALLY need instead of want. It helps me stick to the budget...I also add a food diary, and health section (in a daily journal) to track what I eat to see if any foods may be causing any ailments I feel....just throwing ideas out there 🙂

[Thefitty]

*I love that you gave us permission to change our why as we grow and evolve :-) that's really important! we don't stay stagnant as evolving human beings, and neither should our goals.*

[mirandaalaine]

I always put the "why" behind my actions. It helps me feel like I'm in control of my life and destiny. If there isn't a clear goal behind it, it's not for me. Why am I prioritizing my physical, mental, and spiritual health? So I can enjoy the best that this life can offer with minimal worry and fear. Why am I choosing to eat well and exercise? To support this goal to the best of my ability. Why do I need a proper sleep schedule? To support my brain and to support this goal. Why am I exercising? Again...to support this goal. Who am I doing it for? For me and the people I love. When I am at my best, others benefit too. We're all worth it. I want to live in a world where everyone's light is on, and it starts with me doing my part and turning mine on. We think so so similarly, it's crazy. Peace and love.🦋

[cruelsummer_]

my why is basically happiness and self-fulfillment, even though i make less money i believe that valuing yourself, your loved ones and your passion is all i need which narrows down to self-fulfillment. thank you sm aileen for giving clarity<3

[lizcuero]

1. Time Alone/ Peace 2.Cleanliness/Organization 3. Ability to choose 4. Enough money for tithing, me. seed, alms and 1st fruits.

[kakayzai]

By large this is the best talk/ content on Peronal Values, Purpose including the 'Why' behind that purpose and the life Goals. Despite the abundance of content on this topic, studying it becomes overwhleming due to subjective interpretations by the authors and content creators. But Aileen, thanks to your brilliant and articulate talk for making it sink in like a rain. Thanks again. Fond prayers for well being of yourself and the family.

[lifewithjown]

Im in my early 30s and still don't know what I want in life and what I want to prioritize in life but I want to be financially free, get my own car, travel like 3-4x a year and be with my parents since they are in their senior but the process of getting those goals is kind of terrifying to me. thank you for this video! Thanks for the validation that our "whys" can change.

[sarthak]

1.my personal why
1. I want to do that that make me happy
2.i want to do some meaningful things
3. My time freedom, location freedom , creative freedom financial freedom