How to Be More Likeable - 11 Easy Personality Techniques

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I'm a big believer in being myself but sometimes, it can really help to get through life more easily and to get what you want if you adapt in a certain way so you become more likeable.

11 easy ways to get instantly more likeable:

1. Be yourself. I know it's a super cliche answer but sometimes, the person you want to be doesn't line up with the person you actually are. The perfect example is social media; the way people portray themselves on Instagram or in Facebook rarely matches the real-life circumstances. We spend a lot of time and energy trying to get people to like who you want to be rather than who you actually are, you may come off as insecure and unreal. Often, people can sense this and they want to know the real genuine authentic you, not the idealized version.

2. Learn some great conversation starters. Having a few good starter questions ready every time before you attend a social event will make you more secure and you will probably end up having more good conversations.

3. Give others a compliment. Most people think a lot more about themselves than others do think about them. So they may put a lot of effort into a hairstyle, their outfits, or the way they dress but others won't ever notice it. So by picking up on something that is special about a person and by complimenting them on it makes you instantly more likeable.

4. Learn how to accept the compliment in a graceful way. Often, when people are complimented, they don't know how to respond. They try to diminish the compliment.

5. Show some self-deprecating humor. The perfect way to utilize humor to become more likeable without distancing others is to use self-deprecating humor. So what does it mean? Just make fun about yourself.

6. Listen. So far, we all talked about active steps you can take but one of the easiest way to become more likeable is to really in genuinely listen to what other people say.

7. Ask more questions. It goes slightly into the same vein as the active listening but more questions keep a conversation going and the more smart questions you ask, the more understood and heard the other person feels and the more they feel taken care of and comfortable in your presence.

8. Be vulnerable. Most people engage in small talk but small talk doesn't allow you to really be vulnerable and it's not well-suited to get to know someone. Mostly, it's just tedious and boring and frankly, it can be much harder than having a genuine conversation about things that actually mean something to people. So try to stop yourself from engaging in small talk and get real.

9. Minimize complaining. We all feel like we want to complain every once in a while and that's okay, however, if you complain constantly, you carry a negative aura with you and others don't want to be around you.

10. Make everyone feel included and comfortable. If you have a group conversation, there's usually someone who speaks a lot more than someone else. If you pick up on that and you notice that someone is being quiet or just alone, it really pays to loop them back into the conversation by asking them a question.

11. Embrace a positive attitude because other people will like to be around you because it makes them feel positive. Usually, positive people uplift other people and don't drain their energy. Sometimes, just reminding yourself of that is all it takes to be more positive.

So what are your secret tips to become more likeable?
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[RealMenRealStyle]

GREAT video - you guys killed it Raph!

[herutura]

People like to be remembered, so saying things like "I remember you mentioning that cruise you went on last year, " or whatever pertains to the conversation. Also, sending thank you cards for invitations or gifts. As well as birthday cards and postcards. They are tiny little things but show that you thought about them and made an extra effort to express gratitude. Also, I find using a person's name more often, in a natural way, makes people feel good which is the mission of good etiquette.

[scottgeoffrey]

I like to ask "if you could go anywhere and in any decade or century, where would you go?". This works well because it puts them in a great state of mind, it makes them smile and use their imagine.

[mathiasoswald]

Nr. 12 - be honest, but not discourteous
Nr. 13 - do not get involved in gossip, do not gossip
Nr. 14 - accept the opinion of others, stand to your opinion
Nr. 15 - be unprejudiced
Nr. 16 - if you argue, don't shout

[LeMale]

Video summary:

"1 - Be yourself
2 - Learn conversation starters
3 - Give compliments
4 - Learn how to accept a compliment
5 - Use self-deprecating humor
6 - Focus on listening
7 - Ask more questions [preferably smart ones]
8 - Be vulnerable
9 - Minimize complaining
10 - Make everyone feel included and comfortable
11 - Embrace a positive attitude

Remember, you can't force everyone to like you."

[enochteo]

never seen you wear a turtle neck before! great look!

[hadimasood]

Just love how you guys are acting all of these out. Highlight of my morning!

[elenalda]

I am a woman but i am still eatching this channel because some of the videos are not only for men, most of the videos are lovely, thank you for your good work!

[illysigelman]

I'll ask her out by the end of this month. Wish me luck!

[villegas]

I never took videos like these seriously but if you tame your ignorance and think about these things you realize its all true. Great video.

[macjamesflynn]

Thank you Mr. Schneider! Best Gentleman's channel on youtube, please never change!

[AbigailTheFox]

After watching this video I managed to strengthen a few relationships with my friends.
Until recently I never thought being vulnerable would be an asset however a close friend opened up to me more and I was able to better understand and help them.
So I have to thank you for this video as it really has helped.

[jevonsiler]

These tips are especially true for those in a leadership position.

Additional tip - show deference to the elderly and infirm.

[joeyhardin]

Another important thing I have learned could come under listening to others. If someone is telling you about something bad that happened to them, they are looking to be comforted. In this situation you should explain that you are sympathetic and will be there for them to listen to any further problems. You must never follow something like this by telling them about something similar that happened to you; this will make them feel unappreciated, will make them more upset, and they'll probably never come back to you.

Similarly, if a friend is telling you about something great that happened to them, this means they trust you and that they are genuinely excited to share this with you. You should show that you are truly happy for them; that their joy causes you pleasure. This is not the time to break their trust by attempting to out-do them with something better that happened to you. Just listen and support your conversation partner.

This could be effectively summarised as, 'don't talk about yourself too much.' We're all guilty of talking about ourselves too much sometimes, but when you do notice it happening, a good redeeming sentence is, "but that's enough about me, what about you?"

[giraffefootball]

Remember to not call people Peasants XD

[mcvilone]

I was always wondering how to be funny without hurting other, I'm a very kind person, and strangely it never came throug my mind to use self mockery as much, thanks Raphaël

[vojtechtax]

As someone with severely lacking social skills and a debilitating anxiety, I automatically feel like I would come across a try-hard whenever I'd try one of the active ones you talk about. Also, you cannot make fun of yourself if you are really insecure.
In essence, just be stable, not depressed and normal

[ЮрийПоддубный-дх]

"Hello, mister kingsman! " -That is what I hear from my colleagues.

[michaelhiggins]

I'm reminded to make a much more conscience effort to be a better listener. I find myself often anticipating my response, to further drive home my point, than I do to lending more concentration on truly listening to what the other person is saying and feeling. Yes, it may be a better tactic to "Win" and argument, but not so admirable when the goal is to have a two-sided conversation. An excellent video.

[FantusyFailure]

Love the video. Thanks for putting the notes in the description. Also Brown & Black is highly underrated.