How to get someone to like you

It can be hard to make friends and sometimes we don't even know where to begin. There's a science to likability and I've compiled 5 science-backed tips to use when you feel stuck in a social rut.

In this video, I will teach you how to be more likable, confident, and memorable by authentically being yourself. Remember that you are awesome and the right people will always find you.

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In this video:
0:00 Intro
0:55 Science Behind Likability
2:02 Step #1: Use signaling
4:40 Step #2: We like people who like us
5:41 Step #3: Use the similarity attraction effect
6:33 Step #4: Highlight similarities
8:05 Step #5: Be the real deal
8:51 I like you

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[geejae]

be careful of attracting narcs and people who talk to you because you're such a great listener- but who wont genuinely listen back when it comes to your end.

[mohanpanickerpanicker]

"I like you. Let's be friends" The good olden days

[Amoona]

1. Use signaling (show liking)
2. We like people who like us ( the more we like people, the more people like us)
3. Use the similarity attraction affect
4. Highlight similarities ( we like people who are similar to us)
5. Be the real deal ( be real)

[pro]

1 signal likability
2 If you like more people, more people like you
3 Highlight similarities

[Alezcollection]

God, I can’t even tell you how much your videos have helped me in just a span of 2 days. I found you literally two days ago and followed everything you’ve said so far and I’m already saying hello to strangers, making conversation with strangers, smiling more, and just feel overall more comfortable in my own skin. I’m typically very shy, introverted, and would always just walk around with a serious face to avoid talking to people. Boy, have things changed. Thank you.

[CapCrunch]

The fourth point about being real reminds me of some childhood wisdom the late Mister Rogers taught: “You've made this day a special day, by just your being you. There's no person in the whole world like you, and I like you just the way you are.”

[iamhope]

I am over coming depression, always felt like people just do not like me. I am going to use your teaching to become better, thank you

[ambrmous]

Being liked is very important. You can love someone you don’t like. That says something lol

[POPDATA]

I think it's better to like yourself truly before going out and measuring your life according to what others think of you.

[aprilpointblank]

The likeability loop is sooo real. Good insight. Everyone’s scared to make the first move.

[IM-uhtk]

2:05 use signalling, be direct and don't hide your feelings
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4:43 if you like more people, more people will like you
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5:43 we like people who are like us so highlight your similarities
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8:07 be real/yourself

[mrsmagicalmonica]

Like is the appetizer of love. That’s spot on! Vanessa, I consistently enjoy your videos.

[sophiasuerth]

I love how you worded the “like circle”, I agree it’s best to be direct when you like someone, you do miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. You need to voice what you feel.

[lilycai]

I like Vanessa. She have that niceness about her that seems genuine.

[adityasangore]

If someone like us sometimes we feel that people will have more expectations from us or vice versa.. Sometimes we run away because we feel pressured by them as they like us..

[lynnec]

Very useful information and I can honestly say that I have made the mistake of thinking my proficiency as a dependable, skilled worker would soar me to new heights and make me totally likeable in my profession. Not so.. you have to mingle, schmooze, laugh, relate, smile and relax around people you work with while at the SAME time, keep yourself securely insulated from those who have no intention of returning the like/love.. and with time, it becomes effortless I'm sure.

[geewhiz]

Don't become obsessed with being liked to the point where you get into "pushover" territory

[jimmykaushal]

Amazing person. Whole time she smiled and she sounded so sincere towards helping everyone. Each tip makes sense and she made it so simple to understand. 👏🏻great work

[curtisfoster]

Vanessa’s the real, educated deal. Every word from her mouth is pure gold.

[jeanpaulfiligrana]

This woman is an angel. You have changed my life one video at a time, thank you for opening my eyes