Child Psychology : How to Set Limits with a Strong-Willed Child

Setting limits for a strong-willed child can be difficult. Teach your child using guidance strategies with the assistance of a licensed psychologist in this free video.

Expert: Dr. Craig Childress
Bio: Dr. Craig Childress is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of ADHD and angry-oppositional relationship disorders of childhood.
Filmmaker: Max Cusimano

Series Description: Raising children can be a confusing project at times. Improve communication with your child and resolve common issues with the assistance of a licensed psychologist in this free video series.

[fibonaccisrazor]

Calmness is strength, especially when antagonized. Calm stoic authority is something even children feel. Like the doctor says, avoid battles, goal should be de-escalation - ask how can you help, what the problem is etc..

I have a very strong-willed intelligent daughter who quickly get emotionally "worked-up" and the above works like magic with her - before I discovered this it was always huge battles.

[citticat]

As a grandparent, when my grand girls experience a meltdown, staying calm, acknowledging their misbehavior, and listening is a great start.  I am focusing the scene now.

[musiqueo]

I hear what he is saying. And I absolutely agree with it. Problem is, what if that child is 2 years old and intellectually advanced, but emotionally on track, maybe even behind. I find so much info for older kids.

[alaldrik]

Thank you for the great information! My little one is intense, spirited, oppositional, and may have adhd. I have twin infants and he takes three times as much energy. Despite this I’ve tried to parent through attachment parenting and positive parenting. Like you said I find it’s better if I stay loving, positive, and calm. I try to listen and acknowledge as much as I can. I find walking miles with him leading and being present help. Schedule are important as well. I always try to be consistent with my patience so he can always trust I’m supporting him but it’s exhausting and I’m finding it difficult to give equal attention to the other children. I believe he may have sensory issues and I may take him in for ot evaluation. Thx!

[hienienguyen]

i love it. it's not easy. i have adhd, but i just feel like it's tough to deal with my son because he getting into his 2 years old. you got to be positive and of course there will be ups and downs but how to make sure not to cut that fine line between a rebellious child, and a child that loves you. my son when he gives me hugs i know i am doing the right thing

[Tanya_loudestgarden]

I wish I had found this years ago my daughter was unruly and difficult. Turned out she had sensory issues. Now after months of OT and continuing efforts at home we don't have nearly as many struggles with her. We definitely have had to learn tons of different parenting techniques with our crazy crew. We also have a child with Autism.

[tusharbhuiya]

Yes, some fascinating theory but I agree with other posters who have said that there must be more practical real-life examples for it to be applicable.

[nnrd]

I'm learning a lot about how I was raised from this video.

[Myls]

Thanks for this video. It helps to keep me calm while talking to my youngest who seemed to angry all the time. If I did what my son do in my parents time.... I will really get however, I do understand that time, effort and methods have changed . its better to stay talking terms as much as possible.

[persiancatsarecool]

I raised a kid with ODD that has turned out good. Do not negotiate with an ODD kid no matter what anyone says. They see that as giving them authority over you. It not only changes how they see you but scares them. They know they should not be in charge! But be a great listener and dont sweat the small stuff like he says

[JeewanthiRodrigo]

Thank you very much for this. i was trying this and you proved it is correct. I am a restless mother handling matters with an adhd child. anyway i am happy about the current situation.

[GenaHill]

Wonderful video, thank you. Question about minor breach and repair sequences (5:32). How do I do this without just giving in to what they want. I would love to hear some examples of this or any suggestions or insights how I can implement this.

[jesseskellington]

You don't get what you deserve you get what you negotiate for. Way to go for this lecture series -

[jftyygghtyhyy]

My grandmother's belt was the psychologist for her grandsons. We all grew up respecting people and Excellent human beings. Parents are in charge 24/7 no games.

[maryrinehart]

This all sounds great but it would have been helpful if you could have been more concrete and given examples.

[navitagujralart]

It would greatly help if you could give an example of breach and repair sequence.

[jackhersh]

I think most of this is common sense. Parents need to set boundaries for themselves too.

[martinayari]

Pls educate also teachers! You are awesome.

[moozain]

Excellent
This is the kind of awareness all parents should have all over the world.
Thank you, Dr Childress:

[ihateu]

Hi i am a strong willed child and i am here because i want to teach my mom how to control me