How Does Trauma Impact You? - Trauma Series Part 2

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00:00 Trauma part 2
01:00 Our thoughts and bodies are all connected
03:00 Fight, flight, freeze
05:00 How it effects us on every level
08:00 how to heal
10:00 Community is helpful in healing

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[SaucyJTD]

I put this all in another channel, but I wanted to share my thoughts here, too.

As someone with CPTSD, it's really nice hearing them talk about it. I know it's not in the DSM-5, but it really helped me when my first therapist was up front with me and said, "Look, you have PTSD, but it's more than that." Made me feel less like I was "crazy."

And fawning is a newer "f" to me, and I'm here for it. I've tried explaining to people that the reason why I've gotten so good at doing any service-like job is because I taught myself how to read tone, body language, and words in order to identify how to quickly help or satisfy a person or situation because it was a survival technique that got me through all kinds of hell. At every job I've worked, I've been praised for being so helpful, and I jokingly say back, "Thanks, it's the trauma!" And they laugh, which is my goal, but it's also pretty damn true. I've only ever had one person stop and be like, "Wait, what?" And so many people think my trauma is attached to my time in the military, and it's not. In many ways, the military actually helped me. The whole reason I joined was to get away from my shit family and situation because I had nothing else going for me.

Finally, the biggest point I want to make here: trauma is not a competition. I am that person who has unintentionally made someone else feel bad because they viewed their traumas as less than mine and convinced themselves that they were weaker and didn't "deserve" the right to be traumatized or talk about it because of that. This is not true at all. If everyone was affected by difficult situations the same, then we would never be able to help one another, and the world would be an even more chaotic place than it already is.

Thank you, Jono and Alicia for taking the time to create and post these videos!

[bakekay]

I love this and the ones that reiterate that Trauma isn't only what happened, but moreso how the nervous system responds to it.

[FishareFriendsNotFood]

3:00 Also want to add FAWN!! That's another trauma response, especially for those who have had to endure long term abuse they cannot escape.

[candieslildevil]

You guys are so amazing! I have cptsd, and I am finally somewhere safe and I’m growing and thriving, but since I’m so used to chaos and abuse, I am not comfortable with smooth good days, because to me it means something even worse is coming. I’m trying to unlearn it and be less stressed and on edge, but man it’s hard

[Memkiss]

Yes, "The body keeps the score"... One of two most important and impactful books in my life. You summed it up nicely and your explanation of trauma shows you've understood it well. Thank you so much for this video ❤

[darkcreatureinadarkroom]

I was the emotionally neglected child who was actively encouraged to remain small and invisible in the hopes of staying safe and avoiding as many risks as possible. As a result, I moved on through life feeling like I was an imposter, not only in the academic and work spheres but in interpersonal relationships as well. But let me tell you, that wasn't safe in the least. It took a serious breakdown for me to start getting out of my shell and making myself visible and... Someone who is actually worthy of existing and belonging... But with every step I feel braver, more confident, and more hopeful and grateful for the good things I can get in life. And I feel safer than ever before.
Thank you for giving us the means and the space to express our thoughts and feelings. You guys are amazing!

[ladyyoyo]

Hey, I just wanted to thank you guys so much for all you do with this channel! Your content here and on the Cinema Therapy channel has helped me so so so much in untangling my own messy ball of yarn, and I really admire you for everything you've done!

[justinglispie]

When you showed the book, I literally pointed at my screen and said Hey! I have that book lol

[anyaroz]

Can you make a video about trauma that's not fear-based per se? For those who aren't survivors of the war or rape or beatings or other terrible situations where one feels in danger? I mean I am a wreck and have had my share of scary episodes which I am sure impacted me. But I often think that it's the other moments that caused my deep wounds. How does one deal with subtle, non-threatening traumas like rejection, teasing, childhood jealousy, boycotts from peers, feeling unaccepted, feeling as an outcast during childhood years?

[lindaherbert]

Thank you for this but (isn't there always a but) for those who have ignored their trauma for years like I had, they should know that unlearning the things that kept them safe take a long time to unlearn

[sillysnowy]

The beginning part about the different resposes. I've recognized recently that my default mode is typically actually flight. But because of the situation I grew up in, that wasnt an option. It was fight, but that also didn't actually help. So over time I developed a sort of adhd hyperclock freeze instead. Where my brain is going a million miles an hour preparijg to act, and waiting until I'm in immediate danger to be able to do so. Preparing to flee or to fight in worst case ahead, unable to actually move unless there's a specific need to / threat.

Ive only started properly working on healing from trauma a year ago now. Lifelong trauma compared to one year, I'm able to remind myself how well Im doing. Learning healthy coping and regulating my overacrive nervous system isn't easy, and the progress is clear and happening. I dont remember where I saw or heard it, but there's something about when you remember something you arent really remembering the thing itself vut the last time you remembered it, so working through the many flashbacks in safe and secure environments and different and healthy ways, is building. When I started to properly heal, every single thing triggered flashbacks. Nothing was new to not have any associatiom of trauma. I think it's similar to grief, how working through it in a safe place can reduce the frequency and impact how well you get through it in the future.

One of the pieces that helped me early on is actually from one of your videos, where you drscribed it as a new path or trail in a forest. How most of the time you'll go for the most used one, but as you rrpeat conciously turning to the one that is initially overgrown and not maintained, it becomes the natural path.

[jennifergwyneth]

You said something about trauma responses being something like tangled up yarn. It reminded me of what we fiber artists call "yarn barf". It's what happens when yarn is tangled inside the skein & comes out in a big clump that has to be detangled before you can work with it. The strand of yarn is perfectly smooth & straight before & after the clump, but the clump is a right snarled mess! This was such a good analogy for how I'm fine most days, but some days I just get snarled up! C-PTSD sucks!

[innere_raeume]

When you mentioned PTSD in soldiers I thought of this book I read recently - Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging by Sebastian Junger. It talks about community, but the author is a war journalist and keeps that lens throughout the book. One aspect that was new and extremely interesting to me is how community affects how severe PTSD is experienced/how long it lasts. That for example, in Israel where it's mandatory for both male and female to do military service, their rates of PTSD are relatively low, because the war is part of society more a) in it's not far away and b) everyone has experienced the military. The people returning from service are met with understanding of what they've been through. Whereas in countries such as the US where they return back to a completely different world and lose the community and bonding they experienced in war with their comrades, it is a much deeper fall. And that they can experience a kind of othering by special treatment for veterans, being put on a pedestal, that just deepens that division between them and those who can't relate to their experiences.

This has gotten long, but it was wildly fascinating to read about this, I just had to share.. highly recommend the book!

[lesliesexcitingnews]

I have trauma disorder and it keeps me from connecting with people because I can't get past the thought of "when will they hurt me" and my husband has PTSD. if he's having an episode he's not himself at all. He also now has tons of stomach issues. His doctor thinks it's related to the anger he holds in.

[dlitvin]

Can you guys address complex PTSD when it comes to healthcare workers? It was something that existed before covid but became much worse during covid and I believe is why so many quit and ultimately changed careers. Same with cops...

[puppypoet]

I am healing from childhood trauma, and now my son is watching me and my husband care for my dying mother (stupid ALS) and I am so scared of what trauma this will create in him, or if it will damage his faith in God. 😞

[mariannehavisham]

You didnt mention the 4th trauma response -fawn

[mariannehavisham]

Can you use the link if you are in the UK?

[kaiyote]

Sincere question, what if the ptsd as a vet didnt come from war? I was not even given the privilege to have combat ptsd. Instead i suffered at the hands of my own uniform. I tried to reach out, but in the end instead of helping me it was easier to get rid of me than to hold things accountable. I was made to feel broken and unrepairable. What citizenship could i possibly feel after not even having the dignity to be given grace and simply thrown away while those who would harm me and others after me; they get to stay?

Additionally, u have next to no community: and my family is next to unreliable when it comes to my actual identity beyond "our kid". Aside from baseline Filial bonds, their hands are washed of me in regards to personhood

[maryamshaaban]

I don't know if this is considered a trauma response but I keep searching everything regarding its effects, how to process it, etc. And I keep saving the videos related to the topic and put books in my list to buy but I never actually take action towards it. I'm afraid I'll get back into that negative head space again where I was basically emotionally paralyzed because I know people around me won't tolerate it and will abuse me further