Explain Every Single Manipulation Tactic In 9 Minutes

Manipulative tactics can slip under the radar when we don't notice their subtle effects and psychological tricks. That's why we created this video—to help you spot these tactics early on, before things escalate. Join us as we explore a range of manipulative behaviors to empower you in your relationships.

We hope this video gives you the insights you need.

The goal of this video is to decode manipulation strategies, boost awareness, and empower you to recognize and handle manipulative behaviors effectively.

Disclaimer: Anyone can employ these tactics, whether consciously or unconsciously. Our goal is not to demonize or condemn individuals but to raise awareness for personal protection. If you find yourself relating to these behaviors, it's crucial to self-reflect, understand the reasons behind your actions, and take accountability when needed. This video aims to foster awareness and promote healthier relationships.

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Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Gabriel Miles
Animator: Zuzia
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

REFERENCES:

Buss, D. M., Gomes, M., Higgins, D. S., & Lauterbach, K. (1987). Tactics of manipulation. Journal of personality and social psychology, 52(6), 1219.
Butkovic, A., & Bratko, D. (2007). Family study of manipulation tactics. Personality and Individual Differences, 43(4), 791-801.
Buss, D. M. (1992). Manipulation in close relationships: Five personality factors in interactional context. Journal of personality, 60(2), 477-499.
Lyndon, A. E., White, J. W., & Kadlec, K. M. (2007). Manipulation and force as sexual coercion tactics: Conceptual and empirical differences. Aggressive Behavior: Official Journal of the International Society for Research on Aggression, 33(4), 291-303.

[Psychgo]

Have you ever encountered any of the manipulation tactic mentioned in the video before?

[draapulus]

Summary/ Overview:
0:26 1 Aggressive jokes
0:49 2 Anger & Fear
1:04 3 Blackmail
1:11 4 Blaming
1:34 5 Boundary Violation
1:41 6 Changing the subject
1:56 7 Coercion
2:08 8 Criticizing
2:23 9 Crowd Manipulation
2:38 10 Denial
3:00 11 Downplaying
3:08 12 Emotional blackmail
3:23 13 Fake moralization
3:53 14 Flattery
4:12 15 Gaslighting
4:23 15 Generalizing
4:42 16 Ghosting
4:55 17 Guilt tripping
5:12 18 Hoovering
5:33 19 Infatilization
5:44 20 Isolation
5:58 21 Love bombing
6:17 22 Lying
6:34 23 Passive aggression
6:44 24 Playing on insecurities
7:05 25 Projection
7:32 26 Shaming
7:52 27 Shifting the goalpost
8:11 28 Smear campaigns
8:22 29 Silent treatment
8:44 30 Threatening
9:03 31 Triangulation
9:26 32 Victimhood

Might have missed something, dunno.

[joejanota]

The craziest thing to me is even when knowing some of these, you can still be manipulated. You can know it is happening, but some part of you brushes it off as if it doesn't mean anything. Why would it? I'm not worth anything, there's nothing for them to take. There is always something. I spent the last 12 years thinking there's something wrong with me. There is nothing wrong with me. The biggest eye opener is how desperate they'll try to meet you in person once you're gone. That's how they do it. In person manipulation to force snap decisions on the spot. Don't do it. Just stay away. Doesn't matter what they try to say or do. It will always reveal more about them than it reveals about you. As cliche as it sounds, ignoring them and moving on is the best way out.

[duffiwatts-siwicki]

1. Aggressive jokes
2. Anger & Fear
3. Blackmail
4. Blaming
5. Boundary Violation
6. Changing the subject
7. Coercion
8. Criticizing
9. Crowd Manipulation

[Shadowolf]

Another one is called Bread-crumbing, where the manipulator may appear that they care one day, but completely flips the next day. They repeat this cycle to keep you in their circle. Hence the name, it’s like the manipulator is holding a big loaf of bread, but only gives you a trail of crumbs leading to it, instead of the whole loaf at once.

[jydas]

Fun fact : I've just recently cut the bridges with a close friend because he manipulated me for almost 3 years now, and he used like a half of all the methods you explained 😂
Your video just confirmed me everything i've been thinking for months, glad to see I wasn't the one in the wrong all this time 😊

[Pika]

ironic to get this on recommended because im being manipulated right now

[tinypinkittycat]

*People trying to craft a fictional villain: **_write that down, WRITE THAT DOWN!_*

[AjinkyaMahajan]

Ghosting is the most painful of all.
Thanks for summarising all in one video.
Cheers !!

[sliceofloving]

You back away, once they no longer feel any remorse for what they do, just entitlement. And they don't care about how it can detrimentally effect you. They can be extremely harmful in response to your mistakes, but proceeding to continue inflicting harm towards you, while you've already taken accountability, or changed, takes away the necessity towards their treatment towards you.

Its never a double-standard, if you've openly expressed your boundaries, and explained how they're distressing you, and the decide to continue to make those actions, and ignore how you feel, its more harmful to keep them in your circle.
And, we've all been guilty for at least one of these actions, that doesn't mean everyone is willing to take accountability for them. I am definitely not proud of my former self, but I'm happy enough that I no longer desire to be that person anymore.

[eanramos]

don’t mind me just casually taking notes 📝 i’ll be immune 😤

[TheTrueAuthorMRS]

Sometimes I lie. . .I don't even realize I'm manipulating people, then I'll realize later. "Oh shit, that was cunning, I was good. . .wait, maybe I shouldn't celebrate that"

[Wishkeirs]

Instead of counting the times I can see these tricks being used on me, I think its better for me to learn these more so to avoid doing it myself.


Wish you all well!

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Aggressive jokes 0:25
2). Anger and fear 0:42
3). Blackmail 0:58
4). Blaming 1:09
5). Boundary violation 1:20
6). Changing the subject 1:39
7). Coercion 1:54
8). Criticizing 2:04
9). Crowd manipulation 2:19
10). Denial 2:36
11). Downplaying 2:52
12). Emotional blackmail 3:07
13). Fake moralization 3:17
14). Flattery 3:45
15). Gaslighting 3:55
16). Generalizing 4:14
17). Ghosting 4:39
18). Guilt tripping 4:55
19). Hoovering 5:10
20). Infantilization 5:32
21). Isolation 5:43
22). Love bombing 5:58
23). Lying 6:17
24). Passive aggression 6:33
25). Playing on insecurities 6:43
26). Projection 7:05
27). Shaming 7:32
28). Shifting the goalpost 7:51
29). Smear campaigns 8:11
30). Silent treatment 8:20
31). Threatening 8:43
32). Triangulation 9:02
33). Victimhood 9:25

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.💙💙💙💙💙💙

[KabberTheRnner]

My wife did 14 of these, I did 11
Some of them the same.

I think it's impossible not to manipulate to some extent, because we all want what's best for ourselves, even when we think it is what would be best for the people we know, love, and care about. But if they don't see/think/feel the same way, to them it's us manipulating them to our needs.

I mean, I can't control how my wife feels nor should I, but if she's sad I'd tell her; don't be sad.
There's a thin line between encouragement an manipulation.
I think it depends on the reason/motivation behind the actions/reactions. But in most cases you'll never know.

[unforgettable-ff]

This channel is such a life saver!!!! Thanks

[arundumbon]

I just realized how much I unintentionally manipulated people in the past💀

[CozyCrey]

So I spoke to this person for 3 months, and during the last month we called and texted almost everyday. Then one day out of nowhere she just stopped replying, and I haven't heard from her since. It's been years now.

[clareoreilly]

I actually needed to hear this video.
Thank you so much.
Perfect timing

[nurturingnomad]

Sometimes ghosting is necessary, not to manipulate, but because someone did a smear campaign; the only thing appropriate to do is just walk away and not say anything to manipulator and their flying monkeys. The manipulator wants to be engaged. Ghosting is self preservation in this situation.