Teaching Children Respect In 10 Minutes Or Less

Respect is given to those who deserve it. And as parents, we think we're entitled to that respect. If we don't show our children respect, why should they respect us in return? In this episode, let's talk about respect and how to teach it to your child in three simple rules. It should take you 10 minutes or less once implemented, so take note of these!

00:16 What does it mean to respect?
01:07 Genshai
02:28 Rule #1 - Respect yourself and others
04:03 Rule #2 - Respect property
05:35 Rule #3 - Respect authority (cooperate and obey)

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Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[shez]

I used to play a game with my kids to do something kind for someone every day without them knowing who did this kind gesture if they found out we would think of another idea. The kids loved this game. And I always told my kids, please treat others how you wish to be treated yourself.

[Pocahontas]

This is awesome!! How do we teach adults to respect?!

[karinaschulerferro]

that definition of respect is so good :) i've always had issues with the golden rule of "treat others the way you want to be treated" because everyone receives respect in a different way. "treat everyone in a way that makes them feel important" is a way better way to phrase it (especially to those smart kids who find loopholes in everything)

[mayya.artist]

This is not only for kids but also for adults ... !
Respect Means:-

- Treat people nicely,
- Respect your & others properties
- Corporate with others
- & Obey authorities

[NA-pfyz]

Sometimes I forget how simple we need to break things down for kids, this was really helpful thank you!

[leslielou]

Thank you! Losing sleep over my disrespectful teen. So exhausted. This gives me hope! Thank you!

[thatslifecaro]

Love the video, as always! Concerning obeying people who have authority over you, I think it may be reasonable to add "if they ask something reasonable" to prevent the abuse of children. We know it is a risk among people who have authority over children... Children do not have to obey blindly people of authority.

[brightpage]

I think if we treat our kids with respect, they'll learn it. Like when I want them to say "please" and "thank you", I make sure they hear me say those around the house, appropriately. A lot. And guess what - it works.

When I want them to take their plates up to the sink after supper, I take mine up first and when I return, I ask them politely to do the same, then thank them for it.

By the time a child is 3 or 4, most of them can say please, thank you, and take up their plates, or put their socks in the dirty laundry bin... Or flush, or whatever. If they feel respected, that will flow from them into the world.

As an ADHD mom, it's so hard to remember - in a moment if frustration - to treat my kids at home the way I want their teachers to treat them at school or church, but when I do, it pays off in spades.

Love the "respecting property" section.

Thank you for this powerful reminder.

[silvaniawinged]

I've been harping on respect lately - so I'm glad this came up.

[mammathorne]

Your videos are very helpful and easy to understand. Thank you

[eliferdogan]

I really needed this right now and I finally get it! I thought loving my kids was enough and that respect came along with it, but it doesn't. We just had a sit down and talked about the difference. I was trying to discipline them without making these rules clear but I feel so much better about doing that because they know where the line is now! I am so, so happy now. I can't thank you enough! 🙏👍😊👏

[farrinah]

I am a sister. I have two autism brothers and a hyperactive sister. This tips are very good for me as I can turn myself from being a sister to a great parent

[deanaburnham]

Teach them to handle being small with humility. The truth is they are small. It's okay to experience that.

[jamiesematat]

My stepdad’s teaching:
-Yelling at me saying that “you’re not like other kids that respect their parents!!”

-yelling at me saying that “if you don’t have me, can you live?!!”

-yelling at me saying that “why don’t you go back to live with your dad who is like every dad!!!!”

Yelling at me saying that “ you don’t even have manners!!!!”

Me: well my definition of respect is someone I can look up to.

FYI: he told me that if I get scold or fight with my mom. Just listen to her.

Him fighting with my mom: doesn’t even let her talk and follows her around and say negative things to her.

[DeeDee-zorv]

Love your videos! Very helpful tips for dealing with our kids with love plus you’re easy to listen to

[indianocean]

Hi I appreciate this teaching, definitely food for thought. The only area I'm not sure about is 'obey authority' when we know authority figures can abuse their authority so I would suggest more needs to be done to provide caveats around not being blindly obedient. My mother was a 'never argue back' strong authority figure to the point of 'I'm big you're small therefore I'm always right and you're always wrong'. This led me to be vulnerable in the sense of being left with no ability to have mental autonomy and decide for myself whether an authority figure was right or not. I was very 'groomable' plus girls are taught to be nice and polite and therefore not argue. In light of this I was all obedience and kowtowing to any adult at risk to myself. I have been interested to hear Brene Brown in interview on this subject. She mentioned teaching her children how to argue back with authority figures. She says to them they can disagree, not comply, decide for themselves but they must must must speak with respectful tone and use please and thank you. I think this is a safer model for children but girls especially who may not know how to say 'No' to inappropriate advances because they have been conditioned that adult = authority = obey. I was not allowed to say No to my parents (and pretty much any adult) so this meant I wasn't taught how to have boundaries. Oddly enough my pushy aggressive intimidating often angry mum who used mean words and non verbal communication has left me a bit of a mousey 'puppet' but I'm in my 50's and feel have a lot to learn about basic respect because she didn't model it and I simply don't get it. You'd think my compliance to her authority (no choice) would mean I have great understanding of respect but I feel I haven't any understanding of respect. (Although I hasten to say she never hit me and was not a person who cursed or swore.) My church minister said his granddaughter aged 5 was given an award at school for 'independence' or something similar because she had said firmly to the headmaster in passing, 'I like you, but I'm NOT going to kiss you'. I wish I'd known at 5 that sense of self. Not having to please others especially anyone in power.

[Venus.actor.singer]

Thank you. This video is very helpful. I always hear people say... "respect". But who knows what it means? It's common sense, right? But common sense is very uncommon.

[mariabarraza]

Thank you Dr Paul.It was very helpful for me.

[ayakmajok]

This is awesome. Very helpful tips. Thank you! Praying I’ll cultivate more respect 🙂

[JessicaTang]

Thank you so much Dr.Paul, great example and great video.😊😊😊