Is Bisexuality Queer Enough? With Megan, Victoria & Kris of 'Something'

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00:00 Is coming out as bisexual necessary?
05:43 How queer is queer enough?
11:31 Straight passing
19:50 What does bisexuality look like?
23:58 What bi means
26:13 Common misconceptions
30:20 Ways to affirm your bisexuality
41:09 The debrief
43:31 How to flirt
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[ryanfitzalan]

as a Bi man, i had this convo with a women once. She said "you want something that i cannot give you. so how could it ever work or even make sense?", I told her "you are also a white women, which means you can never give me dark skin, your a blonde, so you can never give me red hair, your petite, so you can never give me large breasts, any time any two people are monogamous they are not able to pursue other people who they might want, that's how monogamy works, it makes no difference if my pool of potential people to date is larger than yours or not because I'm pursuing monogamy, if you really think the person you date will or should only ever want you and nobody else, you need therapy"

[eviemorgan]

the way the one of the very right sexualizes her experiences with women with her man is absolutely disgusting

[zacharbison]

Bi guy here, interesting conversation and very relatable. Thanks!

[snokalo]

I would love to see a conversation with bisexual men, and bisexual trans people :)

[PlantBasedAbroad]

I would love to hear a conversation about the one penis policy to dive deeper on this issue. That is, the phenomenon of bi women in relationships with men that are only open to women and the murkiness and problems that come along with that like transphobia and fetishization of lesbians.

[Hero-uphv]

just because you are pan or bi sexual doesn’t mean you aren’t monogamous.

[sadfaery]

Don't know if y'all have seen Heartstopper yet, but Heartstopper Season 2 feels like an exercise in combatting bi erasure. In the best way possible.

[hellmind]

I appreciate these women’s experiences but I feel like the pod turned more into discussing polyamory/open relationships. Being bi certainly does not mean having to be involved with more than one person. Enjoyed the pod anyways! 🦄✨

[jessicam]

You can do whatever the fuck you want. If you’re bi and non-monogamous, you’re valid. If you’re bi and monogamous, you’re valid. You’re valid period. However you want to experience sexuality in this moment is valid, and however/if that changes in the future or was different in the past is valid. How you experience sexuality is not a threat to anyone else.

[Milena-syld]

I would like to ask the girl in the middle to ask if her boyfriend would have a problem if she slept with another man, as she didn't answer but rather avoided the question saying that she is not interested in other men. But I believe everyone already knows the answer.
and yet bisexuals like to claim that the problem of biphobia comes from the LGBT community while their heterosexual men love to objectify women in lesbian relationships

[okcoolros]

i’m a bi woman and the mindsets featured in this ep is why i get branded as a pick me bisexual, having affirmed an agreement with a lot of criticisms against majority of bi women

[rhythmoflove]

I sometimes h.te being bi because it’s so lonely and depressing. No one really understands you and sometimes it’s easier just to appear hetero. Also, the level of h.te you get from the lgbt+ community is awful. Society wants us to choose or they automatically think we cannot be monogamous, it’s fcking exhausting! I met this lady who I wanted to get to know, she assumed that I was lesbian. When I told her that I was bi, she was no longer interested in me. I just suffer in silence 🥲

[cassie]

Thought I was very slightly attracted to some men but realized that I was attracted to their aesthetic

[morindahoelzle]

i'm not bisexual but im pan and i could just feel my chest tighten when specific topics came up because of all the yrs of biphobia i experiences as a kid. and for some reason i don't experience that as a pan person? its so weird. cuz i see everyone as a mix of masc and fem in different proportions regardless of gender or sex so why am i sudden now valid??!

[Grounded_Gravity]

This was such a thoughtful, kind, and lovely episode, sorry y'all got so much flack from all directions in the comments. But you definitely got a sub from me! Really well done and good vibes all around.

[SheilaArellano]

It would be incredible to listen to an episode featuring the men in these relationships. I'd love to hear them talk about what it's like being in a queer relationship as a straight ally and how they navigate queer spaces respectfully. I am also bisexual and in an open relationship with a man and we have these conversations often, I'd love to hear more men talk about this!

[jaelynellis]

why are the comments so negative lol?! loved this episode, really helpful conversation to hear other people’s struggles with how their bi identities fit into the queer community ❤

[BMDPTraining-Elda]

Super interesting episode and topic! It got me thinking about stereotypes (bi / feminine / tomboy) that you also discussed a little in this episode. How do they affect us and interfere with our beliefs when it comes to choosing a partner? Do we close ourselves if we identify as lesbians and meet a bisexual woman who looks "too straight"? If so why is that? Is it insecurity? Fear of abandonment? Is it possible to avoid stereotypes both in ourselves and in others to experience love more fully?

[masterstl]

I've kissed my male friends in a drinking game, while they weren't great kissers I did enjoy it. Lol

[luckystar]

sexuality is not a spectrum for everyone. that concept makes sense for bisexuality but it really doesn't apply to straight or gay (aka monosexual) people. gay and straight ppl do not go through phases of liking men and then women. they have a set attraction and it doesn't change. i don't think anyone expects a gay man to start dating a woman one day. there's so much pressure for women though to be "fluid" and really it's just lesbophobia. it's ok to only like women, you don't have to reach to call yourself queer or bi instead when it really doesn't fit.