The Problem With Being Too Agreeable - Jordan Peterson

Speaker: Jordan Peterson Thanks for watching!
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[monocyte]

As someone who is highly agreeable and concientious this is true. I feel disgusted with myself as im always taken advantage of at work

[joannaflowers]

Oh my gosh this is 100% true. I needed to hear this.

[mohammad]

This man changed my life and surely so many others.
Thank you Professor Jordan 🌻🙋🏻‍♂️

[dannilsson]

This guy is so inspirational. He has clearly defined myself the worst thing is your agreeable to a point then you kinda snap which is not good.

[jomckinnon]

freaking guy, he always brings it home.
💚🧡

[justaregularperson]

It took me many years to learn to have some kind of assertiveness for myself. Even now it still makes me uncomfortable when i have to confront people but i still have to push myself to do so.

[aaasht]

"Aren't you tired of being nice? Dont you wanna go ape shit?"

[fabiennepdt]

This one hit me! My mum is a codependent person who trained me to be agreable. The thing is I have been exploited a lot. I must learn to tell the truth even though I risk being offensive. Why should I care, anyway? Users have no pity for me.

[healingscleroderma]

Man, he’s explained perfectly what I’ve struggled to … This is exactly how my life has been and when I stand up for myself I end up feeling guilty, and/or it makes ppl angry, which usually makes me clam up again! I’ve long desired to understand what is a “normal” way of thinking regarding this!

[dynahmaranatha]

I had to learn this many many hard ways. I would not wish them on my worst enemy. It's so happened that I was my worst enemy and I needed to learn how to set boundaries and how to have boldness in myself and my convictions.

[ebriggs]

Yup, my narc ex spotted me as an easy target right away! Life with him was a painful lesson in reality!

[amelieroger]

The universe works in such mysterious ways. This is exactly what I needed to hear at that precise moment. In work, with friends, family. Nobody will negotiate for you on your behalf. Heaps of courage beautiful agreeable souls for this journey. We’ll get there in the end.

[marthamalik]

This is true & it took me years to learn what he is saying. It's difficult to change but I'm getting there. Thank you for sharing.

[flowerbloom]

This short made me realize how my behavior contributes to the problem of being exploited. By trying to protect the peace and being nice, you end up turning a vice (passiveness) to a virtue.

[cazstreet]

I've been starting by explaining in conversations how I'm feeling and why...
And I'm finding most people care and actually take it on board...
Eg. "I feel like I'm being attacked just for sharing my opinion" it helps...

[doloresglass]

This is so true. When you're very agreeable you become a convenient victim to be used and abused by others. I am 65 years old and was raised this way as a woman it's called being socialized. And I have had to learn especially between the ages of 40 and 65 how not to be anyone's convenient victim. Practicing assertiveness tempered with Mercy has helped me to be clear about what I hope for what I want and what I can do with myself and others. But please remember his words. They ring so true for me. And I am saying this so that the young coming up behind me they learn from his comments and avoid their own personal suffering. This is the value of listening to the elderly. To learn from our mistakes that you may have a freer and happier life. May Jesus Christ bless you help you protect you and inspire you.

[dachronicalalittlebitofeve]

It unbelievable just how many of his speeches I’ve heard that absolutely describe myself and my tendencies!
I can relate so well to mr P, I just wish I’d heard this 20 years ago, it’s so much harder trying to activate this knowledge and make it my reality when I’ve now become a creature of habit and depression is never far away.
However I do constantly now prop myself up again with this knowledge and it has seriously helped me from falling deeper into a the pit of despair.

[anitablades]

This vid. Sounds like you know me ! I hate Conflict, I have just been getting rid of those people in my life. To not have the headache of them.

[rajeshSimpleton]

I didn't know I was agreeable till I heard Dr.Peterson talk about it

[mitrash]

Omg it’s true. I really need to learn how to negotiate on my behalf, I really need it