How to Reduce Giving Fuel to a Narcissist

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You should always implement a Total No Contact Regime, but there are a very limited number of instances where that may not occur. HG Tudor explains what those very limited instances are and in those cases what you must do to reduce your fuel provision, to protect yourself.

[donnaholton]

I was married to a narcissist for 22 years during our mediation of our divorce decree the mediator looked at me and said you’re going to have to deal with him forever because you have children together, I looked at her and said my children are grown I don’t ever have to have anything to do with him ever again nor do I want to.

[finleyscotland]

Total No Contact until the end of time here.

[DenisKeenan]

Let's not forget neighbors who share communal spaces. Earphones (whether attached to a device or not) and sunglasses are a must.

[reyrey]

INFJ to a Narcissist: Joke's on you I've always wanted to be left alone 😂 *Door Slammed*

[FaithTruthAndGod]

No fuel given.
No fuks given.
8 months full NC GOSO the right way.
Thank you HG.
I can see how far I've come from my older comments based on emotional thinking to now, - using logic.

[jolly]

In other words, we have to ruthlessly go no contact to keep their fuel tank on empty (or as close to it as possible).

[jees]

My narcissist sent me a happy new year message. This time I deleted the text... even though I had blocked him on social media.. I don’t understand how he still managed to get through... I’m proud of myself for not falling for that trap. Thanks for the advice.

[ak-intelligence]

He contacted me again after a few years. I knew he would return.
I was looking for ways to get rid of him. He talked and talked, looking for fuel. Couldn't think of anything else so I said " hey, btw, you DO know I cheated on you while we were together. Right ?".
And I was blocked 😂 The end.

[janineparker]

My 35 year old son just announced his engagement my ex dies before the wedding, I will have to be in the same vicinity as him. We have had zero contact for about 12 years. My plan is to maintain my inner peace no matter what.

[escherichanja]

Narcissists are quick to judge others because of their lack of sensitivity. They can only look how things seem to be and have no clue of the nature of the things. That´s the reason for conflicts. They don´t know who you are they only know what makes you angry and interpret it.

[rachelrose]

My motive for no contact is to preserve my life and heal

[UD-fvxu]

Wow, I've never seen a narc trying to help the empath. That's a first for me.

[joannemcevoy]

This can prove to be useful when required. When I have unexpectedly seen a previous narc in my vicinity I do not say anything. I walk past and pretend I didn't see them.

[blurrylights]

I have saved this to watch over and over. Because I live next door to one. He regularly trespasses in my yard and caused a scene the other day when I had gardeners planting shrubs he didn't like. I told him to get off my property and screaming, name-calling and threats from him followed. I just ordered some headphones to work in the yard. I hope it works. I will also walk to another part of my property. I needed this advice!

[JohnSmith-lkcy]

Just cut off two narcs who went into a rage because I wouldn't answer a call from them when I was busy and they demanded it. Iy was quite funny when I refused to comply. Both went mental - narcissistic rage and blocled me. Fabulous! One was my sister and three months later her daughter behaved in exactly the same way!

[michellelesser]

"Ambush"...my narcissist neighbor has, literally, jumped out from behind a tree on a shared fenceline while I was out checking fences. Scared me badly. I recovered quickly, and just turned and walked away down my field.

She has ambushed me at the road, too, trapping me in my driveway by parking her truck across it. I drove over the lawn (I put my Jeep in 4Wd) and left, and then she followed me 30 miles to town. So I drove to the town's police dept. She disappeared.

Those were two of many times I've been ambushed.

It's so weird. Like, really weird.

[GrumpyMeow-Meow]

I got a FB friend request from a narc I hadn’t been in contact with for almost 30 years. Blew my mind. Of course I hit delete.

[bellydanza]

This was so helpful, thanks HG. I have a midrange narcissist colleague who calls me constantly for long chats. From now on I’ll terminate the “chats” and limit the correspondence to email only. #zerofuel

[pippipster]

Flick the off switch and keep it that way. (Permanent no contact.)

[cazhickling]

It took me a long time to understand fuel
But after listening to this video I had my haha moment I understand. Thank you H.G👤