5 tips to get your child to listen without yelling

Parenting expert, Nanny Robina, has tips to get your kids to eat their breakfast and settling down before bedtime.

[GBU]

I see too many parents focus on the negative. “Don’t do X.” Instead tell the child what you want. Are you ready to eat? or Thank you for finishing your plate! I am so proud of you for listening to daddy! Do not reward bad behavior! Instead of giving attention for negative, only give attention for what you want him to do. Then celebrate like crazy.

[ObeyaA]

Keeping it short really works! The more you're talking the less I find children listen. Thanks for sharing this

[rosexo]

One thing is making your child eat everything off their plate even if they are full or not hungry.. Now as adults we eat everything off our plates out of habit causing over eating. Wish I was never taught that. I wont teach my children that.

[emilywelsh]

These moms were so brave to come on tv with their kids!!

[lindseyhiebsch]

This video and comments are so helpful. I have a 4 year old and we yell a lot. It makes me feel terrible and i think it sets the tone for the whole family to yell. I sont want us to be yellers. I want to communicate better. So thank you EVERYONE

[inthegroovewithms.rachelle]

Another tip is to *SING* what you want to say if it's appropriate to do so. Have a jingle that relates back to your family expectations. Choose a little tune that you can instinctively recall and you can freestyle or prepare little rhymes for instances that have commonly been a challenge for you all.
Example:
*(Tune of "Mary Had A Little Lamb")
*It's time to put your shoes on now
Shoes on now, shoes on now
It's time to put your shoes on now
One foot at a time.*
Or:
"Speak to me with a quiet voice so I can hear your words."
and you can do the same as part of your technique for letting some air out of that frustration balloon:
" *I'M* going to use a quiet voice
So you can hear my words."

Experiment and learn what is helpful for you and *your* family.
Find your *Groove*. ❤🎵

[listeningall]

Re Lincoln not being able to settle down and listen to the story book, my son was the same but I found out much later that's how he did listen to the story, he could not lie still he actually had to jump on the bed as I would read, but I thought he was being naughty and so I would say I am not reading until you lie down and be still, he would plead for me to read it and lie down but as soon as I began reading he was up jumping again, so I would leave the room. I gave up on his jumping while I would begin to read because he would do it every time so no story time ever again. I have learnt that some children process things in a different way. He is 30 now and he has been and lived in more places in the world than I ever will, guess he just can't lie still after all.

[sunnyb]

1. Short sentence
1.1 let them repeat the command
1.2. Eye contact
3. Limiting time
4. Rest of meal is the next meal
5. Smaller choice
6. Deal with the fussing, make reading time shorter

[kellybobelly]

Anyone saying this makes your child “speed eat” and will cause an eating disorder … just no. My son will take hours to eat his food if you let him. The point is that you make them focus on their meal rather than other things - typically they’ll take that long because they are talking or playing with it. It’s not about forcing them to eat everything on the plate it’s about getting them to eat until they are satisfied without all the distractions. When we give my son a time limit he eats until he is full and if there’s anything left I let him put it away for later.
LOL people these days want to let kids run their lives - kids are not capable of seeing the big picture! They need some guidance!

[SidhikaGoenka]

Theres tips are really incredible
When your child refuses to do something...

Instead of saying:

"You have to do it. You have to write/ brush your teeth/ switch off the TV."

Say

"I can see you really don't feel like doing it.When I was small, I sometimes didn't like it too when Grandma made me do it. But we all have to do it beta. Come, I will help you."

Let's EMPATHISE before reinforcing the rule!

Let Children know it's okay to not want to do something, and sometimes we still have to and that you understand.

Be in your child's team, even while putting the boundary!

[itzelfrancobarrios]

Great tips, although it's better to not rush children to eat, you can wake him earlier so that he has more time.

[aurora]

This is coming from an 11 year old girl who is stubborn:
-don’t yell at your child if you want an answer that’s why they won’t answer
-don’t compare their life to how bad yours was when you were their age THAT there is what is gonna make them upset
-don’t rush them for anything get them ready early for whatever it is and then continue

[tamaralikecamera]

If you have a snack in the car, they'll just wait until they get in the car to eat and skip their breakfast

[lilamcray]

Idk but I love her accent and I found this very helpful!

[maryv]

The tablets are the problem cause once you take that away from them all hell breaks loose lmfao

[danniemikeey]

Everyone judges me cause they say my kids don't listen and when they go outside they get dirty and climb everywhere. But my kids are hyper (one has adhd) and I don't ever give them a phone or tablet or anything. When the kids of the girls in the family are misbehaving they are automatically given tablets and phones. But I'm the bad parent. On the plus side mine hardly get sick. They prefer brocoli and carrots over chips and candy and it's not me making them. They've been grocery shopping with their aunts and etc and everyone notices that lol. I'm only here cause they don't help clean their mess lol

[debbiethompson]

I also like to always give a warning shot before times up. If I'm giving them 30 minutes CA minute, I'll tell them I'm giving 30 minutes and then 20 minutes after I will tell them "10 more minutes!" That way the end of the activity doesn't seem so abrupt.

[kyleeplays]

Thank you so much I got my 1 and 5 year old to listen my 1 year old Likes to run around and my 5 year old just doesn't listen and now there listening just fine people are asking me how did you get your kids to listen and I said YouTube look it up on youtube.

[aiphoneninja]

If my kid was slow at eating I would give them a smoothie or soup.

[kleoqwer]

"Keep it short for spouses" so true