3 Reasons You’ll Settle for Less in Love

Your relationship isn’t bad. But, it’s not great. These are the three reasons you’ve made this choice, and why it may be time to review your options for a greater love.

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[jcsrst]

After years of poor choices in partners I had enough! I took the time to be alone and work on myself. Now I WILL NOT settle!! I am not afraid of being alone, I like it!

[mesicvraku]

I'm so comfortable being on my own that it scares and repells people 😅

[casperinsight]

People settle for a variety of reasons,
Parental support, companionship, routine, lonliness, comfort, to feel needed or wanted, to share time the list is endless. Settling isn't necessarily a bad thing, every situation is unique. Do what feels right for YOU

[c.]

I love being alone. The HELL WITH LOUSEY RELATIONSHIPS. ENJOY BEING ALONE. ITS WONDERFUL.

[stefaniastefi]

I m in my thirties and I hear a lot of this "settling for the best choice" to have a family, I find it's quite sad and brings up a scarcity mindset and the anxiety it comes with

[johng.]

No one explains relationships the way you do!!! THANK YOU!!👍

[nvr]

Settling scares the shit out of me. 41, never been married. I'm amazed how people are more affraid of being alone than settling.

[sula]

you are lazy, fearful, think its your best option. god sakes, this is so true. thank Susan x

[bazelarobert]

being alone on my own is much better then filling lonely and alienated in a relationship..

[whosahotmail]

I dated a guy and after awhile realised that being with him long-term would be settling for me.
So I looked at my futures: one like Susan mentioned the lady had - a husband who loved her and kids and all the domestic trimmings that come with marriage. Or, the possibility of never finding anyone suitable after him and being alone for the rest of my life.
It was the very best case scenario settling vs the very worst not settling. And I choose to not settle.

And it is still one of my most life-altering and best decisions.

[casperinsight]

For me it's the grieving and letting go of attachment
to the unfulfilled future, hopes and dreams and the lifestyle
feelings of Loss

[ValorTheFirstOne]

laziness, fear and best option, its a very cool way you categorize the thinking, hats off to your brains

[butterflybrains]

20 year time out. Was not afraid of being alone. Didn't settle. THREW myself into my small business. It went under. I lost everything I worked all my life to attain.

Now...the fear of being alone IS NOT WORSE THAN BEING ALONE. BEING ALONE IS THE WORST OPTION. One day I woke up and realized that a lot of the devastation came because it was just me facing insane life circumstances and a partner's influence could have prevented me making bad life choices.

Advice: simmer down while you're young and choose a good person to face life with. Have children young. Get thru the storms together because they don't get easier or less frequent. Two heads and two hearts are always better than one!!💕

[db-]

So well said ! You spoke my feelings exactly! Been alone by choice for 8 years and cannot tell you the blessings I discovered. Most of all true freedom to evolve living my truth . I agree with what you said here whole heartily . ♥️

[atlantidaunderground]

I've already started to settle for less... because I couldn't get the one that I wanted at first... and I feel like I have to just lower my expectations in order to have someone.

[Singyourstyle]

I bow down to your knowledge & insight while watching each video 5x! Lol

[Harlan]

I stayed in not great and even abusive relationships out of fear of being alone and when I left my last partner I realised that I had to look at my relationship patterns and take time out. It was so scary at first but it has turned out to be the most liberating thing I've ever done. I am enjoying being single so much, I've grown as a person and I'm clear about what I want and don't want and i will never settle for less than that.

[goranknezovic]

I just love your very rational observation of the reasons why people settle for less...for example, I live in a small town where dating pool is very small and a number of potential partners very limited...In order to be in a relationship I would have to lower my standards and settle for less in love...it's a sad thing but it's real for so many people

[battlestarsmith]

OH MY GOD!! I'AM IN SHOCK!! I'AM ALMOST 50YRS OLD!! SO DISAPPOINTED HOW I'VE LOOKED AT RELATIONSHIPS... BEEN IN THIS RELATIONSHIP FOR 15YRS NOW.. "SEPERATED"... NOW PLAYING HOT & COLD.. THE RELATIONSHIP HAD BECOME STAGNANT & WITHOUT FOR OVER 5YRS. REGARDLESS.. " YOUR VIDEO'S HAVE GOT ME BREATHLESS!! 'LITERALLY'.. HOLDING MY BREATH!!.. OF ALL THE CRAP.. I'VE BEEN THRU!! " PUT MYSELF THRU!".. "PUT HIM THRU!!".. "SETTLING" SO MUCH EMOTIONAL TORMENT... NOT KNOWING.. NOT UNDERSTANDING MYSELF.... BUT ALWAYS SEARCHING.. BEEN ALMOST A YEAR NOW I'VE BEEN ALONE WITH ME.. SEARCHING FROM WITHIN.. . RESEARCHING.. FINDING BITS & PIECES OF INFORMATION... HELD STRONG TO SETTING BOUNDRIES... II NEVER HAD.. SPIRITUALLY HAVE GONE WITHIN.. LEARNED HOW TO FACE MY SHADOW SIDE.. & LOVE MYSELF AS JUST ME... FINDING YOUR VIDEO.. HAS COME AT THE RIGHT TIME!!.. REGARDLESS OF AGE.. OF WHAT I'VE GAINED & HAD TO LOOSE.. YOU HAVE CONCLUDED THE ANSWERS I WAS SEARCHING FOR... " I'M AT AWE... WITHIN MY GUT!!.. & EXHALING.. LEARNING TO BREATH... "AMAZING" LADY... YOU ARE!!... .. THANK YOUUU... THANK THE HIGHER POWER... JUST IN TIME EMOTIONALLY WANTING TO

[smartanajonesu]

All three of those issues at 5:54 describes me perfectly. However, I’ve pretty much resigned to being alone because settling would definitely not do the job for me.