10 Things You Should NEVER Say at Work

If you want to be taken seriously and get promoted at work, there are ten things you should NEVER say. I’m not one to tone police, so I’m not going to tell you not to apologize when you’re late for a meeting (that’s a jerk move and you should apologize) - but there are phrases that make you appear incompetent and low potential which is not the vibes we’re here to give. Find out what the phrases are and easy swaps you can make to convey your capability and potential.

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[evanvelardi]

"because youre working with humans, and humans are gonna human" so true 😂😂😂

[jtixtlan]

“That’s not my job.” In my 20s, I would never have said that and I disliked when others did. Decades later, I understand that it is right to have some boundaries and seek balance. In the early stages of a career, people are frequently giving too much, weak boundaries, overworked and underpaid. In 40 years of work, one thing has never changed. Mid to senior managers will maintain healthy boundaries for themselves while requiring or manipulating others into working for free on their own time.

[amg]

I'd like to add to the list -
10. Never say "thank God it's Friday"
11. Never say _"Happy Monday"_ in that sarcastic, rueful tone
Both will give the impression that you*don't* want to be there (even if that's true)

[dcabral]

I certainly do not have an issue with the first phrase. I only have an issue when brand-new employees come in, and before learning how we do things, they think they can come in an change how everyone works.

[jamierice]

This is spot on!! I’m an RN and have been in management. I learned real quick about certain “traps” to avoid!

[crysi]

I have learned that most coworkers who get promoted before you - usually have expressed to management that they are interested in leaving - or word got around that they are looking elsewhere - and usually, get promoted out of left field if management wants to keep them or they have expressed that they want a certain specific position, and they won't settle for less. In my work place - a position, and random title will be created for the specific coworker - even when the job title was never open to the public, or a fair chance was offered to other coworkers. Love your favoritism analysis! Yep - currently dealing with this - and I feel like I can't express that concern to my boss. Love this segment btw!

[sbattle]

Nothing you say will matter when jealously and insecurity come into play
All you can do is pray or leave

[melissachanthalangsy]

1. "That's how we've always done it."
2. "That's not my job"
3. "That's not fair"
4. "I'll try"
5. "I am not getting paid enough for this"
6. "Did you hear about Person X"
7. "I assumed"
8."This was my fault"
9. Complaining (trauma bond and stew in your misery)

[scoobysnax]

I’ve watched the whole thing. Takeaways: pipe down, do the work for free, don’t complain even if they are being unfair.
Where is the empowerment? Where is the agency for the employee?

[lorettaknoelk]

I love your positivity!
And your voice!

[Kurisutchiandesu]

Hi Jennifer! I want to start by thanking you for all the hard work and the amazing information you share with us. I started late in life learning my way through life. I am actually teaching myself. story! No shame in admitting it. That said, I made a lot of mistakes along the way and struggled especially in the office environment due to not knowing all that you teach us here. Your work here has dramatically changed my life both professionally and personally and though I have a ways to go and lots to learn and practice I am already experiencing all the benefits. Now, I haven't been able to watch every single video you have here but I was wondering if you have a series like you do here but for mid management and senior leadership positions. I am not a manager or a senior leader. But maybe in the future I could be? After learning with you all the red flags, what to do, what not to do, what to watch out for, how to protect ourselves, etc., I just can't help to think about what are the pros and cons once you become a manager and/or senior leader. Like I learned with you in order to get to the next level one needs to learn about next level stuff then start practicing next level things and stop overachieving on what you already know how to do. What are the dangers, what to do, what not to do, etc., as a manager or senior leader I am sure each layer (senior, mid, junior) has a few differences? So, say, someone gets freshly promoted (and trust me I have seen this!) and maybe some of your manager peers and your juniors are not happy that you got promoted for whatever reasons they may have. Maybe they'll try to make your management experience hard on purpose, not listen, maybe some threaten to transfer, quit, maybe some try to file complaints and so on. Since your team's performance and overall success is one's reflection as a leader, how does one mitigate that? We learn a lot from you about dealing with bad bosses for example, but what about good bosses, how does someone protect themselves in a management and/or senior level
position? I would really love to learn about mid management and senior management, how to be a good one. I have seen good people get demoted, fired and some quit because more than one person ganged up against them to make it look like they were bad managers/leaders/bosses when they in fact weren't. Clearly moving up the ladder has pros and cons and one is not untouchable moving up, in fact, it seems as if there are actually more dangers sometimes. I wonder if you have made videos about similar topics and/or maybe you know where I could learn more about this? Thank you again and sorry for the long message. I have spent the last two weeks taking notes from your videos and studying like if I was in school. I can't thank you enough for what you've done so far! Cheers, Chris

[samuelopoku]

"Humans are gonna human" = hidden gem!

[mercedeswilkins]

Whatever you say and do treat it as if it would be use against you one day. If you call someone they may have you on speaker w/out you knowing. They may even record yall convo w/out you noticing, and they may have someone else listen in on ya convo w/out you knowing. When you email or text someone keep in mind they keeping it for record and they got someone else to read it. But once y’all have ya fall out they are gonna use all the email, text, and phone call against you. So be careful what you say or do and keep your answer short and convo short

[kohakanhanan]

Talking to a manager about a raise they promised always leads to they lied

[jaanikaapa]

Yes.. Do work above your paygrade and so on. Never get that promotion and payraise, because you're doing the job for free. Please do explain this.

[haunteddreams]

I'm currently grieving because one of my support workers is leaving in 2 weeks. I am 23 with Austism and I am completely aware that a support workers interaction is completely transactional but her leaving came out of nowhere, I am doing training to be a support worker myself so I was actually really excited to be working along side her as I would still be getting support as well but now that won't be happening. I want her to be happy so I have no hate or anger towards her it's just as we aren't friends we can't stay in contact so in 2 weeks time I have to experience the "last day I ever see her again" and I'm scared. It's stressful because I know that's her job but we got on really well.

I seen your "grieving at work" video and related that doing my support worker Training while grieving the fact im losing my support thats why i commented

[LindseyObrooke]

It’s unfortunate because at my current company, I have no way to show any other talents. I am a top performer in my department. I have been passed up for promotions, even though the director told me that something I thought was a promotion was actually a, “lateral move.” I do not believe that at all. I just hit my one year mark with them after not working for several years (unknown to them) due to undiagnosed autoimmune disease and then the pandemic hitting. Luckily was diagnosed and am doing so much better. Managed to be a top performer. But the job is so tunnel visioned. I am stuck where I am. I interviewed for a management position and was not chosen, which I wasn’t too broken up over because the workload seems somewhat impossible, but I was definitely up for the challenge.

I really enjoy my coworkers and the atmosphere of the job. It’s work from home. Everyone is patient and happy to help each other. I’m sure we’re able to be on our best behavior most of the time behind screens. But it’s becoming super clear that there is no room for growth here. Not for me, at least. Which is sad. That’s how I found you in the first place. Being upset that I saw NEW people put into positions I wanted to be in while I am kept where I’m at.

In some ways, I hope they’re really sad when I leave. I’m sure they won’t be, though lol😂. I hope I find a great place to work next that will allow me to use my skills and up-level!!

[GOTHICMAMBA]

Ive said thats not fair at work. And tried to call out favoritism. I never will again

[gotinogaden]

Stick to statements relating to the job at hand instead of voicing (all too) personal opinions, half-baked predictions, complaining, gossip or "not my job" platitudes. Also, on an even more personal note, don't get too personal with that female colleague that acts all too nice around you, because she probably just isn't you and you're making it all up in your head, since you don't really know her, so it's the idea of her that you like, not the actual person.

[freesiahevnosey]

when everyone else is complaining about the horrible management it's not only validates your feelings, but it's fun to join in.