10 Things You Should Never Say to Teens

Being a parent and bringing up kids the right way, giving them the best you can, being strict just enough and yet winning their love is not an easy task. We all know that words can hurt deeper than a knife, which is why knowing how to communicate with your kids and what not to do is key. Pay attention to these phrases you should never say to your kids or teens to help them and protect them.

If your teen is upset about something, whether it’s a crush that won’t notice them or a fight with their best friend, you shouldn’t just tell them that they’re okay. This type of response from you will only make things worse.
A study conducted by the University of Notre Dame found that when parents criticize themselves out loud with their children nearby, it can actually have a detrimental effect on their kids’ self-esteem.
If you want your child to grow up to be self-sufficient, don’t be too hands-on. You can, however, guide them through a problem and help them find the right solution themselves. This way, your child will grow up knowing that everything is in their own hands, instead of naïvely waiting for somebody else to come and make all their problems disappear.

Music:
Audionautix - Straighty Baby

TIMESTAMPS
#10. “You're okay.” 0:50
#9. “I'm so fat!” 1:50
#8. “Hurry up!” 2:47
#7. “Don't be sad.” 3:50
#6. “Let me do it.” 4:50
#5. “You're so incredible!” 5:52
#4. “Good job!” 7:10
#3. “You need to set a good example for your little brother/sister” 8:04
#2. “Go kiss Grandma.” 9:02
#1. “I'm so proud of you!” 9:55

SUMMARY
-Instead of telling your kids it’s okay, be their shoulder to cry on, listen to them, and acknowledge their feelings. This way, they won’t be afraid to come to you if something bad happens.
-Our parents are our role models as we’re growing up, and their behavior sets an example for us. So, for example, when a mother calls herself fat all the time, her daughter subconsciously learns to view her body and appearance the same way.
-Rushing just puts unnecessary pressure on your kid. Whatever you do, just try to keep a positive and playful vibe in the morning, your kid will surely appreciate it.
-If your teen is sad or crying, sit them down and try to help them work through their feelings, that is, if they’re comfortable opening up.
-If you tend to jump in too soon, you may undermine your child's independence. They’ll develop a habit of always looking to others for answers, and nobody wants that for their kids.
-Inflated praise somehow puts even more pressure on children with low self-esteem as opposed to encouraging them. They start to worry about meeting the high standards you set again, so they're afraid to take on a challenge.
-Asking questions about the details and the work it took to get the result keeps the focus on your kid and makes them explain their choices, both of which help their self-confidence a lot.
-It's better to use phrases, like “Your brother/sister looks up to you!” or “You're such a role model for your little brother/sister!”
-Children should never be forced to do anything that makes them uncomfortable, especially when it comes to physical contact.
-Children may start to feel responsible for expressed parental pride, like they need to keep it up because that’s the only way that Mom or Dad will feel good or love them.

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TIMESTAMPS
#10. “You're okay.” 0:50
#9. “I'm so fat!” 1:50
#8. “Hurry up!” 2:47
#7. “Don't be sad.” 3:50
#6. “Let me do it.” 4:50
#5. “You're so incredible!” 5:52
#4. “Good job!” 7:10
#3. “You need to set a good example for your little brother/sister” 8:04
#2. “Go kiss Grandma.” 9:02
#1. “I'm so proud of you!” 9:55

[ninjagacha]

99.99% teens watching
0.01% parents watching.

[mariela]

my parents always compares me to other kids. It hurts so much as their only daughter

[bunnyfan]

I don't get why parents think yelling at a child frequently motivates them, it makes them scared and less motivated to do stuff :( (note: I am not a parent lol and I've watched a lot of news, ALOT of news so that's why I commented this, I am NOT a parent at all)

[kawaiipanda]

"I'm so proud of you" really? I am dieing to hear this. Whatever I do they never appreciate(other than something related to studies).

[hydrationcult]

What I hear from my mom:

“Brat!”
“Stop making excuses.”
“Ugh! You’re so sensitive!”
“Stop Complaining!”
“Ugh! I don’t care!”
“What do you want?!”

What my older brother hears:

“I love you”
“Do you need help?”
“You’re so calm and nice”
“You’re the golden child”

[jemmaj]

don't compare them to ANYONE... relatives/friends/ANYONE, don't compare

[AliRaza-okrg]

“Words can cut deeper than a knife” i felt that💔

[marielycuervomartinez]

Word that never should be said to teens “ your a disappointment”

[Amaya_Doll]

"Because I said so" does absolutely nothing to teach your kids anything.

[kareny]

"Why are you depressed? We never did anything to cause the depression."
"You're the one putting pressure on yourself. We never put any pressure on you."
"Why do you need a therapist? There's nothing wrong with you."
"Your parents, we felt empty all the time. Don't be upset, it's okay."

I wish someone helped me back when I was in middle/high school. I'm okay now, I'm much more satisfied with myself now, but I just wish someone would've stepped up and got me the proper help I deserved. My parents didn't even listen to me, even when my doctor told them *in front of their faces* that I might've suffered from depression.

[parasite-ukfo]

“Things not to say to teens”
*pictures of little kids*

[iprobablyforgot]

“Don’t be sad!”
Seriously don’t tell me that
If you don’t let it out, then it’ll stay inside and burst out at any time

[zooer]

Here's how to raise a kid:
Throw away the parenting books and videos and just take your mind back to when you were a teen. Not every kid can be explained away with books.
So if you're a parent, just talk to your kids like they're a person.

[shalvi]

Don't insult in front of others and don't compare with their friends, relatives and others.

[oo-zvyd]

"Words can cut deeper than knife"
Me:*cuts watermelon by insulting words*

[dexter]

For the last question of the video:

"you're so beautiful/handsome!"

If you keep telling this to kids or teens they will grow tired of it and some even grow as spoiled brats. This was always told to me and I started to think that no one actually likes my personality but my looks. And it made me stress, because my personality is the complete opposite of my look. So I dint tell anyone. I don't regret it

[azizquadri]

I find it kinda strange as to how bright side talks about teens, yet they insert pictures of prepubescent kids!

[serenlorraine]

I wouldn’t want my parents saying “good for you” instead of “I’m proud of you” that just sounds rude to me.

[ithinkigotbadgas]

*10 things you should never say to a teen*
Me: being a teen and watching this.