Save Your Marriage While Separated - How To

"Save Your Marriage While Separated: Effective Strategies and Tips"

Are you going through a separation and seeking ways to reconcile and save your marriage? In this video, "How To Save Your Marriage While Separated," Coach Lee is here to guide you through this challenging time. This comprehensive video is designed for individuals who are determined to bridge the gap and heal their relationship despite the current distance and are asking how.

What you'll find in this video:

Understanding the Separation Mindset: Learn what might be going through your spouse's mind during separation and how understanding this can guide your approach to reconciliation.

Communication Techniques: Discover how to communicate effectively with your estranged partner, including what to say and when to say it to avoid pushing them further away.

Rebuilding Trust and Intimacy: Get insights into slowly rebuilding the lost trust and intimacy, crucial steps for a stronger, more resilient marriage. This is how you save your marriage while separated.

Self-Improvement and Reflection: Find out how focusing on your personal growth can positively impact your relationship and increase the chances of reconciliation.

Whether you're at the beginning of the separation journey or have been navigating it for a while, this video, "How To Save Your Marriage While Separated," provides practical advice and heartfelt guidance. Join Coach Lee as he explores strategies to reignite the love, rebuild the bond, and make informed decisions about your future together. Remember, while every relationship is unique, hope and dedication can pave the way for a renewed, stronger marriage.

Don't forget to like, subscribe, and comment below to share your story or ask questions. Your journey towards reconciliation is important, and we're here to support you every step of the way. Even if you think it's a hopeless case since you are separated, there is often still hope of changing your spouse's heart during separation and we encourage you to take this journey no more than one day at a time. Keep friends and family close to you as well. Remember that even the mightiest oak in the woods will fall with many small chops!

What many people faile to understand is that when a married couple is separated, the path back to living together again is a very helpful step toward saving the marriage as well.

Remember that this is a long term strategy and not simply some words to say that will make your spouse want to come back to you. Don't rush this and focus on being patient instead of pushy.

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[nunyabb]

0:22 Decrease the separation amount
2:09 regular meet ups or dates
3:47 try to work toward, , shared plan to reunite
6:01 seek ways to be team mates
7:28 avoid the negative SEEK positives

[GinNBoost]

Wow this video was released at the perfect time. I’m on month 2 of a legal separation and it’s been killing me. “Wife” has no desire to work on the marriage. Is completely done and wants out. She seems to be celebrating the separation actually. I’ve begged and pleaded for her to reconsider…especially since we have young children together. We’ve also had several nasty fights that led up to this. I’m in a lot of pain and appreciate you making this video. Thanks Coach Lee!

[EssyDee-tz]

Thank you. I look forward to this. I’m working so hard to save mine from the hurt that existed in the marriage. It’s a slow and complicated process and patience is important.
I have bettered myself in so many ways and I’m hoping it will finally have my husband return.

[Dad_Brad]

Thank you coach! I watched all the way through and gave a thumbs up as usual, even though I hope as a single guy that I will never need to use this information.

[Hobbyman]

My wife and I are stationed overseas. She is a contractor on a military installation and I am now a former service member. A month before I separated she dropped it on me that she wanted a divorce.

She didn’t want to try ANYTHING. It came as a complete shock to me. I thought our marriage was fine but for her she had been feeling drained and hurt inside but didn’t convey that to me.

I am now back in the states and she wants me to file the divorce here. I watched your other videos and did no contact and she has been the one messaging me on Christmas and other random things. The conversations are pleasant but I have no idea what to do and how to show to her that I can improve.

[Dr.Sunshine]

Thank you for this great video, Coach.
What do you think about going to emotional focused couples therapy in addition to doing the things you mention? Is it a bad idea?

[ArthurMorgan]

Hey Coach Lee love the videos, one month after my break up my ex girlfriend reposted a tik tok that said that you can love someone and miss them so much but still know they’re not your person and you’re better off not together. Is she just trying to convince herself of her decision, I don’t see the point of posting this if she really was sure of her decision. It is a long distance relationship if that makes any difference, we saw each other usually every 2-3 weeks for a few days at a time. Thanks!!

[joshshultz]

This all seems good to me, and it's what I want to do; try. But it seems counter to most of your other videos focusing on no contact, is that because marriage vs dating?

[javierorlandopach]

I’ve been with my wife for ten years, and like every relationship we had our up and downs but in the summer the lows were really bad, we were both depressed and miserable and didn’t handle things well, she threw me out of the house two times and I pleaded and begged and convinced her to stay, I forgave her but things kept falling apart so after a particularly nasty fight I had an anxiety attack and decided that couldn’t stay there and left, that was 3 months ago I tried space and we tried therapy but she is too hurt because I left she says I abandoned her and doesn’t validate that I feel pushed out but now she wants a divorce and I don’t want to cause I love her and miss her terribly. We have been in contact but we always end up fighting and I don’t know what to do, I think I should try no contact but what if I loose her forever.

[kingarthur]

Not gonna lie, this video has confused the hell out of me. It runs completely counter to everything else I've seen/read. My wife and I are separated but still living together. She discarded me out of the blue saying she 'wasn't sure she had feelings for me anymore'. For the first two months I was doing basically what he said in this video: being there, keeping things light, talking about trying to reconcile etc. She would humor me and sit there but not really approach the table with anything meaningful, meanwhile she's off living her best single girl life: buying cute outfits, getting manicures, going out with friends (many of which are guys) and so on.
So, I followed the advice of pretty much every other relationship coach and have gone modifed no contact - I'm polite, talk to her about matters involving the kids, house etc. But that's it. No validation. I'm giving her the breakup she wanted while I work on myself, my hope being she feels my absence and reconsiders her decision.
But now he's saying that's the WRONG thing to do??
So where do I go from here? I feel if I break no contact it's just going to look like I was being petulant this past month, which is not attractive at all, and it's going to give her the impression I'm just an easy available option whenever she decides to pluck me back up.
But now watching this, I'm second guessing myself and worried I'm doing more damage by staying in no contact.

[baskin]

I’m just seeing this but in your other video you have a modified no contact for married couples and now on here I’m hearing totally different advice, i’m confused.

[Farawatiwang]

I separated with my husband for 9 months now. He never reached out at all. i am the on who messages him like once every month. We went for dinner 1 time during our separation, and 5 weeks ago, I texted him i want to fix our marriage, but he refused and he said it's better we just be friends.
I replied sarcastic, " Oh yeah...be friend, thanks."
But i told my self i will never want to be his friend 😂.
( Sorry for the grammar, English is my second languages 😁 )

[jochenvandevelde]

I found this video after me ex came to see our son yesterday due to a medical problem. She stayed over an hour smal talking...for me it was weird and fun at the same time. Also we are texting A LOT in the past weeks (shes 85% of the time the initiator) over our son but also over stupid casual things... This confuses me a lot since she told me three months ago that she wanted a divorce...I dont know what to make of this situation. This videos makes it even more confusing 😢😅

[jazzyrose]

How do I get my free mini course? This is happening to my husband and me right now. I was the wrong one for attacking him in front of our children. I've apologized and sincerely mean it. He's done some things too, neither of us is perfect. I can only work on me and being as positive and uplifting to him and our children as I can. He's been faithful to me all the years we've been together. Intimacy is not my strength, but I sure don't want him to find that with another woman. I would be so jealous and angry with myself for not receiving him the way he's told me he needs and wants me to. Please help me as we try to rebuild trust and passion with each other.

[Robin-tood]

Coach Lee - I love your videos and this is all good advice. But every day I have less and less hope. Physically separated for 1 year - at the beginning we did still see each other occasionally but since July nothing. I have been patient and stayed away and I am doing no contact but none of this is working. I am really struggling.

[kabirjaiswal]

hey lee, my women broke up but still talking cold what to do ? Please help

[cpetks.]

Please, please pin this at the top of your home page. I followed a lot of your non-marriage, no contact advice and I'm afraid I did more harm than good. If I only would have watched this video first, instead of dead last.

[NovaRaya]

Would have been good to know this info before I moved interstate 4 days drive away after he told me he didn't care about me anymore and he was done with our marriage 🤷‍♀️

[aaronschmucki]

I am 19 years old and my 2.5 year relationship ended over 2 months ago. When she told me she lost feelings, I didn’t fight it or anything, I just let her go and I’ve been doing no contact. I never let her know “I disagree with this, I want to be with you.” I’m wondering if I should maintain no contact indefinitely or if I should reach out and let her know I’m thinking of her.

[riptideripwide]

So 90% of all your videos tells us to stay away from them. Now this is what you come up with?