How To Get Women To Approach You

Hey YouTube! How are you? I hope you’re doing well! I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. If you’re new to my channel, welcome, and if you’re a repeat offender, welcome back!
Today, I have a really interesting topic to share with you. It’s one that I’ve thought a lot about and that is how to get a woman to approach you. It’s a simple theory called preselection, by which you actually select the woman that you want to approach you. “Preselection” is a principle that dictates that women are more attracted to men that seem attractive to other women. In order to apply this power principle, you must demonstrate that you are preselected by other women. Before we get into that, I need to give you a little more context.
But before that, I want to remind you to subscribe to my channel by ringing the little bell where you can then leave any of your comments and/or questions in the comments section below.
Quick question for you guys, do you believe that women are more attracted to men who appear to be taken and/or who are coveted by other women? Take the poll and let’s see what you guys think? And I’ll answer if later on in the video.
In economics, there is a law called supply and demand. This theory explains the relationship between the supply of a resource and the demand for that resource. It looks at the resource’s availability and how that availability affects the value of that resource. If the supply is high, then, generally, the demand is low and the price is weak. Conversely, when the demand is high and the supply is low then the price increases. I like to apply this law to dating in that when you, the resource, make yourself readily available to women, you decrease your value. You appear desperate. However, when you don’t make yourself readily available, you increase the demand for your time and ultimately increase your dating value. You’re seen as rare and valuable
Psychology and business professor Robert Cialdini has researched extensively how scarcity works in persuasion, which we can apply to attraction. Cialdini is well-known for his book called Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. And in this book, he outlines 6 universal principles on how to master the art of persuasion. These 6 principles are: reciprocity, commitment, social proof, authority, liking, and lastly scarcity.
For the purpose of this video, there are two principles that I want to look at, and they are social proof and scarcity. Social proof means that people will do things that they see other people doing. And scarcity means that the perceived rarity of a resource will generate demand.
What does this have to do with attraction and getting women to approach you? Well, it actually has everything to do with it. You see, it’s fine and dandy for me to tell you to be a man of value, which will, in turn, make you more attractive in women’s eyes. But how do you go about becoming that man? You do so by applying this theory of preselection. You make women attracted to you by showing that there are other women interested in you first. When you increase your demand, you increase your value. And social behavior proves this that in terms of persuasion, people will do and like things that they see other people doing and liking as well.
Women are attracted to guys to whom other women are attracted. Women judge your attractiveness based on the way other women view you. It’s kind of crazy, but you know that old saying, “women want what they can’t have.” In a way, that applies here. I should mention that this is not all women, but a lot of women unconsciously respond and make judgements about a man’s attractiveness based on how other women respond to him.

[He_isI]

Face it men, the roles have reversed. Know that "you" are the prize! You can't help who likes, or doesn't like you. Be confident.

[Patrick]

she is right, I see it all the time women are quick to talk to men who have someone, but a man who is single and don't seem to have women behind him will have a hard time getting women to approach.

[karensbadapples]

As a guy, this happens to me frequently. Whenever I’m with one or two girls and we’re laughing, there’s always another girl or two either waving or batting eyelashes at me. It’s kind of a red flag and I never even bother wanting to talk to them. It’s not genuine attraction. Just my opinion 😐

[jonstern]

Can't really be bothered with all this. Thinking and contriving too much. Better to just work on your own self confidence and inner happiness as it is that that is attractive to others

[movadoband]

I am a middle age man, I remember when I was younger I thought pretty girls like Kate were just out of my league, so I never tried to talk to girls who were above average, that was all in my head, it wasn't true then and it isn't true now, if any of you guys catch yourselves thinking this way it is time to stop and rethink these beliefs, find the qualities that make you amazing and flaunt them.

[joeexotic]

Isn't it silly that women just want what they can't have ? Wanting taken men, trying to steal another woman's partner ? This sucks

[Troyster]

I noticed this phenomenon years ago. I would be pretty much invisible until I was out with a female friend. I don't consider it a very flattering or nice reason to be liked, but nevertheless it's true. I've witnessed it myself. Honestly, I'd prefer ones that weren't like that.

[IvanLendl]

Without question there is an enormous amount of truth in this video. I've seen it and yes experienced it myself. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that if you can have 1 or 2 attractive female friends around you, conversing and laughing with you in a social setting it literally guarantees other women who are present in that social setting will want you. Though they will still want you to approach them imo.

However, it's also been my experience that women who are attracted to guys in that manner are flighty and lack character. I mean you want a woman to want you for you, not to want you mainly (or just) because she thinks those two women over there have deemed you worthy.

[albertwesker]

I wish women would show more initiative. It's not 1800s anymore.

That and its reeally nice to know she's into you. That way you can not waste tm

[ebooksmaster]

Another good strategy, talk to the 9's and 10's just to get the attention of the 7''s and 8's. Incidentally, the 9's and 10's might end up liking you too, since you are just using them and not going after them directly.

[jonessmith]

From the UK, I can't be bother with does she like me or not. Life too short to be guessing if she wants me. She gets one shot or I lose interest and move on. Women are like buses another one always turns up.

[maxamillion]

I went out with a girlfriend before and girls would come up to me later and say "I saw you earlier with your sister at the mall, " yeah my sister of a different ethnicity than me. Right.

[markfischer]

So as a single man should I wear a wedding ring anyway to attract women?

[OldManGripStrength]

I’ve never had much success with the ladies when I’m the one looking for them, but when I go to a bar and show no interest I’m way more successful than usual.

[SeaTraveller]

Don't have time to do that lol. Went to Europe and South America. Women super easy to approach. Usually they will start talking to you first.

[Angelthedog]

When I was a junior in college, I got popular with the ladies when I stumbled into the principle Kate Spring is describing. I started going to parties not looking to find women, because I had sort of given up at my school, which had a poor male/female ratio. I was polite but disinterested. Then a former cheerleader liked me for a second (we had two dates). Those two things blew the roof off my dating. Zero to hero in one quarter.

[marksummers]

Advice sounds spot on to me. While I in no way advocate adultery, I noticed a huge increase in the number and quality of women who came on to me.

[valkyriekhan]

I really don't have much time for a video right now. Maybe i can watch when i get back from the park with suzie & Jennifer. Thanks tho

[davidbarbee]

Yo, Kate! You’re awesome! Now I’ve got real work to do, so quit distracting me with so many great videos!,
For real, you have done a phenomenal job of condensing sound psychology into quick practical videos.

[jamieseiple]

Young people play a lot of games. Just an idea but how about honesty? It works quite well.