7 Things You Should Keep Private

Do you believe in the importance of privacy? Some people certainly do. No matter how much we may want to open up and share our true selves with others, the kind of connection we crave can only be satisfied if we respect our own privacy and be careful about who it is we let in. So here are a few things we recommend you keep private!

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Billie
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DISCLAIMER: This video is for educational purposes and is based on personal opinions. This video is not a substitute for professional advice, but general guidance. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you.

[Psychgo]

Hi everyone! We have a favour to ask. You may have noticed we released almost over 4 videos recently. The reason we did that was so we can tackle as many topics that were suggested as quickly as possible. But the draw back was that they don't get as much attention that they deserve. Just wondering if you could do us a favour and watch one or two of them and leave a comment in the videos? It would help so much! If you did, let us know so we can thank you below!

[catarina]

- you family problems
- your relationship issues
- your income/financial situation
- your fears and weaknesses
- dreams and goals
- your personal secrets
- other people’s secrets

[dawsoncarr]

I feel like you should always have a trusted friend because that stuff weighs on you eventually. It can all become too much. Don’t feel like you have to go at it alone

[gergsmail]

Keeping my family problems to myself is part of why I dealt with over a decade of abuse.

[witchypoo]

Private doesn’t mean that you don’t tell anyone ever. It just means that you should be selective about it. & be careful not to trash talk people.

We all need someone to talk to about our problems.

[recoveringsoul]

This list is basically don't talk to anyone about anything remotely important. Are you just trying to drum up business for therapists, trying to make them the only safe place? But we need real connection to another person. Therapists come and go, we need friends or spouse or siblings who actually know us, the kind who will take you to the emergency room, jump your car, water your plants if you're gone.

[StrawbearXD]

Literally every friend I’ve had that I never talked about these things with turned out to be toxic. I think the main point is, is don’t share these things with the wrong people. These things help to develop deeper relationships when both parties share and are there for each other. So don’t be a therapist friend or trauma dump, instead find someone you trust to talk about these things. When people don’t want to hear what you want to say and only care about themselves, they’ll just leave you broken when you share. So just be careful and trust your gut.<3

[nsf_]

the only issue i have with the “dont talk about income” rule is how much income transparency prevents people from getting walked over, exposing pay gaps, or just screwed. i agree that most of the time, talking about your money will make them feel either the jealousy, pity, or just uncomfortable, but it’s helped me personally walk away from job they took advantage of me at.

[lizzyoktarin]

Tbh I'm pretty shocked that psych2go uploads such a video. The first thing we learn in training is that there never should be any issues that can't be addressed, especially topics like family or money. Sometimes you need to talk about these things with people who aren't as close as friends etc. We shouldn't keep more things to ourselves but rather learn how to deal with other people's struggles. This advice is problematic and can be really, really toxic because you can't relate it to just a certain area or group of people, the circumstances regarding every single person are way too individual for that.

[veronicasvideodiaries]

I agree with a lot of the comments section it depends who you’re talking to. I always share my financial situation with coworkers and some friends to make sure we’re all getting paid fairly

[DoRa-o.]

0:45 Your Family problems
1:13 Your relationship problems
1:45 Your income or Financial situation
2:16 Your Fears and Weakness
2:46 Your Dreams and Goals
3:20 Your personal Secrets
3:48 Other people's Secrets

I hope it helps You;)

[dbcooper]

As others have written this video is problematic. Yes, there are things/secrets best left unshared. Once shared they're no longer a secret.
The central point, IMO, is the need for discretion. The "whole world" doesn't need to know, however, if sharing will actually help then do it. Keeping it inside of you could be more dangerous, including exploding at the wrong time and the wrong people, or permitting the (dangerous &/or dysfunctional) behavior to continue.
Just, look before you leap and remember discretion is the better part of valor. .

[bodyhairpositive]

Highly disagree with the first 3.

If you're being abused by your family or partner, but you don't realise it's abuse, then telling other people about the bad things your partner or family member does to you is the only way to find out that it's abuse (if you can't afford to see a therapist).


Also, everyone SHOULD talk about how much money they make. Keeping your income private is exactly what contributes to women and people of colour being paid less than their white male colleagues. In order to empower others financially, we have to talk about how much we make.


But I agree with the other points.

[allisonn]

This video is encouraging codependency. It also is very unhelpful for the millions of people with ADHD and ASD who already have to mask themselves to fit into society. I think this video could be helpful if told in a different light. This could really trigger a lot of people that struggle with trauma.

[shannonheartsuu]

I think this is one of the first Psych2Go I have disagreed with! As long as you KNOW you can trust the person you’re telling then of course open up to them if needed. I’m a bit torn between the fears and weaknesses because of course people use them against you. Or even explain to you that those fears aren’t valid (like “irrational” fears/phobias) which could either make you worse or make you realise they aren’t that bad. Even then, the person shouldn’t make you feel worse for having those issues when you share them. It’s all about the person you trust 100%.

[norakrissford]

I share family problems, relationship problems and money issues with close friends. I go to therapy but telling a friend is different. I don't tell these things like I would tell my therapist but I just ask them if they are emotionally available and if they are, I talk about it. I don't ask for their advice and they just listen. I listen to them as well. It has made us closer and we still have boundaries. I'm glad to have my friends. They are amazing.

[Peppergirl]

I feel like you're totally wrong here. Sure there's such a thing as oversharing, but never discussing anything of substance, never being anything but perfect....it's shallow. Sure, trusting the wrong person can be pretty painful, but there's always the chance to have lasting friendships, even if not all are of the same depth.

[loveapureheart]

I disagree with a lot of this sometimes it’s good to just let it all out. Like I’m currently struggling financially and I have a well off friend who always wants to spend money and he expects gifts that I can’t afford. Being honest about my finances frees me from the pressure of feeling guilty. Also I must say that if you are in a rough spot and your friends family don’t help you it’s a good way for you to learn how much they really love you. Some people are extremely selfish and you never realize it until it’s 2 late.

[HardBloodNelza]

This is useful both ways; by knowing what not to talk about and what to not ask people.

[PokidotGamer]

Well I kept my depression a secret from my bestie thinking it was the right thing to do, and to no surprise it got worse when it was kept inside. When we finally talked about it it got better. I may not be a person who finds opening up to people easy, but I do know that sometimes you just gotta take your most trustworthy friend and talk with them about it. Sometimes we have stuff that we can’t tell our parents about, so what do we do? Keep it hidden?