INFJs and Negative Thoughts

Do you ever beat yourself up in your mind, INFJ? How do you deal with negative thoughts and negative self-talk? Check out this video to find out!

[martinp.]

Thank you so much for your videos. They've been very helpful in helping me deal with being an INFJ. Truly appreciate it.

[jeetkundough]

Thank you. I am an INFJ that struggles with depression. This helps put things in prospective.

[uwusmolbean]

The main thing is, don't give up.
There is a place where you can be away from people, doing something that interests and fulfills you, making some kind of frugal existence.
This keeps your mind busy.
(Idk know what the exact situation is for any specific individual, that's up to you.)
Probably won't find it the "mainstream" way, just take time to look and ask.
So don't get toxic an unhealthy your self.
Keep to that goal/vision.

(Nobody had the sense to convey that 2 me starting out. Had to figure it all out myself.)
Peace.

[nancyandaharon]

Thank you, AGAIN!, for great content. Just came out the other side of a few weeks, struggling with these exact issues. "You're not messed up or broken, just different." is where I finally arrived! And I realized that despite the fact that I can't cut off completely from the people who give me a hard time, their negative judgments of me are their OPINIONS, not facts.
I keep an affirmations notebook, size A5, and I do one page a day, 22 lines. Most suggest doing "I AM" statements, healthy self talk, but as an INFJ, I also do "YOU ARE", because I want to feel loved and respected for who I am. I imagine the important people in my life telling me what I would love to hear from them. It helps to turn off the hurt and anger loop I get into. I also use quotes from Psalms, Proverbs and the Prophets. They always prop me up.
Thanks again, I wish you had done this one in January!

[MeowlodieHL]

Great video! This was a timely message for me. God bless.

[winecler]

I do like the advice about positive vibes in the end of the videos. I actually have found myself watching alot of new lately, but yes my mood chippers when I put on my "cool music" playlist

[ElusvOptmst]

Videos like yours helps everyone, especially initiatives, like us INFJs. Bo your are the greatest! Thanks for your wonderful suggestions. I always can use sound advice.

[ElleFierce]

I am so grateful to God that He guided me to your channel when I needed it most! God bless you!

[LenaBjarskog]

Thank you so much! I’m a 40 yo single INFJ who have a lot of thoughts playing in my head, judging me for being single! I really have to call those thoughts out, and focus on all the love in my choices🙏🏽

[jomico-]

I end up analysing every conversation i have with others, every telephone call i make gets replayed in mind after the event and end up wishing i said this and not that.To me that is an attempt to fine tune my interactions yet in a non rewarding...negative way.Guess i will end up going mad.
Thanks for the video, it showed me i was doing this so often, i thought it was normal!

[mimimimz]

Thank you Bo! I can't believe the perfect timing of this post. Just what I needed to hear. I have been feeling "not myself" for a month or so. In the past I would have even had a hard time recognizing that and therefore not able to move away from it. Thank you for your words and advice; they are definitely part of me getting "back to myself".

[coppersense]

Rewatching this. @Ispeakpeople You are such a blessing, ; thank you. I feel like I made this comment before somewhere, but when I hear about distorted beliefs and inaccurate, automatic thought patterns it reminds me of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. The CBT model really gave me perspective on thoughts and depression, and empowered me with great tools. I love having a toolbox with practical tools that let me get to work on blocked area such as negative thinking. So very satisfying, lol, as any To Do list-loving INFJ can imagine. Thanks again, and sending GOOD thoughts to any other INFJs watching!
#Yang2020
#ispeakpeople

[JoeMotionVideos]

I was just pondering this topic topic. Thank you.

[maryaforbus]

Yes, that was definitely for me. Thank you so very much for caring and helping!

[liecaantibo]

hello, thank you for this one. I am also a 100% INFJ. I took myers brigs test when I was in college and all the things you've said relates me a lot.

sending love from the philippines... hoping to get a copy of your book soon.

[bobmarvincoconoah]

Really needed this today, thanks Bo! <3

[classiccarsclassicrock]

Thank you for addressing this. I just had a friend who seemed to turn a stalker on me. (Guy) He started coming over and hanging several times a day. When I told him I needed space. (by then I was a basket case almost.) I really cared about him. After I told he was coming by walking around my house coming up on my porch. I did have Fe for him and it threw me off. After a few days, I bought a taser and pepper spray. (This had not come yet in the mail.) so I called the police. As an INFJ I really; want to know why and I feel bad about maybe thinking wrong about him. I am an INFJ who needs closure and was so lost in wondering if I misjudged him for good or bad. Feeling stupid and lost. Too much overload with using Se with him for 6 hours a day for fun. It was fine once a week, but every day 3 x a day messed me up since I had no time to process. My intuition was gone and many conflicts in my mind. I live alone, have enough money not to work anymore so I usually am happy or depressed only slightly when sick or overthinking which I control as fast as I can. (Even though I have had bad depression when I was living with others.)This was and is my worst fall into darkness in several years.

[samba]

This was really insightful. Thank you!

[inspireddevelopment]

Great videos! Please keep it up! I appreciate what you are doing and it is meaningful.


I've been focusing on this topic recently: perfectionism. The idea of "progress, not perfection" is a mantra I have to focus on to move forward. Even if I start early, take initiative on projects, and give myself a series of iterations to get the best version possible...it will never meet the standard I desire that my intuition. As you mentioned, we can paralyze ourselves from action when we realize we may never meet our own personal standards...but in reality, the product produced may still exceed expectations. Its an interesting and automatic response we tend to have.


Again, thank you!

[DeborahTSipes]

Thanks Bo...very helpful. I’m glad you’re here, as I’m coming to an understanding that it’s time to connect with other INFJs. Ordered the book.