9 Aromantic Signs & Behaviors YOU May Have Missed

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[justtryingmybest]

Me watching this, already knowing full well I'm aro 😂

[izzyizzzbizzzzy]

Not aro but trying to be the best ally I can by learning more about it! Liked and subbed <3

[panthersworld]

Experience is different for everybody I can relate to some of it but not all of it I can relate to sometimes friendships being the strongest attraction for me or when getting to know somebody I'm instantly asked would you date them in my mind I was like I'm not sure if I want a partner I'm not as desperate as most of my friends

[tylersteele]

Man why am I nervous lmao I've identified as ace/aro for years and I'm watching this like it's some kind of exam 💀

Edit: I passed 🙏 /s. But for real, this is a great video for anyone questioning if they're on the ace/aro spectrum. The part about difficulty differentiating attraction is so real, in high school I thought I had feelings for one of my friends but in hindsight I don't think I ever really wanted anything inherently romantic, just a strong personal connection. Also the flirting part is pretty funny, sometimes I forget that for most people flirting actually has a romantic connotation and isn't just a bit lmao

[joaoastral]

You're good, man! I know how hard it is to describe and explain it 💚

[dawntripp]

This is very helpful! I have battling with the idea that I am aro. I’m fine with being Ace, but thinking about maybe being aro makes me sad. It should be pretty obvious though since I’ve only been on one date and it felt so very foreign to me, like I was playing a part! I have had romantic crushes on 5 (one for 11 years now) people in my 50 years on the planet. I wouldn’t get too close to them and I would hide my feelings. I’m not sure if because I didn’t figure out I was Ace until 3 years ago that I thought for most of my life that romantic love had to include s** and so that made me automatically put up walls? Is it just a reflex that I need to fix? So confusing for sure!!

[KiahRenamae]

The last time I had a serious crush was about 15 years ago. I’ve had moments where I’d think I had a crush but they would disappear once I knew they weren’t interested in me. I don’t count these as crushes because it’s more about the idea of the crush that had me interested than anything about that person. I believe I am demiromantic. I want to have a partner but I only want to be with people who I am already close friends with. I may very well be fully aro though. I am not sure if my crushes are actually squishes. It’s so rare that I actually have crushes. I grew up in a very religious and conservative household so I only started exploring my identity 2-3 years ago(I’m 31). I was only ever given the option of being straight, cis, and allo.
Luckily I figured out I was ace. That part was easy in comparison. Figuring out if I was aro is a different story. Idk why it’s so difficult for me to settle on something. I know I’m on the aro spectrum but how aro am I? Where exactly do I fall?? That’s what I want to know! Idk if I will ever find this answer. But for now demiromantic sounds close enough to my experience. And if I ever find a more concrete answer then that will be awesome!!

[mudkip_btw]

You just made me understand my being aromantic so much better. Thanks man 💜

[vickycastillo]

I actually needed this, holy shit. Im still in mi arromantic journey. I’ve known for a good amount of years my position as a demisexual, but I’ve struggled really hard to identify what romance meant for me or if I even understood it. I’ve known for a while that I see it differently but I also couldn’t identify with straight up hating romance as a whole. All the labels can become very confusing too when you aren’t even aware of the first step. So it’s nice to have someone explain it in identifiable behaviours and experiences rather than people assuming you just _get it_.

[Sticksthekitty]

i got 9/9 signs and I just came to solidify that i'm aroace and yeah nothings changed I'm definitely some where on the Aroace spectrum if not aroace specifically

[JamieJenkins]

Finding out earlier this month that I'm aromantic has made a huge difference for me in understanding myself, 4, 5, 6, 7, and especially 9 apply so much to me. I had a concept of what romantic gestures were but didn't really see what differentiates them from regular nice things. For example, I remember walking with my boyfriend somewhere and I randomly in my attempt to try to do something romantic for him pulled out a dandelion from the sidewalk and handed it to him (he thought it was cute that I did that) the idea being "okay, flowers are romantic, right? There's a flower". Flirting for me is one thing I never really understood. I'm autistic and aro so for me, "flirting" just meant talking in length about my special interests.

[brookeplifts]

I remember in grade 6 a group of girls in my class were talking about all this fairytale stuff they desired so badly with a bunch of guys. Immediately I thought “there’s no way they’re being serious” and then I found out they were. Took me another few years till grade 9 to realize they were serious all along. This was 10 years ago and I’ve only recently (since 2021ish) become comfortable with who I am as an aroace

[IsoRen]

I felt that I was aromantic along with being asexual for a while, but this one was harder to put my finger on, and even more difficult to explain to other people
Now I can show or cite this whenever I need to explain beint aro :D

[kimmi]

This video just screams me. I'm ace and aro. Growing up I always thought I was broken or messed up. I tried to be romantic but it never felt right. I felt alone. Being where I'm from I didn't learn about different types till much older. Now I'm happier. Thanks for the video! It's great to know I'm not alone.

[lys]

Ngl I was only expecting to relate to one or two of these instead of a lot of them holy shit???? This is wild. Like bruh I only just came around in the past year to realising I'm greysexual and I'm only JUST opening the door to thinking about aromanticism (hell it'd be wild if I've mixed things up and romantic attraction's been the more grey one this whole time). I've never dated, never had a romantic relationship or done any romantic actions, and only ever been someone turning down others' romantic advances to me. (I will say, being a women def played a part in the "treating romantic gestures as platonic" because I'd get a sense when a male friend was interested in me non-platonically but I'd insist I must be overthinking it until they later tell me and I was right when I didn't want to be, which is an experience I hear of a lot from women regardless of their romantic orientation.) I've had a couple crisis about understanding what feelings I've had that I've recently realised were queerplatonic, and that QPRs feel desirable to me. I've always felt that I'd love a romantic relationship with someone if someone I wanted it with came up, and uhh... it just... hasn't come up yet? Spark hasn't been felt with anyone who's come up to me wanting it? I'm not ready rn to actually properly unpack whether I could be on the aro spectrum, and right now I'm fine just knowing my priority is my close friends regardless of whether I am or not and until some any experience that may or may not come up in the future helps get further insight on that.

Anyway uhhh wow. Thanks for the video!

[LilMissSpeeedy]

Thank you for making this a lot clearer for me. I'm definitely aromantic!

[zametal.]

me watching this because you asked. even though I am not aro and not wondering.

I kinda don't get why people date, if they don't want to..
I went on a date once.. and I just don't get the concept. I think it is just not part of my culture. We are meeting and getting to know people in other ways, I think. It find it a lot more aro-friendly too, because hanging out is not pidgin-holed into romantic interest immediately.

[emilylillie]

For me (an aroace woman) who hates receiving attention from men, a big thing I noticed is me being much more comfortable talking to men once I know they are dating someone. That way I feel it's impossible for them to be interested in me romantically. Not to say that I'm irresistible, but you get the point. 😄

[libabey]

i can’t stop thinking about when I was in track at age idfk like 8-9?? for all of a few weeks and this kid in my class asked me if I liked boys or girls- me being oblivious thought he was talking in a friend way so I said “I like both boys and girls” and him (not knowing what being bi was apparently EDIT: i think he like legit said i couldn’t like both so lmao) was like “no but what do you LIKE” and I responded with something like “idk I don’t like one more than the other” all the while thinking “what is this kid getting at??” flashcut to me right this very second still questioning what I like and if I like anything bc I’ve never once been romantically interested in someone in all my 21 years of life. 10/10 good vid deffo need to raise more awareness of this stuff I appreciate you greatly

[dvjolly]

First off I had no idea this was even a thing, but this was very informative! I don't think I'm on this spectrum (if I am I'm far on the neuro-typical side). I don't really care about dating and just want a best friend I can marry some day. I think I'm bad at picking up at hints, but at the same time I have a tendency to pick up on hints that were not meant to be hints and were just supposed to be casual convo...