Feeling Behind in Life & The Pressure to 'Have it Together' by 30

Hey Everyone,

I've been doing a lot of reflection lately and struggling with feeling like I'm falling behind in my own life, especially since I haven't achieved some big societal markers of growth like buying a house, getting married, having kids, or finding a career path.

So I'm trying to heal from the stress all of it has caused me and I hope this video can do the same for you.

Enjoy! xo

B L O G
___

C O N N E C T
___

M U S I C
StoryBlocks

[Elizabeth-mfdn]

Never feel bad for living at home, it’s a privilege to save and parents won’t live forever so you’ll love those memories with her later.

[janiegetyourgun]

Girl, I’m approaching 40 and just now getting my life “together”. Settling down, finishing school, planning my career. No kids yet, newly married. Life doesn’t come prepackaged. It’s not the same for everyone.

[ruqgczl]

My mom had all of those things by 30 and still ended up having to divorce and get her PhD and reinvent herself and her life in her late 40s (she’s thriving now in her 50s). So there’s never any guarantee in life. Life is change. Like the quote “where things are uncertain, everything is possible.”

[WhitneyOsei]

Your life can literally change overnight. Do not put so much pressure on yourself. Enjoy the journey.

[ToniD_]

I’m 31 and finishing my degree. I was married at 26 and we have a son. My husband passed away in March. So I am single and starting again. You never know what life will throw at you but I’ve learned to embrace every step.

[lauraigla]

It's so funny... I'm sitting here watching this because I'm 30. I have the husband, the house, the kids, and I looked through your channel and thought, "wow, I would really enjoy being single and traveling to Italy..." I even wish I had a parent who I could lean on for support like your mom is helping you. Grass is always greener! All we can do is try to live in the moment and enjoy it for what it is. But if I knew how to do that maybe I wouldn't be bringing videos about feeling like a failure at 30 lol

[blackkitty]

Thank you. Being 31, not married, no job, living at home, no kids, I felt like a failure. I compare myself alot to others but this video has really helped me. Thank you.

[bongekamntaka]

I am 27 and starting off in my career. I was previously unemployed and depressed. My peers have achieved a lot. Many have bought house, cars and are married by now. Even though I have nothing I am grateful for the word of God that has kept me going and has kept me grateful for the current season of my life. I remember when I was unemployed and going through a lot but God gave me power to thank him whilst I was in that season. The key is to lean on God and his promises.

[MrEOM]

Life doesn’t really start til age 35 relax youngsters 😌 I’m age 36 and just got out a 12 year relationship and starting over but I’m excited for this new journey.

[MegM]

I’m 29 and I’ll be 30 in December and I feel this exact same way! I cried on my birthday because I was grieving the fact that I did not reach certain milestones before this age. I don’t have a degree, I’m not married nor do I have kids yet. My family has been asking when will I find love and have children, and I can’t tell them when because I literally don’t know. Then I see all of my peers (classmates) living what looks like their best life on social media. They’re traveling, they have their own families and they good careers. And yet I’m still single, living on housing assistance for an apartment. I feel completely left behind. I finally started therapy this year and it definitely helped but I would still love to see certain things come to pass in my life. I would love to travel and find my person. It’s a lot to mentally take in and cope with daily but seeing transparent vids like these let’s me know I’m not alone and things will change when it’s the right time.

[Lunarhodesavengers]

Sis the moment you let go of life's conditioning, that's the moment you elevate life. Create your own rules, it's your life not societies. Less is actually more. The quiet moments are more precious than the loud events in life x

[jonber]

I am forty, just quit my job my own will. I live in the same flat i moved in to when i was 23, and i have no children or spouse. I enjoy the sun, the chirping of the birds and the fact that i am alive. Have no regrets. Life is a gift

[jannahd]

literally me at 32. After traveling extensively I felt like I had nothing to show for it and “behind” everyone else. Fast forward to 34, I’m pregnant, married & headed toward buying. Does this feel more fulfilling ? Not necessarily… traveling was extremely fulfilling. I’m also excited about baby and love my partner. I’m also bored at times & don’t feel like compromising. All these feelings are okay! Happiness isn’t defined by what you have or what milestones you’ve reached. Let the joy you find lead you to where you are supposed to be and I think that’s where the success is. Lastly, life comes at you FAST and can change. Don’t rush it girl ❤

[livelearnwithleko]

I'm 33 and literally have nothing!!! I even deleted all my videos on here because I was so ashamed to talk about it. Seeing all these comments makes me feel that I'm not alone. Thank God someone else said it out loud.

[bollid]

Stop watching social media. It’s not real and people show a smile and then go cry, hate their lives but work hard to show how perfect their life is. Just love ur life and be happy and grateful for where you are, wherever that is.

[lisahobbs]

Evamarie I'm 54 years old, I just completed an LPN program at the age of 50 so today I've been a nurse for 3 years. I feel as though I'm living my best life in Him(Christ). I'm contemplating on doing a bridge program for the LPN to RN program. When one feels complete is when you are living in the moment, season, or time. Get a relationship with God. He knows who we are and where we are going.

[beatrizrodriguez]

I just turned 30 and I relate to this. I am dealing with huge anxiety 24/7. I developed insomnia because of my worry of being 30 and girls who are younger have it more together. But this week, for some reason I am beginning to learn that God has an astonishing plan for whoever is going through in their 30s.

[keishalewelling]

thanks for sharing this video sis. I'm 38 and One thing I learnt in life is that no matter how little, no matter the age it's never too late to get started and having the mindset that every day of your life you're evolving. Life becomes unpleasurable when you add too much pressure. I started my path to reinventing myself a year ago, I’m now living healthier, confident, stronger, making 6 figures, having leisure to enjoy family &friends. I feel happier and living my life for myself . This is to encourage someone “you can start anytime to have a reset it’s worth it! I’m striving to continue growing cus it’s a journey 💗

[Jessi-]

I’m 28 and I’ve been struggling with feelings like I’ve totally wasted my 20’s. You have no idea how reassuring this video is to me 😭

[nicolecampbell]

I feel the same way as you too. I’m almost 34, still living with my dad, and I’m single with no kids. I sometimes feel like I’m living like a teenager but this video helps me realize I shouldn’t feel this way because I’m not alone. There are plenty others in their 30s who are in our situation. We’re in this together sis!