Kids And Sibling Relationships

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Ryan is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified School Social Worker, and father to a son with ADHD & learning differences. ADHD Dude is based in Tucson, Arizona.

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[nakyerematen]

My eldest child with ADHD gets excitement when they have fights with their sibling. It's hard to see my youngest ( 5 years old) crying and absolutely fed up that his brother will not leave him alone and continually insistes on touching or bothering him, while laughing. It absolutely drives me crazy

[ArshiKhan-njtb]

All your videos are gems. I use to do the same as a parent but now I’m going to control myself when my kids have conflict. Bless you

[taylorbrooke]

It is also difficult as a parent when the ADHD child is the oldest one and they cause problems or provoke the baby, or younger one.

[taylorbrooke]

Love your videos so much! They really hit home for me. I am a parent of a currently 4.5 year old daughter who has a 9 month old baby sister and have already seen some problems (as expected).
But as a child counselor in training, and having worked as an ABA therapist, I find your videos both informative and relatable on a personal level, and intellectually stimulating as a professional, and lifelong learner! Thanks!

[oc]

1:57 Yes, so true
And #2 makes sense. My daughter told my mother she enjoys seeing me get upset when she's fighting with her sibling.

😔 My youngest is 4 so physically she cannot do much to her 8 year old sister.

[SarahSanders-prrj]

Wow you just described in detail my son, my daughter, and me. We are following exactly that spiral of conflict and micromanaging! It needs to stop. Thank you for this video. I didn't realize this was a common ADHD child and reactive parent thing until now.

[marywhyte-edu]

I know I need to be less involved in arguments with my children, but it is hard, as mentioned. My ADHD kids are the oldest and youngest, with 2 middle siblings. If I don't get involved in squabbles with siblings, I worry that the two middle siblings will learn to simply put up with rude comments or aggressive behavior (not violent). I don't want to set them up for putting up with bad treatment from spouses or friends in the future.

[Moose]

One of the HARDEST things for me to do is let my sons, who are 5 and 7 (who has ADHD), resolve their own squabbles. In my mind, there’s a way that things “should” be done or resolved, and it’s hard for me to allow things to just play out. I know I need to do it, though, and I force myself to let things resolve themselves.

[martah]

Thank you. Your videos are very helpful.

[wesleyhowe]

Have you done any videos on how to parent multiple kids in a household and only one has ADHD? Do we use the same ADHD parenting techniques on all the kids? If not, what happens when the child with ADHD is exhibiting a behavior you would normally address and all the kids are there (big one for me is at the dinner table)?

[andreabucknall]

How do you deal with an 8yr old boy who has ADHD, ODD and hits his friends? We have talked to him about it several times. We have taken away electronics and grounded him. We always get him yelling and over talking us. He still continues to hit. Please 😢