5 Signs You're Sexually Repressed

What’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word “sex”?
What does it mean to be sexually repressed? Is sexually repressed, the same as sexual frustration? Some people may restrained from sex because of religion, personal reasons, moral values, sexual trauma, or other reasons like identifying as being asexual, but in this video, the goal is to discuss some of the signs that someone might be holding themselves back from sex. If it helps someone that's great!

Writer: Stela Kosic
Script Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Zyan Méndez
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

Favor needed! If you haven't already, can you watch our previous vids and let us know what you think of them?

[khalilahd.]

I feel like it can be easy to ignore this Side of yourself especially if you weren’t raised to be curious in this way. Love that you’re talking about this 💛

[owuhlpc]

She's right. I'm asexual, and being sexually repressed is different, the distinction is feeling ashamed of our sexual side. Meanwhile, asexuality is a lack of attraction and interest.

[hsanchezisidora]

I think my sexuality is repressed because I grew up in an abusive household, so I was too concentrated in surviving day by day. Eventually I became too controlling of myself, and couldn't let go even during sex. I was there to please the other person.

[joban]

I used to think I was sexually repressed, but after watching all my peers end up with illegitimate children, STDs, weird drama with exes, very serious drama with exes, and becoming miserable because of engagement in the casual sex culture, then I realised I'm just unusually inclined to think things through.

[portalchao]

0:31 Lack of interest in sex
1:00 Feelings of guilt and shame
1:37 Inability to enjoy sex
2:08 Physical pain
2:34 Erotic dreams

I hope this helped!

[siennasamuel]

I have hella sexual trauma and guilt/shame surrounding sex because of how I’ve been treated. I’ve had a lot of healing in my current relationship with the sweetest man I’ve ever met, but there’s still shrapnel in that area of my life :(

[domvitorocco]

Being a 27 year old Catholic male who never had sex and is waiting till marriage, I could relate to some of these points. It’s very frustrating. In thoughts, emotions, and sometimes physically too. Not receiving the (sexual or non sexual) intimacy that we need, can really hurt our well being. All in all, sex and everything that comes with it, should be taught and educated more. Thank you Psych2Go🙌🙏

[jaironracsothesilentninjas]

OMG I am REALLY sexually repressed. I honestly thought I was weird or maybe even asexual, but I relate to every single one of these signs. Thank you for pointing this out, making me understand myself better and know what to do to help it! <333

[strage]

Thinking about or desiring sex has never been something I would consider to be a problem. But after having multiple partners throughout my life I feel it is something that makes me feel deflated and lacking in ambition due to the fact that relationships are always short lived and fleeting. Sure sex is great, when you're getting it, and it's even better when there is a special connection between yourself and the other person. However, there comes a point in time when you no longer want only the physical touch and instead you crave that connection that appears when you find yourself in love.

[ItsMeFern]

This was a very helpful way to remind myself for the billionth time that I'm just asexual asf. It's great that ya'll are willing to bring up such topics!

[NFSMAN]

I believe that I am, I grew up in a sheltered culture where romance, dating and friendship with the opposite gender were stigmatized and taboo.
Purity culture does harm both men and women tbh. I sometimes still feel guilty for watching sex content, or pleasuring myself, due to the taboo stigmas surrounding it. Hopefully I overcome this.

[thepurplefire]

I'm asexual, and thank you for saying lack of interest can be normal. Thank you for addressing other causes too, and the last symptom cleared it up for me. I've met a lot of straight women- "good girls/good wives" who have no sex life but are constantly reading steamy novels I couldn't find more boring (I'm ace) and having sexual dreams (which I almost never have). It'll be useful for making those distinctions later whereas before, figuring it out with terrified house wives who've come to me and said, "I think I might be ace" was more complicated/confusing.

[justalpha]

I have to be honest, I'm unbelievably grateful for both my parents and the Portland Oregon Public Schools education system because to me, becoming aware of the intricacies of sexuality and relationships both healthy and unhealthy was one of the first steps to helping me overcome my constant self-doubting and lack of self-confidence. It truly is important to me, and if I ever do have kids, you better believe that if the school that they end up going to doesn't teach sexuality, I most certainly will do my best to provide, because that's what matters. :)

[aviiegyu]

this is literally what I'm currently suffering rn. I'm a catholic I really stick and follow what I believe is right in our religion. I don't watch porn at all but i'm recently having these kind of dreams ever since i've recently liked someone and i feel so ashamed. Even typing this makes me feel guilty.

It's rlly difficult, especially that we're taught to believe the notion that sex is dirty and pre-marital sex is a sin. But I also believe that there's nothing wrong with it. It's confusing.

[mistyghosts]

There's never any need to be any more sexual or and less sexual than you want to be. You're allowed to make that choice and don't let anyone (especially partners) take it away from you

[oo]

Thought I was asexual when I first started questioning my sexuality as a teenager. Nowadays, I know I'm not. Unfortunately, I'm actually just sexually repressed. 💔

[charliem]

I have never had sex before. Being in my mid-30's, that's very shameful to me. I think I have a fear of sex. I have been in situations where I could have had sex, but became incredibly scared of it. It's so odd to me. I desire sex, think about having it, but when it's in front of me, I turn from it in fear. My fight/flight response kicks in when the possibility of sex is there. I become scared that if the other person tries to make a move, my fight instinct will activate and I will hurt them. Because of this, I am unsure if I can ever have sex.

[foxyjoy]

Thank you for speaking about asexuality when covering this topic! I was so excited to see that appear. It’s strange having been sexually repressed while being in the ace spectrum at the same time. (s/o to all the sex-favorable aces out there. You’re valid) This video felt very validating to see.

[pluma]

Finally!! Something that understands what so many go through! Up until this past Christmas i felt really negative about sexuality in general, it never felt as an emotion worth my time. Largely it still isnt but I think its thought of inversely today. Many think that sex is a requirement of a relationship and thus put additional pressure. To me its more of a product of a relationship. Sadly this has not gotten me far in relationships ;(