Narcissists will hold grudges and treat people badly that make them wait or reject them

[JupGem]

You will never meet a more emotionally vindictive person than a narcissist.

[Kikisharri]

My ex who is a narc would always say to me that he was a grudge holder. I would say you're holding grudges against people who don't even know your mad at them and just living their life not even thinking about you. Then said to him that has to be a miserable life to live. I pissed him off with that response he didn't talk to me for 2 days. And boy were they the best 2 days ever. So glad I am out of that situation

[FLokisLEGACY]

He did it after 16 years and punished me 7years now. And he litterly broke me. It's something so hard when the person who you love, hurts you in every negative way possible

[trevor_mason_reed]

He wants to play cat and mouse, I want to go home, relax and enjoy the rest of my time ALONE. I don’t have time to play your childish games, find another supply who would because my time is precious! I don’t want to wake up one day and realize I wasted my early 20s for a guy who doesn’t give two fucks about me.

[shawn_anigans]

My ex was like this. Sold me the moon and stars and then the devaluing started. We actually broke up because we had an argument and he blocked me and I decided I wasn’t putting up with that bullshit. So I blocked him back and that was the end of that. Five months later I get this email from him begging and pleading. Saying he hadn’t even so much as spoken to another woman, and would I please tell him what I was thinking. Don’t get mad when I play the game better! That was over a year and a half ago now. Good riddance!

[jaeesmichelle]

I once started 'talking' to a guy I had ONE class with during high-school, at this point we had randomly come back in contact when I was around 27 years old. So this is a good 10 years later and he would mention a LOT that he had a crush on me in high-school and I thought I was too good for him or never gave him a chance.

I literally explained that I wasn't allowed boyfriends as a kid, wasn't interested in boys romantically as a teenager, was going through a lot with my home life, and he had never even told me back then 🤷🏽‍♀️
Let's just say he STILL has a grudge against me to this day lol its actually kinda sad but funny how long someone can hold onto hate when you have no clue.

[gracegrace]

👌 wow you are on point...these demonic spirits are extremely 😈

[Nan-Narz]

Yes, even their kids. „How dare you, to tell your mum, what I have done?! You should talk to me first…“

[myfirstnamemylastname]

While you are feeling powerless and crushed by a narcissist, just listen to the flip side of this. Not only does the narcissist need you desperately until they find a replacement but they are obsessed with you. You are their very lifeblood and they can't make it without you, including your pain because that is proof that they exist and are important. Think about it. They want to see your pain and your desperation to win their love every bit as much as you want them to love you back and treat you well. If you react to them and show pain they feel relief and satisfaction because that's what they need just to feel alive. That's obsession. That's desperation. That's incredible dependence. When you think about why the narcissist abuses you, keep in mind that that's the reason. They may seem all powerful because you give them the power. You can stop giving it to them and watch them fizzle like the wicked witch of the West (or the East, whatever it was on The Wizard of Oz) when Dorothy throws a bucket of water on her. That's the narcissist when you finally stop reacting and believing in the whole game. The narcissist is not someone whose love is very difficult to win; it's someone who doesn't have any love TO win. He or she already knows what he or she wants from you and it's not love because they can't experience it even when it exists. Cut the electricity and see how fast everything goes quiet.

[jenmailsouth]

UGH! There must be a narcissist playbook!!!

[SimplyThobi]

Man… this is educational. I don’t know much (if anything) about narcissistic personalities so I’m learning A lot. This is eye opening. Thank you.

[gracec]

That is 100% correct! I am living proof of what a narcissist does when they are given a chance. Five years later, we lost everything. He had cheated, and already moved on. So he didn't care, . Until, I sent him a picture of his empty and cleaned out garage. They are pure evil.

[theresabullock]

After the past 3years of beginning to study and understand this horrible situation I was in for over 10 years EVERY crazy, chaotic, miserable, toxic, demeaning and devaluation I went through ALL makes sense now LEE. You are doing a life purpose mission . Your teaching here on utube along with a few truly intelligent and suffficient others have put the puzzle together for me. And yes, I realize now that the whole relationship was just a vendetta for rejecting him 20 years earlier (2001) . I wish I had the information and the tools back in 2012 that I have now. And unless they’re doing what you are doing …… they get worst with age and drug addiction.

[jcastrine]

Omg this is SO accurate
Lifetime grudge was held

[lanitabaxter]

I always wondered about this. That person and I dated years ago and they came back in my life. I often wondered if he was treating me badly because of the past. Just petty about everything.

[Jo-emfg]

They will punish you blackmail you, make everyone dislike you
They are unforgiving
They hate you for rejecting them
If you walked away it’s still the best thing you ever did

[dshe]

1985 I broke it up, then went back.
Paying ever since.

[Sino.Kate.]

Just give the same treatment as a Narcissistic person is giving you and attest in that if that's true love, it will end quickly

[dyoung]

It’s absolutely horrifying how long a narcissist can hold a grudge. My soon to be ex brothers in laws all divorced their first wife at least 20 years ago & you’d think they divorced yesterday. One’s sick & getting older. He took his kids out of his will because they might give their mom(his ex) something 🤦🏾‍♀️

[markelly-dehy]

Amen. My mom is still mad at me for eloping 39 YEARS ago. Initially I thought this was normal. She is 90 now, so basically she will hold her grudge unto death.