Narcissist hold grudges forever and dont let anything go. narcissists will hold the past against you

NARCISSISTS HOLD GRUDGES FOREVER AND DONT LET ANYTHING GO. #NARCISSISTS WILL HOLD THE PAST AGAINST YOU

ANYTHING YOU SAY TO A NARCISSIST CAN AND WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU LATER ON. IF YOU DO ANYTHING WRONG TO A NARCISSIST THEY WILL NEVER LET IT GO.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

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[emilyearl]

They seem to remember every transgression against them but can’t recall anything they’ve said or done against you.

[HeeersEllery]

Such a double standard. Can’t talk about what a narcissist did (even if it was earlier that same day and never addressed) without them saying “why do you keep bringing up the past?!”. It’s absolutely insane.

[vickymoore]

They pick on the little things and add to the story, no matter what wonderful things you did for them they find fault in you with everything, you destroyed their life . HAHA . They seem to have amnesia about all of the crap they did to you ! Mr. Lee I love your honesty ..

[stoneyvowell]

It's a way to never move forward or take any kind of accountability for their own mistakes. It's a way to continue the dysfunction on their own terms. You will always be held accountable for your mistakes and never allowed to make up/heal/move on for/from them or hold them accountable for their mistakes. They don't ever make mistakes or bad choices.

[nicolestanford]

They even make up “transgressions” in their head. I didn’t invite my aunt to one of my children bday party and she says I’m not forgiven. 😂😂 like hun, you’re in your forties and I don’t need forgiveness for nothing.

[thepurplequeen]

Holding grudges has literally saved my life. Also, it keeps me motivated and pushed me towards alot success. The people I refuse to forgive have all come back begging, and I have not budged. Screw them, and only God can judge me.

[Cocoakisses]

Oh that's me, I do all of that, but I do take accountability and I do apologize for my wrongs if I make any...I do allow the person to decide whether they still want to deal with me or not, I don't guilt them into anything.

[tag_]

For those that are new to this channel, pay close attention to this one video in particular. This is more true than anyone knows unless you've lived this experience. I have and trust me, ANYTHING and EVERYTHING will be held against you and brought up from last week or 20 years ago when you have a big enough argument. If it's a small argument, maybe they won't. But if it's a big one, nothing is sacred and everything from your entire past with the narc will be brought up and thrown in your face. 100% guaranteed!

[vanessaramirez]

Narcs cannot exhibit Gods love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says “love keeps no record of wrongdoings”. If you ask if they are Gods chosen one for you, flee cause they ain’t.

[sweetoneloves]

Years ago, I dated a Narc when I was 19 LMAO, he ghosted me, and 3 years late I married and had a child, I was not with the Narc then, after I had my beautiful child, he came back as if he never left me PISSED OFF. My first experience with a person with NPD, I didnt know what was going on. Later in life he surfaced back up, and through my marriage and son back up in my face, kid you not? My son is grown now, and the NARC fool is still trippn off that. Lee is right about they hold grudges until they die. I did not care because I had married, years later I divorced, son is an adult now and this this fool tried to slip back into my life telling me he had a grudge against me. I walked away tell him to kiss where the sun Shines sometimes LOL. yes, Narcs fool willl hold you accontable for stupid grudges. grudges that is not worth holding. Pure Idiot, what a fool believe, LOL omg, a dam grudge.

[jamiewilliams]

Its never a good idea to be friends again with someone you have fallen out with as they never seem to drop stuff from the past and that can be painful.

[elise]

They’ll even hold grudges against you for things you didn’t do, which they literally just imagined. When I had to work O/T one day, mine convinced himself I had cheated (NOT true), because I am not allowed my cell phone in my building so I couldn’t respond to his texts…and he completely changed how he treated me…for YEARS…messing around with multiple women…till I finally gave up on him. Basically if you make them feel insecure, even accidentally, they will never forgive you and none of the good things you do for them or terrible things they do to you after will count in their mind.

[chloelageaux]

The best thing to do is get to a point where you don't care about how they think or feel. I know that sounds bad but if you know that you haven't done anything yet you always end up apologizing then just move on. No matter what you do you are always going to be the problem so just leave them alone with their anger, resentment and bitterness.

[iamshake]

I’ve been with my husband for 13 years and you are absolutely correct. He is very vengeful and holds grudges. He uses the silent treatment and it doesn’t matter what he did to me.. it’s all about what he feels I’ve done to him. He definitely has lied about woman and acted like he didnt remember lol. I’ve watched a few of your videos and are triggering because I’ve experienced a lot. However, I’m happy I came across your channel. Very helpful!

[barbarabauer]

It's a double standard. What about when they are confronted with the shit they do.

[Erikprc]

The ego never likes to let anything slide.

[debramarshall]

You are right about that Lee. Will be used against you for an eternity. I'm looking at them like oh so you don't remember nothing about the mean things you have done to me. I just don't deal with nobody my peace of mind is worth more than their pettiness.

[cassidy]

This is so true. He did so many things wrong to me or hardly owns up to it and flips it on me but the one or two things I did wrong he has held against me for our whole relationship and never truly forgave me even though he said he did and uses it against me as a pawn. He said he would forgive me now if I took him back 🙄 like dude I am stronger and wiser now I am not making that mistake AGAIN.

[marcusocho]

#facts. I been with a narcissistic woman for 16yrs. I wont lie i wasn't the best guy in my early 20's but it is what it is. But i did grow as a person and they wouldn't accept me for who i really was and she held resentment over me for years. No apology was never enough and no argument could ever be fair. I was punished for YEARS and now 16 years and 3 kids later i got to go. People who cant let go wont grow.

[dumpmail-xzqp]

They would just collect small grudges without telling anything and then use it to justify their toxic behavior towards people. This happened to me but I was smarter this time and went no contact. I heard about her a little, over an year later and she STILL has the same grudge and the same toxic mindset but she is keeping it extremely vague about what exactly did I do to her.

I did try let go of my grudges towards one narc once and gave her a chance only to ghost me for no reason. I take my grudges more serious now to keep these people out of my life. If they cant do better and constantly treat me badly over something I did years ago and never repeated again... Im not going to put up with this endless bs punishment