Why do we get burnt out? #burnout #spirituality #life #judaism #itsgoodtoknow #short #shorts

[thefallenone]

Amen. Your words fall on listening ears, thank you Rabbi.

[asherbendavid]

As you say "Stop Expecting"!!!

[genarogonzalez]

You took it out of the park Rabbi, thank you.

[nomorecensoringme]

Thank you Rabbi Friedman for this incredible short.

[SouthWest]

Hit the nail on the head. Excellent presentation. Blessings.

[amberlife]

So true! 🙌 Being good and seeing people happy is the best reward ✨️❤️

[GarryFishermusic]

Yes if you hand out water and food to the homeless don’t wait for the parade to start in your honor

[evelyncosby]

Sweet ❤️ Amen!! Lesson learned 🙏🙏🙏 God bless you Rabbi Friedman Shalom 🙏✌️❤️✊

[VYMQGSOH]

Remember there was a time I had a disability without getting disability for it, that prevented me from having jobs or at least if I got a job I would constantly lose it fast for my disability making jobs dangerous for me to work where I would have seizures and so on. I was also quite limited to work because of that. My parents made me homeless and stayed out of my life since I became a legal adult because they were just abusive drug addicts, but my grandmother was trying to help me for awhile and whenever she felt like she couldn't drive me to work when I did have a job, her daughter who is my aunt would help me get to work.

Yet my grandmother never asked for a single penny. My grandmother truly just wanted to help me and expected nothing in return. Yet when even she would let her daughter, my aunt, take me to work, she was also let her daughter use my grandmother's car. Even though she was using my grandmother's car on my grandmother's insurance, just the fact that she would take 15 minutes to drive back and forth now and then to my job, and I was making minimum wage, while my aunt had hundreds of thousands of dollars in her bank account with her family having for incomes and her husband works averagely 70 hours a week, she would bring up to me that I've not been a nice person to her, and she been so nice to me taking me to work but she complained that I never offered her gas money.

But it was my grandmother who let me stay in her house, and my grandmother was trying to help me save money to move out of her house and have my own.
As I don't have enough money to even survive on my own yet,
while they have more than enough to retire with as old as they are and live off of it till the end of their days not having any income if they don't blow the money and just get what they need, I told her of course I would have been willing to offer her gas money but she never asked.
She believes that it was moral or good and expected that if someone helps you out you should return the favor. And I mentioned that my way of returning the favor is by moving out of this house rather than running your power bills up in taking up your space overtime. After all, I thought that everyone was more concerned to help me so that I can get out as soon as I can, be on my own and that I am saving every penny I cannot to blow it on myself but to just move out sooner to not put a burden on them.

That thought never crossed my aunt's mind, because all she was thinking about was herself. She cared about money she didn't even need more than she cared that her nephew would be able to finally stop taking up his grandmother's house face and finally get his own place for the first time in his life while he's already been homeless for years due to the disability and no one else willing to help. And if I was to give her money, which I told her if that's what you want I will do it, but I don't see why that's wiser because it prolongs the goal from being achieved for me to get out of this house, because little by little you're taking the money that I'm trying to save which makes it take longer and in order to just move into a house where I live takes at least $1, 500 for a deposit and rent almost anywhere you go for the cheapest places you can find anywhere in the state.

Well I only had probably out $200 at that time and I had a long way to go and so she accepted that I didn't give her money once I explained that I'm willing to, it's not that I've been selfish and not consider paying them, but it bothers me that while I see my family has so much more than I do and always has and they don't even have a clue what it's like to be homeless with a disability, that they would be that selfish to try to just want me for money and even complain about the money rather than actually being concerned for me to have a decent life while they're not even using their own car in their own gas.

Even if someone says they will pay me back if I even let them borrow money, I just tell them that if they do pay me back and they do it on time, then they will be more trustworthy for me to help them more in the future. If they don't pay me back at all or they take a years, I'm not going to trust them again. Yet whether they pay me back or not, even if they don't at all, I will not complain or get upset, I will rather have left that money as a gift, I'm glad it helped to some extent but I just will not set myself up to make a deal with them again and I will not be troubled by it.
But when I give, I never expect anything in return for helping others. I actually take Delight in giving freely.

[damianlopez]

I needed to hear that. I always feel cheated when I'm "nice" and people are not nice in return.

[aliciabrock]

We get burnt out because we sometimes in human nature cant stand when we cant always get something figured out or a accomplishment we do for ourselves so we push ourselves. In life we need to do stuff for ourselves instead of everyone else all the time

[nomorecensoringme]

Wow! Truth that's right on the money.

[pineappledoesbelongonpizza]

That's why God says do everything out of love ❤️.

[tayzk]

Unfortunately treating people right very often doesn't make them treat you right.

[jennifermoffett]

I compliment people and they take it as an insult.

[azrielisrael]

Rabbi Friedman tells it how it is. Had a friend brag to others about helping another out on our way to our friends. I was like, that's NOT why we helped them, guy.... Do Good for GOOD. Don't expect anything in return 😊

[ACuriousChild]

BECAUSE THE HUMAN MIND HASTENS THROUGH HIS CREATION LACKING FAITH IN HIS WISDOM AND MIGHT!

[maryw]

I never do anything expecting a reward it prevents one from being hurt I do it like a mitzvah into h God I learned that at an early age 😊

[christ.]

'the good's'..'💙'.

[floraeflora]

Well… when you do too much for a job where people actually disrespects you, you realize youre not being well paid so you’re getting into really serious problems…. In that case just to see that you’re work is being well done, it is not enough.