My Girlfriend Has Gained Weight! What Should I Do?!

My Girlfriend Has Gained Weight! What Should I Do?!

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[mookieamoose]

I had gained weight before meeting my bf. He is extremely fit and even been a personal trainer. I told him i wanted to loose weight and he got a journal and began writing everything he knew. When i came to get the journal to start he stopped me and said " before i give this to you i want you to know i wrote this for you and will supprt you because it is what you want. I love you now and i love you at any size as long as you are healthy. Dont do this for me and if you ever want to stop i support you too". This is now the man i want to marry.

[nnplee]

“You are dating someone who doesn’t hold the same values as you. “ What a perfect response. That is so true

[sunkist]

I gained 100 lbs while with my husband. I’ve lost 66 lbs of it and my husband supported my through it all!!!

[georgecroney]

If you're with a woman that puts a bit of weight on and you're no longer attracted, you were just barely attracted in the first place. If that's all it takes to start causing thoughts you don't love them save eachother the time and go your separate ways.

[christinebutler]

She's a girlfriend, not a wife. If this is a deal breaker, then break up!

[sha]

My ex husband made me feel awful for having a hard time losing weight after our son was born. He then also complained when I took the time to go to the gym to work out. He said what moms go to the gym 4 days a week.

Needless to say, we are now divorced, I’m super happy, and I go to the gym 3-4 days a week with no judgment!!!

[debbiem]

I had a boyfriend that told me, "if you lost some weight, I'd love you more"
I left...

[jilliansmith]

Leave her so she can be with someone who actually LOVES HER. He does not love her! He's into the fantasy, not love.

[jeremiahpaaga]

“Start treating her like she is a person to love and not a person to solve!” PREACH JON!!

[herbiehusker]

You don't lose weight by working out, 80% of weight loss is what you eat.

[truegirlanna]

This is a dealbreaker unfortunately. If he isn’t attracted to her physically before even putting a ring on it and BEFORE having kids…he needs to end it.

[b_lee]

This was the kindest, most diplomatic way I’ve ever heard someone explain how to address drastic weight gain concerns for their loved one, where both accountability and grace were included in the solution.

[sarahleroy]

Your quote of "treat her like a human, not a puzzle that needs to be solved" just made me realize how I am ruining my marriage. I thought it was him ruining things, but it is me.

[catblack]

Please advise him not to marry her. She doesn't need years of feeling like she's not good enough which is exactly what is about to happen. SMH

[minuit]

Massive Weight gain or weight loss are signs of depression, anxiety or some serious mental trauma. That's why you should always approach weight gain or weight loss delicately. If you love them you care for there emotions that are LITERALLY physically manifesting before you.

[CashandCalendars]

I just love how guys are ready to throw in the towel as soon as a woman gains weight. She didn't seem to have a problem when HE gained weight. If you're approaching it from a health angle, that's one thing, but if you expect your significant other to always look like a supermodel, that's just unrealistic. My partner and I have been together for 30 years, and we've both lost and gained weight. Not once did we think about leaving the other because of it. When you love the PERSON, you don't just break up with them because of something that they may not be able to help. Men don't seem to understand the changes a woman's body can go through, or how stress will affect our bodies. Hormone fluctuations, etc. I'm glad that John made this guy understand that he needs to get to the root of the issue and not just criticize her. That rarely ever motivates people to do anything.

[denisebellanich]

They should not get married if her gaining weight and looking different is essentially a deal breaker for him.

[lindacallahan]

I got sick and my medication made me gain weight. It freaked me out but my husband told me he didn't care. It was the best gift he ever gave me. I gained a lot too...but his compassion just made me love him more.

[jzam]

When I go running at this local park, I see a couple with a kid take turns running laps around the track. One stays with their kid for like 30-40 minutes and runs. Then they trade and the other goes for their run.

[YappieKitchen]

What if we women started contemplating leaving our husbands because of their receding hairline? The person you are in a relationship will always change. No one is 25 forever. Of course being healthy is important, so if she is already exercising that should be good enough.