My girlfriend is quite overweight but I really love her

Jordan Peterson answers the question "my girlfriend is quite overweight but I really love her… Should I attempt to help her lose weight?"

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[defenestrationstation]

Instructions unclear

I cleaned my carbs and ate my room

[dew]

Be like "yo lardio, do some cardio"

[biplav]

First . Get Fat. Then tell her. We really need to lose weight.

[hineko_]

"Don't marry hippopotamuses unless you are into them" Ancient Chinese wisdom.

[rockspoon]

Never enter a relationship with the idiotic idea that you are going to fix your partner.

[mariusciobanu]

I was in thia guys shoes and ended up getting married. I really loved her too and didnt want to make weight a big deal but it became a bigger deal after we got married and she gained more weight. We just got a divorce recently, it wasnt about her weight but that sure didnt help me want to stay with her. I thought myself noble and good but I was stupid so dont be an idiot like me. If you are questioning it now you will be tearing your hair out later.

[AussieZeKieL]

If someone can’t disciple themselves to eat healthy then they have other issues as well. No one is perfect, but I’m just saying overweight is manifestation of a more deep rooted problem.

[yaboighandiyo]

In my previous 8 year relationship I (18 at the time) asked my girlfriend if she wanted to work out with me at the gym. She accepted and we decided we'd go for 3 days out of the week after school (highschool). I brought it up very casual and didn't focus on anything like "because itd be good for you". I simply asked if she'd like to join me as I was a pretty avid goer at the time. Perhaps this would be some good advice.

[itchykami]

Invite her to come to the gym with you. If she won't do that, there are more problems than just her weight.

[C]

Eat assloads of vegitables. It works. They are low in calories and fill you up. I have actually found my performance in work to have improved by only eating carbs at breakfast and eating veg or lean meat for the rest of the day.

[CallMeGaffer]

I remember my ex girlfriend was overweight and it did cause issues without me even saying anything. She'd often get upset about her peers being more attractive than her and one night she cornered me in a phone call asking me if I thought she should lose weight. of course, I HAD TO ANSWER CAREFULLY.

So I said "I love you the way you are, but if losing weight will make you happier then i'll support you". This was an answer to get her thinking about doing something positive about herself. Instead, of course she took the other route and started arguing with me for "not being honest". Her low self esteem didn't help the relationship no matter how supportive or good to her I was.

So my advice is, don't go for fat chicks. They're self destructive.

[cwaigasaurus]

Losing weight is difficult enough when it's something you really want to do for yourself.. I can't imagine tricking someone into doing it enough to make a difference.

[nothinglikeburntvag]

Pick a fun activity that you can do together! Back when I was childless and single, I started rock climbing. I didn't have to diet at all and I lost a good ten pounds just from climbing a couple of times a week. Plus it's exhilarating!

[SourPatchLyds]

My husband tried to get me to lose weight, but I was not ready (I eventually made up my mind and lost 40 lbs). I resented it even more because I knew he was right. But in all fairness, he used the truth like a sword, so lessons to be learned for both of us. Great answer from Dr. Peterson.

[kalebvinh]

Everyone in the comments is suddenly a nutritionist. Solution is lift.

[Kagemusha]

Best way to do it in my opinion is to reframe it: talk to her about how you value physical fitness, about how if your body is fit that you will think better. Talk about how changing your body for the better is incredibly empowering and will benifit her life in more ways than she can count. And live what you say. Don't be like the average skinny fat male who mocks fat broads online and with his friends yet can't do ten pull-ups. I think that's key: if you expect a girl to be in banging shape yet aren't willing to put in the work yourself then you're selfish. If you explain it like this and she really loves you then she'll be much more receptive than if you say "Well it's hard to get it up for a fat chick."

[jainee]

If she truly loved you she wouldnt have let herself go.

[FairPlay]

I once had a friend who was skinny and his girlfriend loose weight (she wasn't overweigt, but had some extras) to match him. Then my friend got really though and muscular like in a year. They're married know.

[mr.d.]

If something about the other person bothers you, and it's a reasonable thing, and you communicate that to him/her, and he/she's not willing to work on finding a middle ground, then the relationship is doomed from the start.

[toddconnell]

I’m 42, been through the attraction issue several times with girlfriends (and several traumatic breakups) and my wisdom for you young men is this. You are not going to like it but test my words:

If her gaining weight causes you fear and dread, and leaves you feeling trapped or ripped off, you are not attracted to her enough to endure her changes and fluctuations in appearance. You will not be happy, and will cheat or fantasise about other women. You are a man, and you are human. I’ve watched family members, friends (even long time Godly people) leave their spouse of decades because of weight gain and/or loss of attraction.