My Husband’s Weight Gain Is Affecting Our Sex Life

My Husband’s Weight Gain Is Affecting Our Sex Life

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[steelcity]

A couple of men have called into this show complaining about the wife’s gaining weight and I’m glad to see John handled this the same way and isn’t biased against men

[maylynbayani]

My husband used to compete in pageants in college. He was hot. Then we got married, gotten older, had busier workloads and he gained weight (as did I). Hence, we signed up ti the gym and I actually take time planning our meals, making sure he still enjoys our food but that he remains healthy. Marriage and love is seeing your spouse in different stages of his life and choosing to love him regardless.

[ek]

It is extremely rare for people to genuinely admit mistakes publicly, I really appreciated this intro! Excellent example Dr.!

[Dd--]

Respect you did what you needed to do. When men call women fat we get scolded. You actually scolded a woman for making fun of her overweight husband. Good stuff brother keep it real no double standard.

[TuBui]

Complacency: the reason why many relationships fail is because spouses FAIL to continue dating their partner. "Dating" means not only communicating and going on dates, but also being your best self for the other person.

[Hiker]

I'd rather John be honest and take accountability about calls he's not proud of than see an edited version. We all have bad days that we learn from.

[jennys]

I was sort of siding with the husband until I heard 1) how much he drinks and 2) that he wanted his wife to go to a strip club. Dealing with addicts is a whole other ball game and pressuring your wife to get a lap dance from a stranger is disgusting.

[bluecat]

I never cared about my husbands weight, because I loved him in every shape and form. But I should have cared. As he gained more and more weight the "bad gene problems" really started to kick in. As soon as one problem like high blood pressure was under control the next health issue came to surface. And at a certain age some damage to your health can't be undone. On the other hand, our husbands/wifes are adults who are responsible for their own well-being and it's not our job to coach or set them on a diet.

[cashway]

It's okay if you have stuff going on in your personal life Delony, we're here to walk along side you this season.

[starlingswallow]

My mom is dealing with this, too. Our whole family is scared for my dad. He is overweight, he had a heart attack back in 2016 and he just doesn't seem like he cares about himself. Anytime we try to talk to him, he makes jokes and giggles, deflects. 😢 We want him around for as long as he can be....I wonder if his childhood trauma is causing this as well as his arthritis issues.

One can't _make_ someone else care about themselves. I wish it were possible but we have tried. 💔

[bethmiller]

My husban and i dated for three years. We didn't include our children into the relationship untill we set a date for the wedding. We agreed in our dating getting to know you phase that we neither of us was attractive to overweight folk. we both gained weight and decided the gym and personal training were going to apart of our lives. It's the best gift you can give yourself feeling fit and healthy and it spills into the rest of your life. I have many obsese friends and dont care about their weight in an way. For myself and spouse we're very happy being able to workout, hunt, and fish, experience life as a spectator sport.

[knaudi]

I'm only about 2 minutes in and I already appreciate how raw and real Dr. John is here. That's for being real and sharing it with us, JD!

[Allisoninspirations]

I'm 47 amd started working out 4 years ago. My husband still looks good but I'm a big believer in just being healthy and getting in movement daily. He hasn't worked out consistently but has remained somewhat active but had gained a little weight. I started praying for him and praying that he begins a healthy life with working out but I continued my healthy lifestyle with out nagging him. Just a couple weeks ago he wanted to get back to cycling again. He purchased a good bike and he has been bicycling. I might even go with him. But ladies, pray for your husband in all areas. Encourage him, thank him. You have more influence than you realize. Most importantly, love him where he's at!

[kimberlylepine]

I am so glad that John recorded this intro. It's important for people to recognize that therapists are human, and a call in radio show is not therapy- it's entertainment. John does put a lot of himself personally into the callers' situations, esp. those he identifies with more than others, but that's probably all he can do in the short time frame that the show format runs.

[FrankS]

When I was 27…right before I met my wife, I was in peak physical shape. 6’2….185lbs. I was running marathons, doing intense workouts…etc. I met my wife, we got married, bought a house and had 3 kids. Now I have to prioritize caring for my children, wife, dog, and house … then myself. I still workout but now I’m back to 230lbs at 37 … where I was before I started working out hard. I’d be curious to know what kind of shape she’s in.

[gilligan]

He didn't "put in the effort to take care of himself and be healthy" when he went to the gym in his previous relationship. He was prepping to put himself back on the market.

[mweathers]

I feel into this trap. Allowing myself to be tired, fat, and over indulgent. My wife seemed fine with it, but I wasn’t. So at 40 I started to work out, 3-4 years later I’m in the best shape in my life and my wife is the one out of shape. She’s working on it and I’m pushing her (lightly) to be better. It helps to do it together.

This lady should ask her husband to go to the gym with her and they do it together but he’s got to put the beer down.

[Love-bodf]

My husband gained weight and the idea of having sex grossed me out (I never said anything of course). One day I asked him who he no longer respected, me or him? Turned out he had lost respect for himself. I told him he needed to turn it around because he was disappearing and to his credit he did. That’s all that was ever said and all that needed to be said.

[sriceman]

When wife and I married, one thing she made clear to me, I don't like fat guys or pot bellies! 😆 At 49, I'm doing my best to keep in shape, I lift weights 5 to 6 days a week, and I try to eat healthy. She helps by cooking me good tasty clean meals.

[daFull]

Contempt is the number 1 indicator of an impending divorce. This lady oozes contempt for her husband. I think John said exactly what she needed to hear. Sadly, I don't think she listened.