Why anger is an IMPORTANT SIGNAL (not a 'bad' emotion)

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Have you ever felt like anger was a "bad" emotion? One that you tried to hide or felt ashamed of? Let's talk about the IMPORTANT parts of anger - and 3 things that have totally changed my perspective on it! XOXO, Tiffany

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[HPTFan]

I’m glad you put this video in the right timing. For me, I see anger as curse. I express it in an unhealthy way such as Self-Infliction, exploding, too much negative thinking, saying the wrong words, getting revenge, justifying my poor decisions, or taking out on someone who has nothing to do with me. I do want to control it, ask God to help me, and give it to Him. The Bible said we can get angry, but don’t sin. As one of my favorite bands, Rage Against the Machine said, “Anger is a gift.”

[susanwright]

I like the emotional neutrality! So subtle, but such a significant shift!

[coolgirl]

I agree! Anger is a secondary emotion, its usually the result of something deeper going on then what you think. It makes me think of my past. I struggled with anger alot in my teen years. What finally woke me up was when my pastor told me “ those who anger you, control you.” This really shook me because I was a angry teen and didnt want people controlling me, after that conversation I really started to work on navigating with God the reasons behind my emotions and not hating myself for my reactions, but understanding them and their frequencies so I could navigate what was going on in my heart.

[An]

As someone who was physically abused as a child and thus terrified of anger/conflict, I've learned to push down my anger for years. And I'm still doing that, because I don't trust when I'm angry my reason is good enough. Because I'm terrified of conflict, when I am annoyed, I will still respond from a place of fear and guilt instead. "Oh, your reaction tells me something is off, about what i did or said, i'm SO sorry" is how it works in my brain and how i respond is usually in tears and over-apologizing. This is especially difficult in dating. Since it makes it hard to see which behaviours are normal and which I actually should confront. Deep down I know the difference, but I don't know how to confront certain passive agressive behaviour in a healthy way (and perhaps at "the right time") that still communicates my message well, which makes me doubt the legitimacy of how I feel.

[nia]

I’ve been feeling so angry lately and it’s scared me. It’s amazing that this video is here today!

I have a lot of anger with a lot of things and also struggled/struggle with depression and an eating disorder.

A lot of times church doesn’t empower us to keep boundaries etc it can actually be a place that makes things harder to work through things.

[luisabatine]

Thank you so much for this post. I too am learning here lately that I don’t have to be ashamed of anger.

[caroliinec]

3:11 Tiffany, please be careful. When we think we've had enough of His Word is so often when we need it most.

[brittneythompson]

Oh yeah and some times I yell or raise my voice when I get mad. I don’t do that all the time lol.

[StarryRoses]

I love this! I think an amazing follow up would be healthy ways to accept someone else's anger, either towards you or in general. For example, my daughter (10) is in an upsetting situation with her best friend where neither really knows how to process the other's feelings. I don't want either girl to have pettiness as her fallback for these kinds of situations but I have seen that kind of behavior.

[DrWiley]

It truly is normal to feel anger! Great point👍

[pooru]

Thank you for your angry tips, like that. Not too sure about your council suggestion.

[sunshinesunflowerz]

It's okay to be angry but the thing is: not to sin, whatever your conviction is. Ephesians 4:26-32

Yes, a trusted therapist/counselor and healthy outlets. For example, I like to cook, exercise, dance as my outlets when I am angered.

[rosezimmerman]

I love this video. I was raised in a Christian church community where everyone misinterpreted the Scripture to mean "Being angry is a sin." It wasn't until I saw a counselor at age 16 for depression that I learned anger is a very good thing and I was just stuffing it. There are different ways I deal with anger. Hitting a pillow with a tennis racket, pounding the steering wheel and screaming, even just stating, "I am so angry." Instant relief.

[brittneythompson]

Hey, someone had a question about sexless marriage, it goes like this “This forces the question…..What then happens with a sexless marriage? A couple save themselves for marriage, have a couple years of sex, then wham!
Physical problems with the woman combined with preexisting issues with the woman, and now there is no sex. Is THAT in our BIBLE?” This was the question they had in the last video. Some ppl would shame you for not having more or enough sex and will shoot out Bible verses like 1 Corinthians 7 3-5 and grossly misuse them. I think sex is a beautiful gift created for married couples. Sheila talked on her IG live w her daughter about people leaving out verse 6. What are your thoughts 😄? Great video ❤️