Holding onto Anger is like Drinking Poison @psych2goeducation804

In this video, we review what anger issue is, where it stems from, and how to manage anger in a healthy manner.

This video was re-uploaded from our @psych2goeducation804 channel, a channel dedicated to the advice side of psych2go.

Writer: Kelly Soong
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Vanessa Val
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[AutomaticDuck]

You're not forgiving people who hurt you because they deserve forgiveness. You're forgiving them because you deserve the peace of mind.

[sodagray]

Video: Holding onto Anger is like Drinking Poison
*Keep anger for 10 years*
Me: *Still alive*

[JaredPascual]

Me, who gets angry at my brother every 5 minutes: *no poison shall end my mortality*

[SuperWiiBros]

Recently my therapist told me that I may be holding anger on people who hurt me in the past and I can't move on from that and idk how to move on from that no matter how aware I am of these negative thoughts and feelings

[charm]

Sometimes i feel anger randomly and it's making me think about it.

[lady_raineidv]

I feel like this is exactly for me. I've been getting so mad even at little things, and it's like I've had my villain origin story after quarantine started lmao

[kwhatever]

my grandpa used to always say "never let the sun set on your anger" and that one quote has helped me so much throughout my life.

[osheridan]

Don't forgive them for them. Forgive them for you, and those you love, because they don't want you to be sad. Care for yourself and drink no poison <3

[euchiron]

"Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself." It's not for the other person's mental health - it's for your own. Then you get to decide how much to trust that person going forward.

[triborg]

I remember being such an angry person when I was younger. I didn't know why. I felt like I was being treated like a monster and the people who bullied me got away with it because they knew I couldn't fight back. They turned everyone against me and I wanted them to burn, to suffer and for them to die for what they did. Now I know why I was so volatile back then. My own parents left me to suffer alone. When I moved out, I wanted to not only burn the bridge with them, but to burn anything attached to that damn bridge. Though now I just live in spite of what they have done to me.

[kwhatever]

i guess it's like minecraft poison, it can deplete your health down to half a heart but you're still alive so you think you're fine but one blow and you're out.

[tokyoslu.r]

- ive actually came a long way with my anger, i used to be so angry but ive learned to relax and try to be more understanding. yes, i was always an understanding person but i never sat and understood. now i sit and understand, regardless of how the other person sees it.

[enalovesotters]

I always compress all my feelings, such as anger, and i’m really tired of everything at this point.

[TheEmeraldLady]

I think this really depends on the situation. If they continue to hurt you, can't be reasoned with, cross your boundaries and don't take responsibility for their actions, and if it's someone you have to see on a regular basis because of family or work, forgiving them can lead to resentment of both them and yourself. Them, because they don't realise how many times you've had to forgive them already, how much you've had to deal with from them and how much they're STILL hurting you, and yourself because you'll feel worthless having to always put up with their crappy behaviour. Forgive yourself for feeling angry! It's alright, it's a human response! If you're angry, you're angry. Find out why you're angry and sort it out, don't label it as a negative emotion and suppress it. Emotions aren't wrong or bad, they're trying to tell you something. I've had to be the "bigger" person ever since I was a kid, because my brothers and my parents couldn't. I've distanced myself from them and they're all lashing out now, because I'm supposed to be the kind and forgiving daughter. A dysfunctional relation will have a dysfunctional system, but it WILL have a system. Don't become part of the system, don't become a martyr and accept crappy behaviour because it's the nice thing to do or because it's demanded or expected. Don't let others police your emotions or tell you how to feel.

[nathanjw]

Autism meltdowns are caused by being overwhelmed easily by keeping up speaking, speed of everyone, loud noises and a lot of times a combination of both

[Persimmonyyy]

Hm, when they talked about harmful beliefs like that "Anger is a bad emotion, " and "No one likes angry people, " that really hit me hard because those are things I genuinely believe and tell myself, more or less... Once again, after telling me I'm bottling things up, the video leaves me wondering how to cope with anger in a healthy way. I've only seen this issue discussed to the extent that they do here; just as far as "Don't hold on to anger, don't bottle up emotions, etc." That's great, but what next? How does someone who struggles with this stop doing it wrong? If Psych2Go had less signs that you're doing badly and more tips on how to do well, I think that would help. < 3

[arcanesiren]

What causes my anger are three main things: Depression, learning disorder, and existential loneliness.

[ANYA_calmdownplz]

It’s so hard to cope- whoever is right now- 🥰😞 i wish you calm

[fellowpassenger_-]

You’re right about how holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting others to get harmed, I’ve held it in for at least 7 years at this point, it’s caused me a whole list of problems that I’ve been struggling with such as addictions, anger issues, depression, self loathing, etc, it hurt my life in many ways and now that I can see that holding onto anger is bad, I want to be able to process it in a healthy manner now instead of risking myself taking it out on someone else in a violent manner