Love And Self-Love

One of the oddest things we need in order to love is a vital ingredient known as self-love.

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“One of the great and slightly strange dangers of falling in love with someone is how we may respond the day they start to love us back.
Some of the reasons we fall in love with people is because we long to escape from ourselves into the embrace of a person who appears as beautiful perfect and accomplished as we feel ourselves to be flawed, dumb and mediocre. But what if such a being were one day turn around and love us back? Nothing could discredit them faster. How could they be as divine as we had hoped when they have the bad taste to approve of someone like us? …”

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[chichipeachie]

love the ending"learning how to love ourselves is one of the kindest thing we can do for our partner" very nice

[bbonifacio]

"We accept the love we think we deserve"

[SelimxBradley]

Now I just need to figure out _how_ to love myself.

[ElliotReports]

I swear, never has a video hit so close to home.
This has genuinely put a lot in perspective.

[shwetaaaaaaaaaaaa]

When the child in the mirror comes out and hugs the adult, I legit got teary eyed

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“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”
― C.G. Jung

[JL]

I have a similar problem, but I don't get angry at the people that fall in love with me. I just find it so strange that somebody would love me...

[viniciuslima]

"learning how to love ourselves is one of the kindest things we can do to our partner"

[jktm]

I thought I was just weird for feeling this type of feelings. I even hate when people flirt with me. It just feels so wrong like they are not supposed to like me, what is going on? And I always push everyone away from me. I've never been in a relationship because of this reason and I'm in my early 20s. It's a bit more comforting to hear that there are more people out there that experience the same.

[SquareSquidStudios]

I'm going to go love myself right now~

[itsaivienotivy]

Sharing some ways how I show myself some love!:

1. Appreciating any small achievement that I do (Ex. I finally did the dishes and tell myself "good job, you did great here :)" or started exercising and tell myself it's ok if it's only 5mins. )
2. taking myself on a walk and appreciating everything I see (from nature, the color of the sky, the feel of the sun light on my face, gentle breeze of the wind, etc.)
3. I try to take care of my body by showering in the morning and evening (cold showers! it makes my subconscious mind tell me that I am comfortable with being uncomfortable)
4. I try to learn something new (anything that interests me! ex. new language, photography, ceramics)
5. getting enough sleep (resting is very important. dont push yourself too hard)
6. keeping a gratitude journal and expressing how thankful I am with everything that I have.
7. keeping myself inspired by following people that I admire (or atleast I want to become!)
8. I always look on the bright side of things when a situation gets tough (it's ok to be sad, but it's not ok to stay sad for too long! embrace and feel the sadness and learn how to be your own cheerleader)
9. I learned that learning how to comfort yourself is important because not all the time people would be available to comfort you (friends and family can only do so many things!)
10. I romantacize my life by imagining I'm a main character of my own story! (sounds self-centered but learning how to focus on yourself requires inner work and that means learning how to have a relationship with your self ex. of how I do this is by self-reflecting all the actions I do and making conversations with myself on how I could make things better)

hope someone who reads this will help them! :) xx

[tenjadb]

Thank you. School of life has taught me tone of life..where I am able to understand myself more and relate to myself more. Its always taught me....not to be successful or great, but to empathize myself and see the greatness in the only person I know well ...which is me. None of the things expressed here sounds alien to me rather my own words which I never formulated as simple and beautiful as this.

[zasddsaf]

YUP, when someone shows interest in me my first reaction is - something is wrong with this guy! trying to change this...

[CherylMuir]

To the beautiful soul reading this: You are valued. You are loved. You are so, so worthy 💗

[nomadicadventures]

this hit me so hard. i used to chase girls, but once they liked me back, they didnt interest me no more. so i moved on to the next one.. guess all i needed was self love.

[lemonyjazmin]

Those little boys in my middle school who would play jokes on me and say they liked me, then turn around and make gestures to their friends as they laughed wildly while I just sat there utterly embarrassed and ashamed for some reason. I think this worsened the already low self esteem my emotionally manipulative and destructive mother had already fostered in me. Can anyone relate?

[NyappyNekoNyan]

RuPaul said it best "If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else..." very true! I love this video ^^ Good luck to all of you learning how to love yourself it really is a hard thing to accomplish and maintain but I promise it is worth the effort!

[laurenp]

I was that person putting myself in toxic situations very well knowing that nothing good would come out of it. I checked into therapy and really started to understand the concept of self-love. You may or may not do therapy, but really try to be kinder to yourself. Your worth it.

[ZeonTwilight]

This is incredible advice. As someone with partners that have a hard time with Self love and Self esteem, it's something I really, truly wish they could take to heart, but that's the hardest part. One can take on this message, one can understand it, but internalizing and applying it? That's the hard part.

[leosgran]

if you don't love yourself how in the hell you gonna love somebody else - Rupaul