When You Don't Feel Like Doing Something (But You Have To Do It), This Will Help!

When you don't feel like doing something yet you HAVE to do it... I hope this helps! XO

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Are you doing the things you should do, or are you doing the things you want to do?

Often, our unhappiness comes from feeling like we have no choice but to do something. I’ve got no choice but to work at this place, I’ve got no choice but to help, I’ve got no choice but just do what my wife or husband says.

Realistically, there ARE many things in life that we don’t actually feel like we want to do but yet we kinda have to do them. And if we don’t figure out a way to change how we feel towards those things, we’re going to be more and more unhappy, because the feelings of frustration and resentment just keep pilling on top of each other.

The best way to immediately feel better is to be very clear about WHY we’re doing those things. Often, we’re not very clear about what our objectives are. It’s just kind of vague in our heads. “Yeah… I know I have to work”. But WHY specifically are you at this job?

For example, a clear objective is “I’m using this as my stepping stone to better opportunities” or “I’m here to put food on the table for my family.”

We have to be very clear about our objectives because when things get difficult, when we feel frustrated, we can focus on our objectives and remind ourselves that “Hey, I’m doing this for me”.

I’m not doing this not because “I should” or because “I have no choice” - I’m doing this to achieve my own objectives.

If your objective is to have a loving and happy relationship, then you’ll feel okay to not take things personally and let go of anger even when you feel hurt because you value the opportunity to listen and communicate. You’re doing it for you, to meet your own objectives.

Sometimes, we may not be aware that we’re doing something out of fear and that’s why we're unhappy.

For example, you may choose to work someplace that seems fancy because you fear you’re not doing as well as your friends. You may choose to be in a relationship because you fear being alone. You may choose to help someone because you fear that God will punish you if you don’t.

When we make decisions driven by fear, the “no choice” feeling is always present. Even though we are clearly making the choices, the feeling of being powerless and trapped will lead to us feel like a victim, and this is why we’re unhappy.

To be happy, it’s not about absolutely loving or being excited about we have to do, but about having peace with them even when the situation itself is not ideal.

Focusing on our objectives can change the way we feel about what we have to do and that, is a great way to truly be happy, always!

[JackieLombardi]

This is a concept that seems so simple but it's so incredibly important... I'm going to try to internalize this, thank you so much 💖

[hehuho]

5 days to go till this month of miserable may ends and i am at the end of my rope here, feeling tired and stressed (headache) due to the climate, but yeah, gotta make it... even if it's not a big deal, have to survive to see another day till next year