Why Are Marital Problems Always The Wife’s FAULT/MUST WATCH

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[Lily-gsiv]

Most male psychologists don’t want male clients because it’s too exhausting. They say men don’t take responsibility in their healing. Too much blaming everyone else but themselves.

[churchsbiscuits]

That was a word. All of the emotional labor is always on the woman.

[embluvya]

It's sad that it's so unusual for a pastor to say this kind of thing.

[gc]

Men are such leaders they need to be told what it’s need it in their house ….great leaders that don’t know what to do without being told

[Ohkay]

Such amazing leaders men are. They need to be told what to do. They cant find their own socks. They desperately need approval of other men. When the consequences of HIS actions arise, he blames the wife. When he needs to change his own ways, its up to the wife to ensure the changes happen.
Wow impressive leadership. 👏

[misslola]

This coercion is intense in the Abrahamic religions and developing countries.
The crazy thing is your own family will help you stay in a miserable marriage.

[brandy]

I don’t play this “he’s the leader” crap. I’m glad this pastor has acknowledged that the church loves to blame the woman, and it is always on her to fix the husband. The church has traditionally held the belief that women have magical powers that will fix an awful man. But it will not get better if we are still calling the husband the “leader.” He is not the leader. He is a partner. The husband and wife are equal partners who are building a life together. As long as the man is given the default position of “leader” this problem will never go away. He will always see himself as the boss, and the wife as the subordinate. No matter how nice this pastor is about it, nothing will change.

[agirlnamedbrett.]

i see this with my Dad, he blames all his bad behavior on my Mom. it has taken years for my Mom to not take it personally and to say something to him about it.

[CordeliaWagner]

I don't see why anyone would want to get married nowadays.

And religion is one of the biggest Problems of our time!

[dw]

I have a religious relative who believed this and it almost broke her. Once she realized it was not true and that her husband was not right, she left him and moved to another state(they are back together now). He did so much to their family that even CPS had to get involved. The church STILL said it was her fault. Her husband couldn’t do no wrong. It changed me as well in my perception of an organized religion. I also realized that you cannot pray someone’s behavior away. Trust me she really tried and put all her beliefs in that prayer. IT DID NOT WORK. You can only pray for yourself and wish everyone else the best.

[SusanHamer]

What many churches fail to do is teach the man is that YES, he should be the family leader but only if he is first under submission to God. So many want the leadership role without responsibility or accountability. As the LEADER, it is his JOB to lead the way to church. HE will be held accountable for the family's spiritual failures because it is his job to guide, to lead by EXAMPLE. The woman and children are to follow him TO GOD. Yes, he is to love his wife as Christ loves the Church ENOUGH TO DIE FOR HER.

[VirgoflowerH]

I left church after my mother died, i left my husband 9 years later after 20 yr marriage. Met my husband at church. I tried everything that i could think of to helo. Most of the women in there Were. I felt like we as women got beat down so bad and the men get the pass. I told my First Lady I couldn't take it mentally anymore. All we are told to do is Pray n fast.

[artbygilik]

I watched a video of a woman who called a therapist for advice because her dad was bad and she is scared of relationships with men. A guy in the comments said “women need to do better” so aggravating. That guy hates women and I see him always leaving comments like that on that therapist’s videos. Make it make sense

[vonnii]

Why I keep saying I will not be a wife!!! Lol as well as I don't want to be a partner any more

[alexnightray]

What needs to happen in all religions and cultures is that people need to be taught mutual respect and accountability while they are young. If a woman makes a mistake, she needs to be able to be self aware of her part and apologize for it on her own. If a man makes a mistake, he needs to be able to be self aware of his part and apologize for it on his own. Both sides need to also learn healthy boundaries and discernment and not take toxicity from the other.

[samanthalake]

Keep on letting these men lead you, sis. Go get your handbasket and follow him to 🔥🔥.

[theteleisewilliamsexperience]

The first mistake is Christianity isn't actually a religion. Being a Christian literally just means 2 be Christ like. Women are never said 2 be better because she has a husband, it's the husband who's made better 4 having a wife.

[cicithatzme]

If you're contemplating getting married in 2023, you better be getting percs. If not, there is no reason at all.

[edithart]

Until women learn to blame their husbands instead of the side chicks, blaming alcohol instead of their husbands, blaming the devil instead of ther partner they will continue to face the issues they are facing. And if his mother makes excuses for him walk

[amberinthemist]

I've watched his videos for years. He's got an amazingly woman positive position for a white evangelical. I don't know how I feel about that because I think it would keep more women in Christianity if more pastors were like him and I don't think we can fully evolve as a species with Christianity still around.