Dealing with Loneliness

I get asked a lot about how to deal with loneliness. Unfortunately, like many others, there were times in my life when I felt lonely, deserted, and isolated.

Here are my thoughts on dealing with loneliness.

I mention in the video that it's probably not necessarily our fault if we're lonely. The way our society is constructed has us further apart than we've been in the past.

The benefit of this is that there are places you can find like-minded people and form connections!

On the other hand... Sometimes it is our fault. At least to some extent.

It may sound harsh, but there's a very real possibility that we may have some character flaw that seems to drive people away from us.

It may be easier to think of this in terms of other people, and not ourselves. For example, there may have been an overly aggressive person from whom you've distanced.

If this is you, that's okay. We all have flaws. We're all on a journey to self-improvement.

Even if you've irrevocably angered EVERY person you've met (which is highly unlikely), it's still not the end of the world.

There are people you haven't met yet that will love you.

At the end of the day, we don't need an army of friends to not be lonely.

In fact, it's entirely possible to be around many people and still lonely.

There is a HUGE difference between having 1 person and having nobody.

I hope this video can help some of you find that one person.

Legal Notice: Consult your doctor before beginning any kind of exercise program. This video does not replace a physical therapy program or consultation with a medical professional.

#hybridcalisthenics #loneliness

0:00- Introduction
1:20- Loneliness Is Not Just About Being Alone
2:01- Is There Something Wrong With Me?
3:30- It Is Not Your Fault.
5:20- Soulmate Example
7:21- Being Choosy Is Not Necessarily Bad
9:49- Summary: It is Not Your Fault
10:49- It Is A Numbers Game
12:06- The Difference Of One
13:56- Sometimes It Is Our Fault
15:10- Trouble Fitting In
17:20- It’s Okay
19:50- Real Example
21:10- Be Helpful When You Can
23:56- Outro
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[HybridCalisthenics]

There are people you haven't met yet that will love you.

Thanks for waiting everyone! I'm back and will be making content on the regular schedule.

[javelin]

What a strange coincidence that I've been feeling nothing but loneliness lately and this video shows up. Hampton, you are a blessing in my YouTube feed.

[callmemobile]

People always say how kind and positive Hampton is, but I don’t see many about how well spoken he is. I feel like his words make me feel like I’m not alone when I feel lonely. Thank you Hampton

[toxendon]

Loneliness does not come from having no people around you, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to you. - Carl Jung

And additionally I think it's also having no one validating you as a person, not feeling recognised and loved.

[FitnessFAQs]

Welcome back Hampton. Enjoyed hearing your perspective on this topic, it's bound to help at least 1 person 😉.

[DiegoSilva-dkio]

Dear Hampton I know you don’t know me or probably will never ever read this, but this is TOTALLY the video I needed for a long time now, and I just wanted to say, thank you.

[Kris_Makes_Videos_at_am]

For whatever it's worth...

I'm secretly rooting for all my lonely brethren and sistren in the comments.

You are loved, talented, and anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend. You have a LOT to offer. Don't give up!

Every 'failed' friendship or relationship is gradually narrowing down the pool of people who will truly change your life for the better.

You got this! You have an army of people here to support you.

[maxjm]

It's like he read my emotions and uploaded this could not have been better timing.

[snowfang]

I feel lonely long before covid, but it got worst during the pandemic and the worst part is that I prefer to be alone. With all of this, I created a social phobia. The more lonely I feel, more away I am from people.

[anyoneelsebutme]

I think something important to add to the sometimes it's our fault part is sometimes, you might be too unwilling to open up about yourself. Maybe due to trust problems, or you're just too closed off in general. I couldn't trust anyone enough to open up to for a long time and it made me seriously lonely. Thanks for the video, Hampton!

[BrumalWildling]

Loneliness is not about being alone, it's most likely about not being around the right people.

[anonimettalontana]

From calisthenics to life philosopher back and forth. A very well rounded dude and pleasant to listen to.

Loneliness isn't about the number of people you've around you but the inability to be comfortable with the most important person in your life, namely yourself.

[JP-veor]

I recently went through my mom's old pictures and was struck by how long she kept a core group of friends who stayed in the neighborhood and they all got together on a regular basis even through middle age. I actually envy that. Also, I just realized I'm overdue to invite some friends over for a night of crafting. 🙂

[FabreezeFresh]

Couldn't have picked better timing my friend, still reeling from a long term relationship that ended, this definitely helps me on those nights that are harder than most, thank you Hampton.

[subhasrevankar]

I literally was crying about being lonely hours before u uploaded the video. Thank you Hampton.

[rGt]

When I feel lonely I remind myself that my friend has just married his lovely fiancé so I need to back off a bit and hopefully one day there comes a new coffee episode :)
Thank you so much, dear friend, I really struggle with loneliness so much these days... I need to try building my little community, can't live like this =_=

[MissM_PsychCrime]

Congratulations on your wedding. I hope it was everything you both wished for and more.

I seem to have been guided to your page at the exact right moment. I have felt truly lonely lately as I was diagnosed with a medical condition that causede to give up my career.

Your words helped me so much and I truly thank you. I could honestly listen to you all day, and I like everyone else, look forward to many morning coffees together.

[vivi-msgr]

“We are all working on ourselves. We’re all on some path of self-improvement, in some way. So it’s okay. You’re definitely not alone.”
Your words always give me a different perspective on things, thank you so much for the time you put into helping other people such as myself :)

[lwallace]

My honey passed on 9-21-21. And I am lonely. So I look forward to hearing from you.

[saladinthedark]

This guy manages to be so soft and gentle while also ruthlessly disintegrating your ego. Good content.